Date: 8/2/2001 9:00:00 PM
From Authorid: 30743
Oh gosh, LadyLuck, I don't know why people do certain things, it is a mystery to me. Especially those that willfully harm children, knowing they are doing it. And this boy being a child himself... I just don't know. I will keep the parents and both boys as well as the boy who did these terrible things, and also your son and you in my prayers. I just cannot imagine what you all are feeling. I am sorry it happened... Love ya, Mommy! BIG MONKEY HUGS, God Bless,  |
Date: 8/2/2001 9:06:00 PM
From Authorid: 33922
Lady..this is a truly sad msg...some parents don't care and have good kids...some don't care and have bad.....some parents are good and have bad kids....some good parents have good kids...ppl are who they are it is so sad to see a child you know and love have theese probs....I feel for you and yours and the child and his family....I don't really know how I would explain it to my son...maybe throught the understanding that puberty hits some boys harder and the temptation of the sex drive can be much stronger  |
Date: 8/2/2001 9:06:00 PM
From Authorid: 26303
OMG that is terrible. Makes you wonder what goes thru the minds of the molestor. I feel for you and your son. I don't know how you can make him understand, who can? My thoughts are also with the families who have been hurt thru this. I sincerely hope your son can get over this hurt. *hugs*  |
Date: 8/2/2001 9:08:00 PM
From Authorid: 7654
I know it feels like your heart has sank.You know sometimes kids get bored and do things that they normally would not do. We just don't know what makes people tick..It is so sad.  |
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Date: 8/2/2001 9:11:00 PM
From Authorid: 30697
That is terrible. It makes you wonder how they can change in a blink from a good kid to a troubled person. |
Date: 8/2/2001 9:11:00 PM ( From Author )
From Authorid: 33925
I just cant believe it about this boy! If you all knew him you would understand what I mean..He used to be at my house 24/7...he was a good boy! Honour roll at school, very active in Sports...the whole nine yards..then we got the news about this...All I can do is sit and think...those poor little boys...those poor parents..Of all the boys! I know this boys parents very well and I know that they are probably devastated..he is their youngest of 4 children..the other three are grown and gone....xoxo  |
Date: 8/2/2001 9:22:00 PM
From Authorid: 30986
I'm sorry to hear this lady luck!! I dont' know what makes people hurt kids. They need help is all I can say. He is basically a kid himself, is he not? Maybe he was abused and the family isn't as nice as you think and it's a cry for help. Nobody broadcasts that they are a child molester, no one believed my upstanding citizen of an uncle would do that to me either, they still dont' believe me. But I think the boy needs help. love and hugs,  |
Date: 8/2/2001 9:22:00 PM
From Authorid: 16845
ok, first off, I know EXACTLY how you guys feel, believe it or not my friend and I have been through the same situation. we'll call my friend sara for protection reasons *She's not on here but still* and the guy Greg....well Greg is a year older than myself and two years older than sara. Greg was the type of guy I loved, ok, I had a huge crush on him, and I thought sara did too, heck she pretended like it. And so when Greg would come over *Greg's parents were friends of sara's* Sara told me to stay and hang out, which was fine with me! I loved greg, heck when sara wasn't around, greg and Iwould go and hang out together at my house or take walks ect....anyway sara moved for a few years because her dad got transferred, then and only then I learned tha the reason sara wanted me to always be there was because greg had been molesting her when the two of them were by themselfs. and believe it or not I BLAMED myself!!!!! as I look abck on it, all the little comments she made to me, one here andone there, it was all there, I just never put two and two together...*Sigh* that was...gosh....five years ago that the truth finally came out, sara moved back about four years ago, and none of us associate with greg or his family anymore....  |
Date: 8/2/2001 9:37:00 PM
From Authorid: 30621
Hello Ladyluck! I almost wrote a post like this two months ago. A nieghbor kid who my son became friends with was accused of molesting his little sister. This kid was two years older than my son, but his social skills were way below average. Very polite and held down two jobs, went to school and took care of his sister in his free time. He had no outside life besides his jobs. My son was his only friend. I felt sorry for this kid because his mom and stepdad would not alow him to be a child. When his little sister went to school and told this unspeakable thing I assumed it wasnt true. I thought she had said something that was taken the wrong way and blown out of poportion. The kid was not alowed to go home till his trail, so instead of having him stay in jail I took him in. To make a long story short , he did do it and his mom and dad knew he did. The sad thing was was the parents were trying to keep him out of jail so he could keep working to help support there beer habit. My son and I were used. My son cryed for a week. His whole aditude has changed over it all. He hates the kids whole family (who he use to spend a lot of time with). Sometimes we miss the signs. This kid thought his little sister owed him this because she was the reason he could not go anywhere in his free time. I tryed talking to my so about this kids mixed up mind. I even explained how it was his parents fault(which it was). But my son like yours is hurt. It's goin to take time. I myself am still very hurt and very angry with the fact we were used and lied to by him and his parents. It's goin to take time. I've done alot of praying for myself and my son so we can both heal and try to forgive. So far I cant and my son wont budge. God bless. And I do feel for you. Sorry it happened. luvs....  |
Date: 8/2/2001 10:27:00 PM
From Authorid: 31368
Oh, Lady Luck, I am so sorry for you and your son, (and all concerned). All I can say is maybe try to explain to your son that there are many reasons this boy did this. My first guess would be that he had been molested. Even though they know how it feels they sometimes do it to others because that is what they know. He could possibly have never been molested, but in most circumstances this is the case. I know how it feels to think you know someone so well only to find out they have been molesting children. It's an awful feeling to think, I should have been able to see it, but you and I both know that some of the most abusive people can seem like wonderful, loving people to the outsider. It seems like we can never make sense of something like this but try to let your son know that his friend has a problem and he needs help with it and there was nothing he could have done if he didn't know. Becky, I hope you are not still blaming yourself. You were young and you didn't see the signs. My mother was an adult and she didn't see the signs of a man we knew who was eventually arrested for this. It's not easy to see the signs unless you are the victim. If it was easy your friends parents would have seen them. The only one to blame is the one who did it. You and your family are in my thoughts Ladyluck. ***Shelly***  |
