Date: 3/22/2002 7:25:00 PM
From Authorid: 49789
well, i don`t know how to make it go away, but i`v had it happen. i wanted the guy while they were dating and i guess in my mind i kept thinking up all these ways to break them up, but then later hated myself for even thinking it. they may break up on thier own and u might get a chance with him, but if they don`t, just remember it`ll go away eventually. a friend is always worth more than a guy.  |
Date: 3/22/2002 7:26:00 PM
From Authorid: 6050
I know that feeling all too well...Anyone happen to watch the syndicated rerun of Sabrina the teenage witch yesterday..prime example...Anyhow...I really don't know what will make it go away..but, i can understand how you are feeling...i've been there and experienced that! Hope someone gives you some helpful advice..all mine is...is...time and patience..and a whole lot of swallowing ur pride  |
Date: 3/22/2002 7:38:00 PM
From Authorid: 1443
I honestly can't tell you how to make it go away. I'm sorry. I have been there and it lasted years... Not that I am an obsessing person. But I had a male friend, whom I loved with all my heart. I felt that we would end up together. He got married, not to me, but when I heard that they had problems that he would come, well, he never has... I finally found a wonderful man who I plan to spend the rest of my life with. I didn't stalk the guy. I just always felt that he was my sole mate, maybe he was, we just werent ment to be married. I never tried to break up anyone he went out with, I dated. I just felt that good things come to those who wait. So, I guess I suggest that you look for someone else, even though you have these feelings, he may end up being a real jerk. So,consinder yourself lucky....  |
Date: 3/22/2002 7:38:00 PM
From Authorid: 5252
does 'kristen' know you like 'joe'? and if so, have you talked to her about if they did go out how you'd feel, and if you'd be comfortable with it? i think she should respect how you feel with this, but then again, i know many people don't!  |
Date: 3/22/2002 7:43:00 PM
From Authorid: 43200
i would talk to my friend about it,..... it happened to me once that me and my best friend liked the same guy, i talked to her about it and we decided that we would both not go for him... blue_fairy17  |
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Date: 3/22/2002 7:50:00 PM
From Authorid: 51786
I've had this exact thing happen to me before...Me and my boyfriend broke up and then he moved on to my best friend. It killed me to see them together and even hear her talk about him, b/c no matter what she said, it always sounded to ME like she was saying "He's mine now!" in code. Well, I was stupid to even think that about her b/c this was the best friend that had been there for me the whole way, and helped me through everything. But anyways, all I can say is to wait this thing out, and not do anything you'd regret in the end. I mean, if this friend is truly your best friend, shes worth a lot more than that guy. And plus, when its all over you'll find out if shes truly your friend and if he means as much to you as her. And if he truly dont, I think it'll all just go away. But whether you take my advice or not, be careful about what you do b/c you do not wanna ruin your friendship over a crush that may not be....Hope I helped! |
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Date: 3/22/2002 8:35:00 PM
From Authorid: 51707
does your friend now that you like this guy,,and if so ,,if she is a real friend she will stay away ,,just try to talk to her and let her know how you are feeling*lil_princess* |
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Date: 3/22/2002 8:43:00 PM
From Authorid: 6050
You can't be mad if he is someone you have a crush on and he just so happens to like ur friend...if they like each other why intervene in something that wasn't there as far as you and him...crushes are called crushes because they pretty much feel as if they are crushing ur heart when it doesn't turn into something you had anticipated...I'm sorry you like him and he likes ur friend...I don't believe in that off limits stuff..unless he's an old boyfriend of yours...I understand the anger u may be feeling..but, it's not their fault they like each other..it won't do any good to be selfish at this point :( |
Date: 3/22/2002 9:51:00 PM
From Authorid: 23367
tell "kristen" about it.......i'm sure she'll be understanding of your feelings. How is she to know if you dont tell her?  |
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Date: 3/23/2002 9:43:00 AM
From Authorid: 43312
harness that feeling and get close to 'joe' and talk to him, then kiss him. see what happens then |
Date: 3/23/2002 10:16:00 AM
From Authorid: 31410
just remember that if it is meant for you and joe to be together you will. if not, you won't. but in the meantime, just be happy for your friend, cause if you like him, he's obviously a good guy!  |
Date: 3/23/2002 6:29:00 PM
From Authorid: 30786
This is a tough situation. However, I feel that you have to swallow this thing. You have no claims on "Joe" because he was never your boyfriend, as hard as that may be to hear. If they get together, that is their right to do so. If this girl is really your good friend, then she may be willing to let him go for you. But would you do it for her? I know it will hurt to see them together, but you may have to tough it out and distract yourself. Sorry, and good luck  |
Date: 3/23/2002 6:40:00 PM
From Authorid: 51827
you have to understand we all have crushes and some workout but most do not. That is why they call them "crushes" they would not call them that if they were easy. They crush us. Me myself still are in love with my ex-boyfriend and it has been six months but I had to just let time heal the wound. Before you just give up and forget the situation maybe you should tell him how you feel. What could it hurt. Ten years down the road it may put a lot of suffering aside and pain, also you wish you would of. Maybe he is your destiny. you never know. keep posting on the updates please. stwf  |
Date: 3/23/2002 8:12:00 PM
From Authorid: 34865
Hey!! this happend to me a few weeks ago. Ok let ur friends go out...i know u don't want to , trust me, and i know u won't want to see them together, but u are gonna have to let them. I realized that the guy in my case is a terrible bf and i found someone new...keep ur eyes open u might be liking the wrong one. ~Sugar Honey  |
Date: 3/23/2002 10:38:00 PM
From Authorid: 49269
try and develop soemthing with another guy you know, ya neva know, you might end up lkliking im heaps more  |
Date: 3/24/2002 8:55:00 AM
From Authorid: 49889
Forget him. Just find someone else. Im sure there is someone out there JUST FOR YOU~FieryAngel~  |
44390 Category:(General Advice) Created:(3/22/2002 7:21:00 PM)