Date: 5/13/2001 9:56:00 PM
From Authorid: 23207
Unfortunately until she wakes up there is nothing anyone can do. Please just continue to be there for her and let her know that you will be there. That is the best you can do for her right now. Keep giving the advice, even though she picks it apart. Hopefully she will begin to listen. Good luck and god Bless. I know how hard it is and I know she needs help right now. Just be there!   |
Date: 5/13/2001 11:44:00 PM
From Authorid: 30229
I agree with introubleintx...it has to be HER decision but you can always be there for her, that means a whole lot!! What a good friend you are ***Gail***  |
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Date: 5/14/2001 1:58:00 AM
From Authorid: 36281
When she asks for advise...I wouldn't give it anymore...I'd just tell her "you know my views on your situation, YOU have the choice and power to change...I'm here for you to talk, but I can't support your choice to stay in a abusive or destructive relationship." and leave it at that. Only your friend can make the decision to leave. You may have to stop the friendship to show you are serious. I'm guilty of the attraction to the "roller coaster" relationship & I know it's hard to leave the excitement...but, honestly...she prolly should seek professional help...You're obviously a good friend and I hope it works out for her...send her my support and caring from a stranger (who been there!!!!) ~Blueslurpee |
Date: 5/14/2001 8:45:00 AM
From Authorid: 13619
Unfortunally when someone hears it all the time from others and don't really see what everyone else is seeing, it's hard. I had it the same way, I was with him almost 5yrs and I had to learn myself. There is so much an outsider can do for it is really up to the person to leave and it doesn't happen all there is left for you to do is to be by her side and if she needs you be there. I am sorry to say but she has to do it herself. I have been there. Good luck and remember when she ask keep telling her, maybe some day she will see the light like I did.
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Date: 5/14/2001 9:02:00 AM
From Authorid: 29928
All you can do is keep being her friend, I know it hurts, but she needs you right now, more than ever...stand by her. All you can do is pick her up each time she falls and she will many times. You cant force anyone to fix what they cant see as broken. Just pray that she will see the truth and do something about it...good luck. Huggs, Pammie  |
Date: 5/14/2001 11:41:00 AM
From Authorid: 27004
Sweetie, I couldn't have said it better than everyone else whom has responed earlier... I myself have been in a horrible relationship and it took me 21/2 years to get out of it...*Moon & Star*  |
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Date: 5/15/2001 2:45:00 AM
From Authorid: 33902
Unfornately,sweetie,there is "nothing"you can do,but be there for her,and "listen".It is a sad thing about abused women.But until "they" want out of the relationship,all you can do is be as supportative of her as you can."She" is where she wants to be .And only "she" can break free.Sadly,most abused women think the man "loves me",but "you don't beat something you love".The line between love and hate is thin.Good Luck with your friend. Sincerely, Mrs. Lee |
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Date: 5/15/2001 6:08:00 PM
From Authorid: 26717
You cannot help a person that does not want to help themselves. I will never understand anyone being mistreated by anyone else. She evidently does not know what love is, its sad. I hope she will get some help. CORA |
Date: 5/16/2001 1:23:00 PM
From Authorid: 31515
I'm sorry to say that until your friend decides that she wants help, there is nothing you or anyone else can. Where she may complain to you about him being bad to her, she do want to see it herself. I have been in a relationship almost like this one and I complain about how I was treated. I hated to hear people telling me to leave him or get out of the relationship. Then one day I saw what everyone was trying to tell me, and until your freind get to this point your advice you give her don't seem like the answer. Ask your friend what kind of advice she would give you if you were in the same situation and see what she tells you.......Queen B  |
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Date: 5/19/2001 3:58:00 PM
From Authorid: 36662
i think u should tell her that she should go to the police |
Date: 12/1/2001 8:13:00 PM
From Authorid: 42841
im sorry hoe things work out  |
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Date: 12/1/2001 8:13:00 PM
From Authorid: 42841
sorry maent hope |
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Date: 12/1/2001 8:13:00 PM
From Authorid: 42841
Meant |
