Date: 8/2/2001 8:59:00 PM
From Authorid: 12006
2 or 3 years is a good age differenc; however, NEVER space your children 6 years apart. I have a sister 6 years older than me and a sister 6 years younger than me. We do not get along at all.  |
Date: 8/2/2001 8:59:00 PM
From Authorid: 33925
I think that you need to do what is right for you..not for your family! I had my first three each two years apart...and there is 3 and a half years between my third child and the fourth. I found it much easier with the last two...my daughter had plenty of attention before my youngest came along...mind you she was jealous there for a while since she had been the baby for so long...As I said before...Do what is right for you..you are the one raising them....xoxo  |
Date: 8/2/2001 9:02:00 PM
From Authorid: 35531
I have a sister 9 years younger than me. We do not know each other...sad but true. i see no harm in 3 to 4 years apart....rm  |
Date: 8/2/2001 9:02:00 PM
From Authorid: 7654
Nope, I say your right. Anyway you do what you think feels right for you. After all, are they going to be there all the time to help you out with two bables..Nope, when play time is over they'll go home.LOL..There are two years between my girls and with two years they both kept me running.Now, there is 5 years between my youngest daughter and son..It was easier on me but man do they fight like cats and dogs..I would say 3 years is perfect....  |
Date: 8/2/2001 9:03:00 PM
From Authorid: 22157
well me and my bro are 3 years apart and we get along like alot but yet we dont get along alot its hard to explain i think it would be wise to have them like 2 years apart that way there they always have a close bond-insanebread
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Date: 8/2/2001 9:06:00 PM ( From Author )
From Authorid: 30697
Thank you all so much I never thought that there would be so many different ways of looking at it. Thank you all so much you have really helped. Thanks |
Date: 8/2/2001 9:11:00 PM
From Authorid: 26303
Its such a hard decision, as their are pro and cons. As you say, you get to spend quality time with the first, and develop a good relationship. On the other hand, having a three gap (like with my boys) can cause problems. My eldest is extremely jealous of his little bro. He had my attention soley for so long, he has had trouble accepting that he has to share me now. It still happens and he is 9yrs old. My sister and I were only 11.5 months apart, and fought right up to adult hood. We get along great now, but the problems as kids were horrible. In hindsight, I think 2 years is probably a good gap. It will be tiring, but both can learn from each other. Whatever the decision you make, it can only be yours and your partners. I hope things turn out wonderful for you all.  |
Date: 8/2/2001 9:15:00 PM
From Authorid: 19220
My first and second child are 5 years apart. They get along great. My oldest gets kinda upset sometimes because all she has to play with are "babies". She is 9 and my son is 4. I also have a 2yr and a 1yr*birthday..today*. Now the younger ones have a wonderful time playing together. My son does like to have his private time though. I wanted to and did get pregnant with my third when my son was only 18mths old. I wanted them to be no more then 2 years apart. I think it all depends on the children. I know that sounds weird but thats what I believe. I'm sorry that this isn't that much help.  |
Date: 8/2/2001 9:27:00 PM
From Authorid: 21912
i think it's a good idea if you want to wait that long, it's up to you....my sister and me are 3 years apart and we got along just well...She was always there for me, and that way you can handle them both.  |
Date: 8/2/2001 10:08:00 PM
From Authorid: 31368
Well my first two were five and a half years apart which was tough because my oldest was so used to being the only child that their was a lot of jealousy when my second baby came. My second and my third are a year and a half apart which was tough because, like you said I don't have as much time to spend with the middle child as I did with my first. It was also tough having them both in diapers at the same time, financially as well as time consuming. My oldest daughter knew her abc's, colors, numbers, who the first president was, who freed the slaves, etc.... all before she was two. My second child doesn't know half of that because I have to spend so much time tending to the baby. My brother, sister, and I are each three years apart, and My mother said it was perfect. Just when one was heading off the school, she could start working with the next one. Of course every mother is different but I letting you know how it worked for me. You should do what you feel is right not what others tell you to do. You know yourself so don't underestimate your own opinion. ***Shelly***  |
