Date: 6/24/2001 11:24:00 PM
From Authorid: 22082
i can't offer you much advice to you for this, other than if you DO decide to ask her to be your girlfriend, do NOT have a friend do it for you. It will mean a lot more coming from you.  |
Date: 6/24/2001 11:32:00 PM
From Authorid: 36928
i agree with what godlifter says, tell her yourself--
krazy2703  |
Date: 6/25/2001 4:59:00 AM
From Authorid: 27414
I would ask her how she feels about that kind of relationship without expressing that you want it. This would accomplish 2 things. You would KNOW how she feels AND you would consult her on the decision-making which is what a relationship is about anyway...pianoman  |
Date: 6/25/2001 8:45:00 AM
From Authorid: 35705
Um would u write her a letter and tell her how u feel. Not a poem, just a letter. Try that..why do girls hate guys for liking them. I dont feel that way when someone likes me, im just like ya ok, i understand but i dont like u...im like that...lets just hope she doesnt hate u, but first of all lets hope that she likes u too. peace *Livingdeadgirl*  |
Date: 6/25/2001 12:31:00 PM
From Authorid: 6817
DO NOT have another friend do it for you. There is nothin' worse than someone else comming up to me and saying "hey so and so likes you so much hes got feelin's for ya" and blah blah blah. Just tell her how you feel. If she hates you for it then she wasnt a very good friend in the 1st place.  |
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Date: 6/25/2001 12:32:00 PM
From Authorid: 6817
Letters are bad too. Better to do it face to face. |
Date: 6/25/2001 12:36:00 PM
From Authorid: 36459
Certainly do not have a friend do it. I would suggest that first you consider the pros and cons very carefully. Do you wish to risk the friendship for a more intimate relationship? What if you two never spoke again? Would confessing your feelings cost you the friendship. On the other hand, the gain may be worth the risk. Either way, be honest with whatever you sayn or don't say it.  |
Date: 6/25/2001 5:34:00 PM
From Authorid: 30786
I wouldn't go as far to say she'd hate you, but you do run a risk of changing the friendship. I would still go for it, though, so you'll never think "what if"...  |
Date: 6/26/2001 5:25:00 AM
From Authorid: 25658
I was in a situation pretty much the same and i'll tell you about it. I'm a girl and i had loads of girlfriends and a few guy friends but one guy was really special, i thought he was just a friend and we were always kissing and stuff just messing about, then one day he asked me out! I said yes because we were close and I didnt realise the feelings i had for him. We made the best couple for a while and i believe that i truly did love him with all my heart, but of course after a good few months he decided it just wasn't working. So we stopped seeing each other and now we dont have our friendship either (well not like it used to be). So you might think the advice im giving you would be to not ask her out but its not! I think you should ask her out because you might be perfect for each other! Although i miss the guy i went out with i would not turn back the clock and change the way it was for anything. There are some things in life where you have to take the risk!  |
Date: 6/26/2001 12:49:00 PM
From Authorid: 13619
I can tell you that from experience, that when it came between chosing my friend and making him my boyfriend, and we did what you did. I chose the friend. I could not bear to loose his friendship and we were ok. I rather have a good friend then a bad love. It's really up to you. I liked him but not really. So I know if I would have been his girlfriend it wouldn't have worked out and I would have hurt him. And guess what, we are still friends and that is it.  |
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Date: 6/29/2001 9:25:00 AM
From Authorid: 38137
I had the same problem last week except this was with a guy i have liked since I was 12 and me and another freind of mine use top meet him and his freind half way between houses and we would mess around and about a month ago I lost my best freind who was also good freinds with him and after the funeral i needed a shoulder to cry on and he let me cry on his shoulder and gave me hugs and held me until i felt a little better. We have now been seeing each other for a month and I have never been this happy. Give it a shot the worse that can happen is that she could not have feelings like that for you but let her know you still want to be freinds after all this is said.Daddies Angel |
Date: 6/29/2001 9:46:00 AM ( From Author )
From Authorid: 32659
Thank you to everyone that responded. I did end up emailing her the other day and telling her my true feelings. She said that she didn't want to advance our relationship because it would risk losing our friendship. Of course, she wasn't mad at me or anything. It was such a relief to finally be able to tell her, it was like getting a 6 ton weight off of my shoulders.  |
