Date: 3/21/2002 11:48:00 PM
From Authorid: 50791
Well I think if it made her feel uncomfortable then he shouldn't have done it and there should be no excuse. Even if he was playing maybe she doesn't play that way. He should apologize because it probably really hurt her feelings if she doesn't understand he is playing and especially if you took his side.  |
Date: 3/21/2002 11:50:00 PM ( From Author )
From Authorid: 21598
yes i know he should apologize.. i completely agree... :-)  |
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Date: 3/22/2002 12:16:00 AM
From Authorid: 50791
Your so cool! I hope you guys are still friends after this! |
Date: 3/22/2002 3:05:00 AM
From Authorid: 7333
Your b/f "play fights all the time and would never actually hit a girl with the intent to hurt her, he just wanted to make her angry, which he did do . . . . . yeah he did slap her." There didn't have to be a red mark on her face or for you to "hear anything about it the rest of the day." Of course your girlfriend "came back swinging and told him not to mess with her." How else was she supposed to react? He needed to be reported, with or without your permission, and suffer the consequences of his behavior. People like him aren't "playing," they're intentionally baiting people, hoping for a reaction. Then they put on the "oh I was JUST PLAYING" innocent act. And you're defending him? Has he ever "play fought and slapped" you? The day could come when this child "play fights and slaps" the wrong person and gets what's coming to him. How can "doubt she wants to be friends with me"? Perrianne
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Date: 3/22/2002 4:14:00 AM
From Authorid: 23796
Hitting someone, in any way is NOT okay. She has a right to feel upset and has a right to feel a friendship is betrayed. I know you ment well by defending your boy friend, but still, a wrong was done. There is such a thing as personal boundries and no person has a right to invade those personal boundries without permission, let alone physically. There is a point in suspention, it would teach him to stop behaving inappropriately. Play Hitting, but no means, is appropriate. Especially since, alot of people, aren't aware of their own power and unintentionally hurt someone. However, face hits, with many people and cultures is considered an insult. You just don't go there. Your boyfriend did it diliberatley to make her angry, that alone says its intention. It was not play, it was designed to provoke, therefore, it makes it abusive.  |
Date: 3/22/2002 5:29:00 AM
From Authorid: 25390
*agrees with Perrianne and Shadow* It doesn't matter how much he was playing. If he were really playing though, I would think that he would choose another body part to hit, such as an arm or something, but never a face. I think she has a reason to be upset, honestly. I am glad you stood up to her, however. However, I think this issue needs to be resolved between the three of you rather than battling it out on USM  |
Date: 3/22/2002 5:38:00 AM
From Authorid: 22852
Ig he is just playing to make her angry then to me he hit her and thats it. If he is doing this now what do you think he may do to you when you to have a fight? If a man strikes a woman they way he did then he will strike again, maybe next time he won't be playing. Make up with your friend because boyfriends come and go but best friends last a lifetime.  |
Date: 3/22/2002 7:06:00 AM
From Authorid: 943
Perrianne's answer "all the way". I had a guy who did these things, and always used the "I was kidding, you can't take a joke" act. It escalated to black eyes, stitches, and guns to my head. You're right...I can't take the joke. Do not defend him!!! That is why they think they are "cute". I call him a loser. Sorry.  |
Date: 3/22/2002 7:34:00 AM
From Authorid: 31765
I read this....closed it...and thought about it before I replied. This really struck a nerve with me, which is why I waited. He slapped her to 'make her mad'. Respectfully, I must say, that disgusts me. How dare he lay hands on anyone, regardless of his purpose? And whether or not he left a mark is beside the point. A beating with a rubber hose doesn't leave bruises...so does that make it excusable? I would say this boy needs help. Use this occurence as a wakeup call. Suppose he wants to make you mad someday. I normally don't bring emotion into my replies...but this does have me fuming. I can find no excuse for his behavior, and I won't even try. I can only say, for your own safety, I would re-evaluate this person. Best wishes.  |
Date: 3/22/2002 4:10:00 PM
From Authorid: 16155
Firt off, I did still want to be your friend. Even after all of this I still admire you as a truly good friend. Second, Yes you may not have seen a red mark but shannon did and it stung awhile afterards. I doubt you even paid that much attention to my face when i came back at him. Third, all of the people who respnded about hm "play fghting" are right. It is not right under any extreme. He has not right to come into "my bubble". Forth, how can you defend a guy who slapped your best friend? If it was my boyfriend him and I would not be together a second longer. And dont even tell me thats what i saynow butif it came dow to itid stillb e w/ him. And Lastly, I wasn't asking for your permission. I was going to do it either way but I decided I should give you fair warning. I love you a lot and it really hurts that you told me you wanted nothing more to do with me. It felt as if someone stabbed million knives in my back, pulled out my heart and then repeatidly stomped on it. I did say something to you about it that day, you prolly weren't listening to me though as usual. And you know me Shannon, im pretty good about him hitting me playfully, so then why would I be so ticked about it now? So yea now you know how i feel abut this whole thing.  |
Date: 3/22/2002 4:35:00 PM
From Authorid: 38507
Boys need to coress and treat women like flowers whether it be a friendly flower or more. You should havea talk with your friend and boyfriend and make sure nothing goes worng with either of their friendships. Much love.  |
Date: 8/25/2002 4:05:00 PM
From Authorid: 19927
gawd...boys AND men seem to act so immature these days.  |
