Date: 4/18/2001 8:01:00 AM
From Authorid: 8428
to a little extent sure.i think it is fellow kids who drive kids to bad things.  |
Date: 4/18/2001 8:19:00 AM
From Authorid: 20873
NO way, I dont think so for example yesterday my daughter got caught skipping a class for over an hour, I asked her and she said she did it because she didnt like the teacher, well I went to the office to make sure she went were she didnt want to go.... she didnt get suspened she got the off campus thingy instead, she was mad a t me so I said hey you do the crime you do the time, i dont feel sorry for you at all. And if she ever pulls that again...... that wil be her butt,I wil not be held responsible for anything she does, i am a stay at home mother..... her things were taken away last night, make-up. boombox, cd's, every hair product and every thing she likes!!!!!!!including hair clips........ i am real strict on my children and i cannot believe she just skipped just because she wanted to!!! THANKS, I FEEL BETTER NOW. DINA  |
Date: 4/18/2001 8:26:00 AM
From Authorid: 28946
i think it depends on the circumstance. if the parents really tried doing their job then no, the kids should be held accountable alone. but if the parent ignored wrong doings and or kept bailing the kid out no matter what the offense, then the parent and child should be held accountable. my opinion. my kids are grown and i've always felt this way. so many parents i see won't punish their kids. some are afraid the law won't let them and others don't believe in spanking. you posted a great question!!! penny44  |
Date: 4/18/2001 8:27:00 AM
From Authorid: 26227
I totaly agree with the author. Parents have raised their kids the best that they can. If the kids do wrong they should be punished. By punishing them maybe they will learn right from wrong.  |
Date: 4/18/2001 8:47:00 AM
From Authorid: 31707
I believe that parents should not be punished, the child should be, and to the far extent also. when my mom found out I chewed GUM in class my sophmore yr of high school, I had to stay in the basement room that was finished off, I had one uniform for school that I could use, but no more, and no jewlelry, or hair products or makeup i could shower get dressed goto school, come home goto the basement room, that happened for a week.  |
Date: 4/18/2001 9:02:00 AM
From Authorid: 31673
It just depends. There are some parents who just don't pay much attention to their children and don't really care what they do. In those cases, they should be held responsible. If they're not going to teach their children correct behavior and be aware of what their children are doing, then they should be punished. My nephew has a friend who practically lives at their house. He's there all day and his parents won't call for him until 9pm or later! (My nephew's friend is only 10!) My sister will kindly try to tell him that it's bedtime and he needs to go home and he always says, "No I don't. My parents don't care if I stay here." Then when they do call, they always ask whether their son has been over as if they aren't exactly sure where he's at. If that kid becomes a criminal at 15 or 16, I think the parents should be held responsible for not giving a rip about him, where he goes and what he does all day!  Melodious  |
Date: 4/18/2001 10:35:00 AM
From Authorid: 6134
Parents SHOULD be responsible as well as the child.  |
Date: 4/18/2001 10:53:00 AM
From Authorid: 12637
I don't know? Some parents don't do anything. SOme do alot. Basically people need to think alot more about what having a child is, and not just having them all the time so that they can Fulfill their lives. I'm bitter today. Ryphis  |
Date: 4/18/2001 12:40:00 PM
From Authorid: 27678
What a lot of parents aren't realizing is that no matter how much they attempt to instill values into their children, as soon as the children go the school, there is a barage of information and attempts, openly and in a more subtle manner, to override those values. Parents shouldn't be held responsible for their children's actions, unless, there is undisputeable proof that the actions of a parent led directly to the actions of a child, for example, if a parent left a weapon where a child could get it. Free Girl  |
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Date: 4/18/2001 2:10:00 PM
From Authorid: 29919
The blame should never be put upon parents or anyone else. Everyone is responsible for their own actions. ~XxSuaveoO~ |
Date: 4/18/2001 3:57:00 PM
From Authorid: 5940
Well, like some have already stated, it depends on the circumstance. However, I agree that when children reach a certain age, they should be able to distinguish between right and wrong.  |
Date: 4/18/2001 4:15:00 PM
From Authorid: 6032
i agree with heylarry. the parents should be responsible for the childs actions up to a certain age. then they should know right from wrong. ~xfilesgirl96789  |
Date: 4/18/2001 6:38:00 PM
From Authorid: 27046
It all depends on whether or not the parent has set boundries and rules for a child and they understand that there are both good and negative consequences for every action......Azairyia  |
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Date: 4/19/2001 8:48:00 AM
From Authorid: 32789
children are no longer raised by their parents. they are raised by television, media and state run schools. so why would the parents be held responsible? funny, kids who are home schooled and not allowed into the world never do anything 'wrong'. |
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Date: 4/19/2001 7:35:00 PM
no no no no!!! i raise my kids right and if they screw up it's their own fault and NOT MINE!!!dayzie |
Date: 4/20/2001 10:52:00 AM
First of all, legally speaking, parents should be responsible for their minor children (up to the age of 18). Under the law, parents are required to provide them the necessaries of life (food, clothing, shelter); in addition to this, they must bring up the child to both listen to their authority, and to respect others and their property. The child must be taught the difference between right and wrong. It might be indelicate to put it like this, but kids are like dogs--they have to be trained.
In Manitoba, they have a new law called "The Parental Responsibility Act" which forces parents to make good on any damages caused by their minor children. This is something that should be adopted in every jurisdiction. Of course, the exception would be in cases where the minor child no longer lives in the parents' home, and is therefore no longer under the guidance of the parent.
The problem lies, I think, in the fact that parents are not allowed to parent without interference from others, including nosy neighbors who feel they have the right to get vocal when they disagree with something a parent has done to their child in regard to a punishment, and call in a social worker from a child welfare agency at a moment's notice.
Of course, the solution to parents that find themselves involved in a situation like this is to sue the interfering parties.
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Date: 4/20/2001 2:06:00 PM
From Authorid: 23796
Not all parents raise their children right. If their children are commiting crimes and wrong doings because of lack of parental guidance or neglect, then yes, I believe that the parents should be held responsible. But, in the cases of children being brought up in good homes, these children know better and should be held accountable for their actions. One should not assume that just because someone is a parent that they are GOOD parents. **ShadowVixn**  |
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Date: 4/23/2001 12:26:00 AM
Well, in the case of "good" homes with "bad" kids, perhaps the sitution that should occur is that the "good" parent should either make good for the damages, and punish the "bad" child accordingly (eg, make them work off their damages), or force the "bad" child to apologize to the person they wronged and then work something out to rectify the situation. A "good" parent will always make sure that there is a lesson learned... |
