Date: 3/28/2001 7:28:00 PM
From Authorid: 25390
Don't listen to them! I know this sounds so cliche but it's true when they say "they're not really your friends if they're pressuring you to do something you don't want to." That is such a serious statement. Sex is SO serious. Don't be in such a rush. Here's something to think about: if you wait, you won't have to suffer as much hurt and you will be one of the very few who can say, "i waited." I'm 19 and haven't had sex yet. Yet I wasn't an outcast at all in High school. Those who are your true friends will respect what you have to say. =odd=  |
Date: 3/28/2001 7:31:00 PM
From Authorid: 19342
Give yourself some credit!
If you know this is not right for you , dont do it!
Be yourself!
Good luck!
Stargazer.  |
Date: 3/28/2001 7:32:00 PM
From Authorid: 28848
Okay, unless you live in a really small town, high school is nothing like Middle school. People in high school usually are older and more mature. DO NOT let them pressure you into having sex, PLEASE. When you get to high school you will find out that there are other people that don't have sex. The people that are most important to you will respect your decision. If the people that are pressuring you are your "friends" then maybe you need to start hanging out with someone else. CPM  |
Date: 3/28/2001 7:35:00 PM
From Authorid: 29781
don't ever do anything you don't feel is right. trust me when school is over you'll regret it. I didn't have sex until i was 21. I'm glad too because i am marring my first this October. (i ddn't wait for religious reasons or marriage) I waited until i found someone i truly loved and made it special. actually throughout high school and college alot of people though it was cool i was still a virgin. In fact most of the girls i talked with said they wished they had waited...they were either high, drunk ,or just wanted to get it over with and regret it now. wait til it feels right for you it's tough when your young but by following your own heart will only make you stronger. just my thoughts... :)
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Date: 3/28/2001 7:37:00 PM
From Authorid: 30318
don't you dare do something that you don't want to do!!!being who you want to be should be good enough to be in the "in crowd" and your friends should love you whether you're a virgin or not! having sex with someone for the first time should be done when YOU think its time, not when some stupid girls in the "in crowd" think it's time. i didn't have sex until i was 17 and all of my friends respected me for it and said that they wished they had saved it for someone special. i held on to my virginity for dear life beacuse i knew that when i was ready, it would be with someone very special to me. and you know what? we were together for 5 years and had 2 kids together and are still very good friends, and to this day i have no regrets about saving my virginity for him. so, don't have sex unless YOU want to, okay? and by the way, when i say be choosey when picking your sex partners...be just as choosey picking your friends...dayzie  |
Date: 3/28/2001 7:41:00 PM
From Authorid: 10030
Uh uh, groups and cliques= BAD. Never do something to just fit in. Be yourself. ANd sex at 14? Dont let yourself be pressured, wait till *you* are ready...not some guy...cuz you know if he only want to sleep with you to get some...he WILL ditch you right after. Babes, plaease be yourself and only yourself, never give in to peer pressure.  |
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Date: 3/28/2001 7:42:00 PM
From Authorid: 29404
Well, try tellling them, "No thank you, I'm not into risking my life with Aids", or "I'm saving myself till I get married", or "I'm not into peer pressure, so lay off", or "read my lips, I said NO...", or "maybe after high school, but I'm too young to get pregnant", or if they tell you, "You can't get pregnant the first time", or "We can do it standing up and you won't get pregnant"...Tell them, "I'm not that ignorant, you know that's not true, and if you don't believe it, or care, we can talk to the principle"
Of course, you might lose most of you freinds, but who cares? With friends like that, who needs enemies, right? Besides, in high school most people don't even know each other, so you'll have nooo problem making new friends and being "in". If getting layed is part of being "in", with them, they've got serious problems. Besides, all they good guys won't expect you to be experienced, and in fact will probably see you as a whore if they find out you are hanging out with girls and guys that sleep around, even if you don't, they will assume that you have. After all, "Birds of a feather flock together". That means, if you hang out with drug addicts, for example, then chances are YOU are also a drug addict. See? A girls reputation is just about all she has at your age, till you are in college, at least. Trust me don't give in. One thing thoughout history has not changed and never will, is any girl that has been used is most likely never agin respected or treated with decency. Think about it, and if they really put the pressure, I suggest you speak to your parents about it, or the school counciler. Looking back I remember all the girls that slept around are now, most of them old looking and have lots of kids. It's pretty sad, but they just mad the wrong choices. Arenakitty...God bless you. |
Date: 3/28/2001 7:42:00 PM
From Authorid: 28767
Hun, whatever you do don't give in. Middle school always hads problems, like raging hormones. Everyone is starting to date and go out. It's a pretty confusing time. But don't sleep with someone until you know you are truly ready. When i was in middle school kids were saying the same thing. I was kinda influential too. But i told them, you can go around and sleep with whoever you want to, but i'm "not" going to be the girl who is pregnant or stuck with AIDS. You shouldn't do anything youdon't want to do!! That's that. I waited till after highschool for my first time and i didn't regret it one bit. Remember though be careful and wait until your ready, you will know. Snowy  |
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Date: 3/28/2001 7:44:00 PM
From Authorid: 10030
BTW...middle school will most likely be the worst years of your life, HS and MS are nothign alike. People are rying to find themselves in MS...and not doing a very goos job. They judge, hurt and destroiy people for self ish reasons. Highchol is better, even thoyugh there are still insecure people, the number is much less. It is slot easier to be yourself too..if you try |
Date: 3/28/2001 7:55:00 PM
From Authorid: 13729
OK, I will speak bluntly, so please dont be offended. You say you are so scared of being an outcast in High school, that you want to be in the "in crowd". Instead of that, why dont you be scared of contracting A.I.D.S or any other of the various sexually transmitted diseases we have in the world today? Did you know that one out of every four people who are sexually active have herpes? Or how about genital warts? Would you still be in the "in crowd" if you had any of these things? I dont think so. Life is a long and trying road and at your young age you shouldnt risk it to impress others. Remember this quote "To thy self be true". Follow your heart and do what it, not others, tells you to do....  |
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Date: 3/28/2001 8:12:00 PM
From Authorid: 31687
You already know the answer. It's NO and don't let anyone ever and I mean ever push you into doing something you know you really don't want to do. Fourteen is way too young to be sexually active. You've heard" your body is a temple"? So treat it as one. Don't allow anyone try to take it from you. I would rather be an outcast than to let another person try to control me. Be your own self. Being a Virgin is nothing to be ashamed of. Give yourself credit you deserve the best and will only accept the best, not the most. Their is plenty of time for you to deal with this subject and it's your decision not your peers. As you mature you will understand that sex isn't something you easily pass around. It has consequences like pregnancy,std's,some can be cured some not. HIV/AIDS, is being one of the so called "In Crowd" worth dying for? I hope this helps. love,"the mother hen"LOL Pink Dogwood |
Date: 3/28/2001 8:27:00 PM
From Authorid: 20669
I know what you are going through. I feel it too.
The best advice i can give you is to just be yourself and who you are. Listen to your heart, and do what YOU think is right, because in the end you are the one who is going to benfit. not them. if you're ever in chat, talk to me sometime k? :)  |
Date: 3/28/2001 8:30:00 PM
From Authorid: 27051
14!!!!! So am I, and I don't care! It a major thing, don't listen to them!!!! -Dude of war  |
Date: 3/28/2001 9:06:00 PM
From Authorid: 21132
These people are but a passing moment in your life right now, don't let them control you into doing something you know in your heart is wrong. Talk with your parents or a trusted friend, but please don't listen to these people..... INDIVIDUALITY, Be Your Own Person : )  |
Date: 3/28/2001 9:41:00 PM
From Authorid: 8224
I'm going to be very blunt here - next time someone says to have "sex" tell them that you did not come into this world to be a receptical for any one - what you are looking at is another version of "misery loves company" - in other words, the guilty want you to join in their guilt - these are not your friends and you'd be wise here and now to see it, understand it and get on with your life - anyone can have sex but it's those who wait that are the real true "individuals" in life. Why join a crowd of losers - you better then that and as for becoming an outcast- don't you believe it. Many say no and still remain popular and that's because they choose to walk their own path in life with or without any one's approval of dis-approval. You've always known you were above it all, now prove it by continuing on in the same direction and as for the others, their the ones who have to pay the price in the end - not you. Antona
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Date: 3/29/2001 11:12:00 AM
From Authorid: 19726
Stand up for what you believe in - that is what I did! YOu know you are too young to have sex - and that is an awesome accomplishment! If you say "NO, and stop asking!" enough, they will, and as your friends grow older (mentally), they will respect and appreciate your feelings on the subject. And if they get an STD, or become pregnant, they will wish they were like you! My advice is to not step down! Stand up for yourself, and don't worry too much about high school. If your school system is like more school systems, you will have a pool of junior high schools going into your high school. You will meet a ton of new people! Good luck to you! I know I am proud of you, and you should be proud of yourself! - Livvie |
Date: 3/29/2001 11:37:00 AM
From Authorid: 30862
O.K. if your friends jumped off a bridge would you???? Why would you even talk to someone that was trying to get you to do things that you didn't wanna do?? That's totally ridiculous and I wouldn't even consider having someone to be my friend and they tried to do something like that to me.Better yet they wouldn't even be my friend. I wish one of my friends tried something like that to me 'cause if they did, they would'nt be alive today and that's my word ya heard. ma-ma  |
Date: 3/29/2001 2:32:00 PM
From Authorid: 13619
Don't fall into that! Stand up for your self you have to show them that you rule your life and not them. Simply tell, NO! I don't want to and end of discussion. You are not going to get pointed at in High School, believe me you are not. One thing you do have to know, don't be their prey, don't let them pressure you. Put an end to it! You will feel much better when you have sex with someone you care about and you think it's time, don't rush it to please others.  |
Date: 3/30/2001 10:53:00 AM
From Authorid: 11749
OH man! I totally know how you feel! But ya know what? One of my best friends got pregnant and I kinda used that as an excuse. For example, "My best friend is pregnant and I really don't want that to happen to me. So no thanks!" Either that, or I wouldn't put myself in situations where I would cave under pressure. (parties, etc.) so, just be strong! And don't be afraid to say no, cuz in the end, you will totally be happy that you said no. I promise! And don't worry about the whole clique thing in high school. If you're going to a big high school, you will most undoubtedly find people who want to say no. Just like you! And that way, you'll be popular with your own group! Hope I helped! And be strong! ~CaitieAnjel  |
