Date: 10/5/2001 8:35:00 PM
From Authorid: 23101
It is a frindly place tpo be and YOU can say HI to them first you know... And ANOTHER think is that there are alwsays SOOO amny people in the chat room that there are always people missed! :) Love,  |
Date: 10/5/2001 8:41:00 PM
From Authorid: 35720
I always make sure to say hi to everyone who enters the chatrooms. If I was there, the result of your experiment would be different. :) It all depends who's there at the time.  |
Date: 10/5/2001 8:42:00 PM
From Authorid: 7089
i lurk all the time in chat, & tho it does get irritating sometimes-- mainly 'that time of the month', hehehe --that no one seems to see me, hey, if i wanted to be seen i would be friendly upon entering. i'm just kinda reserved by nature; it takes time for me to warm up to ppl. cheers,  |
Date: 10/5/2001 8:43:00 PM ( From Author )
From Authorid: 11199
little jung that is not the point. i am always saying hi to evreyone. this was part of an experiment. if this is how we treat someone who has been here for a while, what does it say to how we are treating someone who is still new and who doesnt have the hey i'm new tag on them anymore. or to somepne who has been gone a long time. it shouldn't matter how full the chat room is. everyone is too involved in there own petty concerns and think that someone else will say hi. it should be a concern for everyone to see that a friendly voice is there at all times. even some of the admins don't notice someone coming in. and if a person is at their wits end and comes here for comfort, we aren't giving it.  |
Date: 10/5/2001 8:43:00 PM
From Authorid: 31255
well ok. This is my thoughts on things... sometimes people dont say hi when you just drop in and say nothing because people come in real quick and just leave. I am famous for that! So you gotta say hi and get to know people... its a two way thing. you can't expect everyone to say hi to faces they dont recognize... while it would be nice... it just isnt gonna happen. Bye hi to you :)  |
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Date: 10/5/2001 8:47:00 PM ( From Author )
From Authorid: 11199
Toodles, when i first stared coming here a yar ago. No one went away unnoticed. even in a full chat room with a fight going on or a party. we have become unfriendly. like i said it was an experiment. no one is perfect. i posted this in hopes that together we will beware of what is going on and try to be more friendly and not leave up to the next person |
Date: 10/5/2001 9:44:00 PM
From Authorid: 8428
either ur part of the crew or ur not.it was friendly back then becuase fewer ppl should mean everyone knows everyone but know with those teens comin along this site is going down.  |
Date: 10/5/2001 10:28:00 PM
From Authorid: 3538
Yes,I know what you mean.I don't really go into chat anymore,just to pop in and say hi once in a while.  |
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Date: 10/5/2001 10:47:00 PM
From Authorid: 35720
No one here is unfriendly! I have shared my problems with many and they all support me! I might not be the most popular person on USM, but I know everyone is here for me. Again, I ALWAYS say hi to anyone who enters the chat room. Most of us are very friendly here! Maybe you just came in at a bad time.. ??? |
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Date: 10/5/2001 11:13:00 PM ( From Author )
From Authorid: 11199
pepe that is precisely the point. the teens who are now coming to the sight are being rude and are trying to pick fights and in the process of trying to stop fights people are being ignored. like or not this sight is not what it used to be. we have always had kids and teens. but somewhere along the way something went wrong. it seems like the teens are running the place. i have met some of the teens nowadays and they are like that in public, in school, at home. they live to pick fights, and if you say something like play nice or lets all get along. they turn on you and tell everyone that you are picking on them. i know that not all teens are like that. but a growing majority are. is it wrong to expect usm to be friendly and not walk into chat almost everytime to find a fight. |
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Date: 10/5/2001 11:16:00 PM ( From Author )
From Authorid: 11199
rika, i have been coming to the sight for 18 months. there are a lot of fights which cause everyone to pay attention to the fight and not to be friendly. as i was saying this is an experiment. a friend of mine came here and wont come back because of the fights and because the fights are more important than making people feel welcome. i have been given a lot of support here. i know that there is a lot of love here. but sometimes we all tend to get wrapped up in her own little world and forget others. i dont want this to happen at usm |
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Date: 10/5/2001 11:20:00 PM
From Authorid: 35720
Yes I do agree with you that some people have their own little "groups". Do you have a group of yours? I'm sure you do. I do not want anything like that happening to USM either, but I'm pretty sure it won't. :) It was a very interesting experiment. |
Date: 10/6/2001 3:16:00 AM
From Authorid: 30229
I am a former MSN Host/Sysop and I will say that in the old 2.5 chat, where it was monitored, when someone entered, there would be many many greetings, even if they didnt know the person entering... AND all one had to do was say... "bye bye all" and there would be just as many 'goodbyes' to the person... People were really friendly to newbies, and shy ones too... I have seen really shy kids come in and within a week, the "crew" would have that shyness worked out of that person...lol... So it is up to the older ones to make the new ones feel welcome!!!! I mean, if you went into a party of your peers and knew no one, but they all knew each other, would it not make you feel much better if they included you in from the start???? And as far as the "groups" go... How do you know that this newbie wont be a very special member of this group in a month???? Well they wont, if you older members dont give them a chance... This is all from my experiences and I am not putting anyone on USM down, because I rarely go into chat, and when I do, I get talked to... BUT I think it is because they all know my name from the thousands of replies I give, lol.. GREAT Post DWW!!!!! Thanks :)  |
Date: 10/6/2001 7:59:00 AM
From Authorid: 39321
When I first joined I went into chat and was very ignored. I have my own chat sight off of USM so I go there. It realy did bother me at the time, but no biggy now. I'm still here and I'm not goin anywhere. ~(Megan)The.Inspiration~  |
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Date: 10/6/2001 9:23:00 AM ( From Author )
From Authorid: 11199
that is my point exactly people get ignored in chat, and when you are new you really need to be made known that you are welcome and to be made part of the family. And it is also true in month that new person may beceome your best bud. Can't say I have a clique because i tend to talk to everyone and I try to break up the fights. But it is very frustrating to be new here and be totally ignored once the "hey I'm here" blinky appears by your name. Now I do have a few special friends here I won't deny that. But I tend to talk to everyone. I care about people. I don't here how old you are, what race you are, your religious ideals, your gender, or your preference. I think we all need to try to make this place a happy and friendly place, Full of love and hope. I just don't want someone to become lost in the cracks. Because that person maybe a new best friend. |
Date: 10/6/2001 9:58:00 AM
From Authorid: 8374
well first talk and then maybe some people will talk back  |
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Date: 9/1/2002 4:13:00 PM
From Authorid: 58219
k..theres nuthing wrong with the picture..ur experiment was..well..lacking of science reason lol..just cuz no one said hi to u dont mean that everyone's all ignorant and not cool..u cant expect everyone to drop all their convo's just to say hi..besides..u never know wos coming into the chat to talk..or if they accidently clicked the button and if that happened..and they got out right away..u wouldnt know that either..so u gotta make ur presence more visbile yo! ur experiment was useless..and it proved nuthing but ur lack of common sence...im sorry to say but that experiment was not truthfull to prove anything....~*AwEsOmEa ChIcA*~MJ |
Date: 6/27/2003 7:25:00 PM
From Authorid: 45367
I always had that in other chat rooms, but never here.  |
Date: 1/24/2004 9:28:00 PM
From Authorid: 9130
What's it like in there now, has it changed for the better, is it worse, or is it the same?  |
Date: 10/13/2008 1:51:00 AM
From Authorid: 42945
Hi DWW *waves* it sure has changed hun, everyone greets everyone coming in and says bye when they leave...:)  |
