Cheating, lying??? What do I do?   Author:  32766  Category:(General Advice) Created:(4/3/2002 7:17:00 PM) This post has been Viewed (417 times) I meet who I beleived to be my soul mate. He was wonderful, a perfect gentelman, and he seemed to feel the same way. It was more or less love at first sight. I had meet his best friend and we were getting close and talking about dating. They came over to see me and John* brought James* over. John was the guy I was thinking about dating, and James was his best friend. James and I barely spoke two words the entire night, but we were both extremely attracted to eachother. The next time they came up I had invited my best friend Lisa* over to meet James. James and Lisa really didn't like eachother while John and Lisa were flirting constantly. By the end of the day we had switched dates and I was with James and Lisa was with John. James didn't want to be a couple, which I was fine with, because he had been in a bad relationship and it had soured his veiws of them. He lives about nintey miles away from me, but he came up often to see me. We both agreed that we loved eachother. We spoke every night and saw eachother as often as possible. After we had been dating for a while, he told me that his parents forced him to be a couple with this girl. (he's nineteen, she's sixteen, I'm sixteen, John is seventeen, and Lisa is sixteen, by the way) He told me that he didn't tell me earlier because he wanted to make sure I was truely in love with him. He then told me that he wasn't planning on staying with her, and that he only did it because if he didn't his parents would throw him out of the house. I told him that I could deal with it, since he said it didn't mean anything. A few months later he told me that his mother had bought an engagement ring for him to give to Ann*, the other girl, and that he had to give it to her. I told him that if he was going to be engaged I refused to go along with the relationship that we had been in. He and I got into an arguement about it, in which he said he wished he had never told me about her. In the end he agreed to break things off with her, so we stayed together. That was about three weeks ago. After that his best friend and he got into a fight, and they won't even look at eachother. Well John went and told James' parents about me, and James told them I was just a friend of his. When he told me that I asked him why he didn't just tell them the truth, since he had already broken things off with Ann, there was no reason for us not to be together. His parents had to know after all. He then informed me that Ann agreed to keep up appearance, pretending they were together. That bothered me and I kept asking myself what sort of girl would lie to protect a guy after finding out he had been cheating on her, lying to her, and never really wanted to be in the relationship anyway. Although he and I still talk all the time, he hasn't been back to see me since. I don't know if he's lying about everything, which I believe he is. I don't know what to do. Any advice will be appricaiated, but please don't tell me I don't know what love is, and I'm to young for this sort of relationship, because I do know what it is, and I relaize what this sort of relationship takes. I love him more than anything, I would do anything for him. I would give my life up for him. Please help me. *Names have been changed. Thanx and lots of love, Sweet&Sassy Ps.. sorry this is reposted... but I can't figure anyway that you can reply on the Serious Advice pages and I don't understand it.... thanx again... Sweet&Sassy PPS Managment if you see fit to delete one of these two posts please delete the one under Serious Advice. You can join Unsolved Mysteries and post your own mysteries or interesting stories for the world to read and respond to Click here Scroll all the way down to read replies. Show all stories by   Author:  32766 ( Click here ) Spring is coming