Date: 4/3/2002 11:07:00 PM
From Authorid: 4887
You go girl! Tell 'em how it is:D  |
Date: 4/3/2002 11:09:00 PM
From Authorid: 16845
*is waiting until marriage* LOL hmmm why do they want babies? good freaking question! need to give those girls who DO want them those dolls that cry ever half hour. LOL  |
Date: 4/3/2002 11:09:00 PM
From Authorid: 47699
I think I have an even better solution to the problem. It isn't expensive and it's really easy to do. Go to your local hardware store just buy one thing. It's called "Super Glue!" LOL.... 8D  |
Date: 4/3/2002 11:10:00 PM
From Authorid: 24003
Im a teen mom..and a darn(can i say that here?) good mother...so I suggest you dont judge all teen mothers. There are a few of us that are great moms.  |
Date: 4/3/2002 11:11:00 PM
From Authorid: 45684
ok i'm laughing at the freeeeeeeeeeee birth control...heh but seriously i don't think teens 'want' babies. But I do agree with you, babies don't just happen. As for the effect that it has on the children, that totally depends on the parent, just as it does if an adult has a child. Some teen parents will have no support and will not know how to raise a child. However, others do. My sister had her baby when she was 17. My niece is now 16, and one of the smartest, sweetest people I know. My friend who is 17 had her baby when she was 16. She is a better mother than a lot of mothers I see out there today. I guess not everyone is so lucky. ~technicolor  |
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Date: 4/3/2002 11:14:00 PM
From Authorid: 24003
Another thing...Im a better mother than alot of people I have seen twice my age. It all depends on how mature the person is. |
Date: 4/3/2002 11:16:00 PM ( From Author )
From Authorid: 9130
Technicolor-- there ARE teens that want babies. My fifteen year old cousin "Melissa" wants a baby really badly. Her parents are scared that she is gonna get pregnant-- she is not a responsible person at all...  |
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Date: 4/3/2002 11:17:00 PM ( From Author )
From Authorid: 9130
My mom was barely a teen when she had me. She was nineteen, and i know firsthand just how BAD teen mothers can be... maybe I should say YOUNG mothers... |
Date: 4/3/2002 11:17:00 PM
From Authorid: 15997
You know I totally agree with this post...but I got pregnant at 15...yes I was stupid and very very irresponsible...I look back now and I dont know why I did what I did...I dont know what I was thinking. I guess at that age you feel like you know everything. I see a lot of my friends having babies and now I'm just like "why???" A lot of girls want babies for all the wrong reasons. It's quite impossible to get through a young girls head when it comes to this issue...believe me I didnt listen to anyone. Every time I come across a young girl in the situation I was in I tell them straight out what it was like for me. I'm lucky I got another chance to live my life. Good Post!!!  |
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Date: 4/3/2002 11:17:00 PM ( From Author )
From Authorid: 9130
Frankenstien-- super glue...hmm. Interesting solution...LOL |
Date: 4/3/2002 11:28:00 PM
From Authorid: 21435
Hello Dizzy Me. Let me say, first of all, that I think your statement is right on. All good means of prevention. I think that: Your first solution, (Don't have sex) is the best and safest. Do this, and there is no problem. Unfortunately, most teens that are "too" young, are trying to hide the fact that they are having sex. So, that's scrathes the doctor. Mayhap we can sneak over to the clinic with out mom and dad knowing and get, "the pill."..Maybe?....Ok, the debate....I think that most of the teens really don't want the babies, they just want the sex...Same as countless generations before them. When the hormones hit...well, yea know....lol..As for the effect on the children..If the parents stay together and raise the children, (sometimes difficult to do) then the kids will probably be alright. If not, then yes..broken homes..parents hating each other..very likely will hurt the children...In conclusion..(finally)..Wait until everything is in order...No spontaneous sex..you teens...lol..Good one Dizzy Me..A very important message in your debate. Write on....  |
Date: 4/3/2002 11:36:00 PM
From Authorid: 22080
blame the parents usually it has to do with comeing from a broken home or not feeling love at home  |
Date: 4/3/2002 11:43:00 PM
From Authorid: 16916
Im 16 and never had sex, this doesnt apply to me *walks out and shuts door quietly*  |
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Date: 4/3/2002 11:50:00 PM
From Authorid: 16916
Wait yes I can say something , My mother had 2 children in her teens my brother at 17 and me at 19, God could not have given my a better mother. And every day I THANK GOD because of all the mommies in the world God gave me to her. SO I dont know where you get off saying that you know how teen mothers can be. Dont generalize so much. :) Ok im done :) |
Date: 4/4/2002
From Authorid: 45551
the number of teen pregnancy's is high, no doubt about that!! but the number of teen moms is not as high as one might think. the number used for the number of pregnancies is only that, if you were to minus miscarriges and of course, everybodys favorite, abortions, the number actually falls dramaticly.  |
Date: 4/4/2002 1:24:00 AM
From Authorid: 21867
Yo Dizzy,
Yup...and what I don't get is the amount of young guys who refuse to wear a condom...like HELLO...would ya rather not only risk catching something nasty but also maybe having a HUUUUGE responsibility in the form of a baby??? Gees...I remember when I was a teenage...I met the father of my girl-friend at the time. He sat me down at the kitchen table and looked at me with a smile and said "Boy, I'd really like to discuss birth control with you" he then plonked a pair or rose-clippers on the table and said "See these clippers young man...if you EVER have any ideas about my daughter, I'll perform THE most effective birth control there is" I think what scared me the most was that he was calmly smiling as he said it too...  |
Date: 4/4/2002 1:37:00 AM
From Authorid: 28946
Frank and Agent Smith's comments show some pretty effective methods of birth control. LMBO!  |
Date: 4/4/2002 1:59:00 AM
From Authorid: 21867
Yo Penny,
Hey buddy...it worked for me:) I can't even look at a pair of rose-clippers the same anymore...always sends a shiver up my spine...and a slight twinge to other areas:) |
Date: 4/4/2002 3:01:00 AM
From Authorid: 21266
it's the society's problem, definetley the goverment's problem for not setting strict rules regarding teen sex, heck if those kids's parents would spend at least SOME of their friggin' time keeping a cautios eye on their children, then i guarantee the rate of teens getting pregnant will surely decrease. thank god we dont have any of this crap aroudn here.
-AHD  |
Date: 4/4/2002 3:06:00 AM
From Authorid: 35042
lol Dizzy! Too true. Some teens, as you say, make the best parents ever - others make broken families and let their children think it's the way forward... Maybe we should be putting birthcontrol in teen-foods! lol jk  |
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Date: 4/4/2002 3:30:00 AM
From Authorid: 28946
and whatb rules should the government enforce for teen pregnancy Absz? |
Date: 4/4/2002 3:45:00 AM
From Authorid: 30229
Great post Dizzy!!! Yep, Abstinance is the BEST solution to unwanted pregnancy AND diseases. Next comes the list of contraceptives, which none are 100% effective. I saw where there are some that brought out parental neglect as a CAUSE, hmmmmmm.. I think having SEX is the CAUSE, lol... Seriously speaking, and this may be ANOTHER debate topic... WHERE and WHEN does the TEENS have to assume responsibility for their actions and STOP whining that their parents werent great. I mean, c'mon!!! Kids have sex-ed in school, nothing is held back, they KNOW the consequences, but sadly, if and WHEN they do find themselves with diseases or pregnant, then they wanna hollar how bad society and parents are... sad huh???? Again, GREAT post.. :)  |
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Date: 4/4/2002 4:06:00 AM
From Authorid: 21266
penny, execution for a married person sleeping around, and slow torture in jail for unmarried teens for a period of time. |
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Date: 4/4/2002 4:07:00 AM
From Authorid: 21266
oh and regarding the sex-ed, kids in the states r being taught about such stuff at a very young age, and they wonder why little children wonder a lot about a heavy subject. go figure. |
Date: 4/4/2002 5:01:00 AM
From Authorid: 32070
You forgot them shots you can get every 6 months or so. Although I don't know if teens are aloud to get them. Also, making the guy wear a "raincoat" helps against Pregnancy AND Disease. But, Abstnence(sp) is THE ONLY surefire way of protecting yourself. :) *HUGS*  |
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Date: 4/4/2002 5:02:00 AM
From Authorid: 32070
LMAO @ Agent Smith!!! *HUGS* |
Date: 4/4/2002 5:20:00 AM
From Authorid: 42792
I had three children by the time I was 19 and 4 by 22. It is very hard but I certainly did not want for this to happen. There are just some things that can not be prevented. I will be open with my girls and talk to them about this but not everyone has such support. Sometimes situations can lead you in the wrong direction. I would like to add though that I am not like the "norm" of teen parents. I finished high school and went on to college but it was pure heck(ll) as I was working two jobs and going to school. I missed some really important years in my life and for the first few years, I was not a good mother. Luckily for me, things changed but are still hard. I love my kids with all of my heart and soul but yet still wish I never had them. Wishing, unfortunately, is not effective.  |
Date: 4/4/2002 5:56:00 AM
From Authorid: 23796
Why are all these teen pregnancy posts about women? It ususally takes two to cause a pregnancy, what about their male counterparts?  |
Date: 4/4/2002 6:35:00 AM
From Authorid: 24856
Awesome post Dizzy! Communication between teen and parent are a must on this subject. Shame on the parents that bury their heads in the sand and ignore it. You can not stop Mother Nature but you can offer prevention.....  |
Date: 4/4/2002 7:03:00 AM
From Authorid: 22852
I was a teen mother and if someone talked to me about things of this nature back then I would not have had a child at 19 but I would not have changed it today for all the money in the world. My son is now 20. He never got in trouble and although he was not a straight A student he did graduate and he joined the Navy for a career. He is respectful and loving and still hugs me in public (sometimes).. LOL. I agree that there are many teenage mothers that are not fit but for me I was a lot older then most teens and feel I was a good mother. The girls today need mentoring and someone who cares about them. The teens who are trying to get pregnant are doing it because they think the child will bring love into their live and I feel that is all they are looking for "Love"  |
Date: 4/4/2002 8:25:00 AM
From Authorid: 16671
I agree dizzy. NOW DONT FALL OVER IN SHOCK!! However, *there is always a however isnt there?* lol, there are many that did get pregnant early and have become Great great mothers, but even like my child, she was young, she thought a baby would just take care of everything. She is a good mother, of course this was ten years ago that she had my grandson, and she has turned out to be a good mother, but even she will tell ya, "mom" why didnt I listen? She can now see how much she has missed out on, how much more she could have did without having to deal with a child at the same time. I told her when she was young, KATE, ya dont want to do that! She was 16 when my grandson was born. He just turned 10 on the second of april. But they miss out on so much.  |
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Date: 4/4/2002 9:46:00 AM ( From Author )
From Authorid: 9130
Shadow Vixen-- my post does NOT "just" apply to females. |
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Date: 4/4/2002 9:48:00 AM ( From Author )
From Authorid: 9130
NKA-- your honesty amazes me. So few people are willing to admit that having kids at a young age was a mistake. I totally understand that you love your kids but I can see how it must have been frustrating to miss out on so much. I certainly could NOT have done it. BTW--I didn't even know you had four kids! How do you ever find time to come on here?lol |
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Date: 4/4/2002 9:49:00 AM ( From Author )
From Authorid: 9130
Stormchaser-- EXCELLENT COMMENT. Many of the teens that want babies ARE just "looking for love" I find it to be really sad... |
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Date: 4/4/2002 9:50:00 AM ( From Author )
From Authorid: 9130
Jester-- I do not think it is the parents fault. They should not be blamed. |
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Date: 4/4/2002 9:51:00 AM ( From Author )
From Authorid: 9130
Jellie Bean-- you are lucky to have such a great mom, others aren't so lucky :) |
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Date: 4/4/2002 9:53:00 AM ( From Author )
From Authorid: 9130
Agent Smith-- thats great. *mental note* I'll have to tell Nova to remember this...in case we ever have a daughter... |
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Date: 4/4/2002 9:54:00 AM ( From Author )
From Authorid: 9130
TSk-- you make a joke about it... but thats a good idea...LOL I wonder if that would work? hehehe |
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Date: 4/4/2002 9:56:00 AM ( From Author )
From Authorid: 9130
I have to use myself as an example here. If I had allowed myself to get pregnant at a young age I would have been a HORRIBLE parent! I mean kids annoy me... I STILL don't want kids, and I am 22, my husband is 25. We don't PLAN on having kids for about ten years...(lets hope all goes as planned) Anyways my point being I KNOW there is NO way I could take care of a kid, even now... but thats just me :) |
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Date: 4/4/2002 10:03:00 AM ( From Author )
From Authorid: 9130
Private Lady-- great point... the "raincoats" are so easy to get, and pretect you against so much, it amazes me that so many teens aren't using them... |
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Date: 4/4/2002 10:04:00 AM ( From Author )
From Authorid: 9130
Gail-- you have another good point and so does ABSZ, these kids are all taught sex ed, they KNOW the consequences... |
Date: 4/4/2002 10:08:00 AM
From Authorid: 24732
Here is what I posted on one of Raz's stories awhile back: Why don't we just legislate a law that makes the legal age 18? This would be found out if A) you were caught in the act B) you confessed C) if you appeared to be pregnant If you break the law you have to pay a $5000. This would apply to both males and females. If you can pay the fine within 10 days then you probably are rich enough to have a kid. The money would be used in teen pregnancy prevention and other programs to help take care of kids. If you can't turn over the money then into jail you go, in jail you would be forced to learn about childcare and how to get a job. During the 9 months (whether or not you are pregnant) you would study this information and prepare for a test. At 8 months you would take a written exam and required to write a grammatically correct essay on how you intend to take care of this child or a child if you were to have one. If you passed the test you could then go on to have your child or leave if you were not pregnant. If you fail you would have to keep taking the test over until you passed, but you would only have 1 more month. If you had the kid and still didn't pass the test the child would go up for adoption. Then you could leave. It's a rather bureaucratic plan, but hey it might just work! :p  |
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Date: 4/4/2002 10:09:00 AM
From Authorid: 24732
But now re-thinking it, to end all "teen" pregnancies, we would have to make the age 20. Therefore it would try to rid us of all teen pregnancies. |
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Date: 4/4/2002 10:12:00 AM
From Authorid: 22080
ok torturing teens for haveing sex is a lil drastic i mean its a normal teen thing i seen a study like 2 years ago i know it may have risen or dropped i dunno but it said the average boy loses there virginity at 16 and the average girl at 17 hmm lets think about that |
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Date: 4/4/2002 10:13:00 AM
From Authorid: 22080
ok lifeform what if you were raped huh or if your culture believes that at a certain age you should have kids why make them pay a fine for there culture |
Date: 4/4/2002 10:42:00 AM
From Authorid: 30477
Totally agree with you, Dizzy. Some kids are so stupid it hurts. I am amazed you WERE able to use the words "knocked up" and "freakin." You're not out of the woods yet, though. Throw in a "black" or an "oriental" and this post is out like a light, so be careful!  |
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Date: 4/4/2002 10:49:00 AM
From Authorid: 24732
If you were raped you would have to go to court anyways and try to put the raper in jail. In this case the victim would be pardoned from jail, maybe they should also go through a course of self defense also? And what culture is that? Off the top of my head I cannot think of any cultures, unless in other countries that have a culture like that. Some cultures believe it is ok to kill people, yet that is against the law here. If you wish to practice that part of your culture you are free to leave the country. You can't stay here unless you follow the rules. I didn't say this would be the perfect solution, but I'm sure if it were installed it would curb teen pregnancies. |
Date: 4/4/2002 11:37:00 AM
From Authorid: 16069
I can see why teens want to have babies. Theres nothing in the world that can bring you as much happiness as your very own son or daughter. I never cared to get a good job or go to colledge, all I ever wanted was to be a mom. God must've felt that I was ready to be a mom and I became one when I was 19. The reason I say God, is because I feel that having a baby is a gift from God. Theres not a day that goes by that I dont thank God for my little angel. =) Anyways, It doesnt matter how old you are, that doesnt determine whether or not you will be a good parent, it depends on the person in general. Im far from perfect, but I take good care of her and love her with all my heart. Now, Im curious to see what everybody else has to say.  |
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Date: 4/4/2002 11:44:00 AM ( From Author )
From Authorid: 9130
Love One Another-- not everyone is meant to be a parent at a young age! I certainly am not meant to have kids...yet LOL |
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Date: 4/4/2002 11:45:00 AM ( From Author )
From Authorid: 9130
Alien-- i think that would most certainly put an end to teen pregnancys... everyone would be terrified to have sex! LOL |
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Date: 4/4/2002 11:46:00 AM ( From Author )
From Authorid: 9130
JFH-- I'm suprised too |
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Date: 4/4/2002 11:49:00 AM
From Authorid: 22080
ok life form why is it in jewish tradition your a man at 13 hmm odd also that would just take up room in juvenile detention centers or prisons |
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Date: 4/4/2002 12:02:00 PM
From Authorid: 16069
DizzyMe, Your right, not everybodys ready to have kids at an early age, I just felt that I was ready. |
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Date: 4/4/2002 12:06:00 PM ( From Author )
From Authorid: 9130
Love One Another-- you seem like you would be a good mother, from what I can tell of you on here. You seem like you would know how to relate to a kid. i have NO CLUE how to relate, talk or take care of a child! LOL |
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Date: 4/4/2002 12:10:00 PM
From Authorid: 16069
NKA, How could you say that you love your kids so much and in the same sentence say that you wished you never had them? My God, I hope your kids never have to hear that. |
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Date: 4/4/2002 12:29:00 PM
From Authorid: 51637
I think the issue is not teen sex or teen pregnancy but self esteem. The majority of teens who have sex or want to get pregnant do so because of insecurity, low self esteem, and desperation. Of those who make a competent decision to have sex because they have raging hormones then if they are responsible enough to make that decision then they are responsible enough to protect themselves. Making abortion legal just causes more irresponsibility and laziness because people think that getting pregnant just mean abortion not responsibility. I got pregnant at the age of 17 when my boyfriend age 23 told me that he was unable to have children. He claimed that he and his ex wife had tried and went to doctors and he was told that he was sterile. I believed him until I found out I was pregnant. He was later sent to prison for child molestation in an unrelated incident. I finished school at the top of my class and had an academic scholarship to one of the most prestigious colleges in the world. I am married now with four children. My oldest daughter is 5 years old and I wouldn't trade her for anything. I am an excellent mother although I wasn't in the beginning. It is hard but if you don't want to be a parent then don't have sex. It's very simple really. |
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Date: 4/4/2002 1:46:00 PM
From Authorid: 24732
In Jewish tradition they have a Bar Mitzvah for guys and a Bat mitzvah for girls. Even though their religion sees them as adults because they have to learn Hebrew and memorize parts of the torrah, that does not exclude them from certain laws we have. If that were true then all sorts of kids would become Jewish so they could purchase cigarettes, buy lotto tickets, and other stuff people can do when they are 18. If you look at statistics and which ethnicities (not race) have more teen pregnancies I don't think you will find Jewish people at the top of that list. For the most part your culture does not exclude you from the law. Although some indians smoke peyote, but that is really another story all together. |
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Date: 4/4/2002 2:51:00 PM
From Authorid: 42792
Love one another it is called honesty. I do love them and I take care of my responsibilities but I know that they would have had more if I had waited untill I was ready. I would have been able to progress more in my life. It is more a case of wishing that I wouldn't have had them when I did. One other point is having four children in this day and age is difficult for the children and the parents. If I had it to do over again I am not sure that I would have had children because I don't care too much for society today. I am sure there are many parents who can relate to what I am saying. Why is it so hard to comprehend. I have them now and I couldn't ever imagine losing them. They are a part of me but if I had it to do over again I wouldn't have them because I think they deserve more than what I am able to provide. |
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Date: 4/4/2002 2:55:00 PM
From Authorid: 42792
also...maybe they deserve more than to be here in this sick world but it doesn't come under debate because I do have them and I will be diligent in fulfilling my responsibilities to them by giving them as much love and support as possible. |
Date: 4/4/2002 3:10:00 PM
From Authorid: 48434
i dont think i am going to comment my opinion does not matter :*( just joking but as long as they are over 18 i say who cares i want a baby and i am not even 19 i mean i dont know why most people want one but i think my whole thing is that i lost 2 babies and i feel and hole in my heart but most kids just want one but i dont care really if they think they can handle it let them do what they want they will learn  |
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Date: 4/4/2002 3:12:00 PM
From Authorid: 48434
another thing not all teen mothers are bad my mother had me when she was inn highschool and she finished school ontime and she went to college and was a great mother and now she has a wonderful life |
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Date: 4/4/2002 3:29:00 PM ( From Author )
From Authorid: 9130
Diamond-- i didn't say that ALL teen mothers are bad. i said some of them are, and thats a fact. |
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Date: 4/4/2002 3:31:00 PM ( From Author )
From Authorid: 9130
NKA-- i find your honesty refreshing. |
Date: 4/4/2002 3:45:00 PM
From Authorid: 34476
LOLOLOL! I normally get laughed at when I mention abstinence(?) ... yet it is the only method I know of which is 100% foolproof!!!  |
Date: 4/4/2002 4:06:00 PM
From Authorid: 19220
I was a teen mom. I had my first daughter 3 weeks after my 18th birthday. My parents were and still are good parents. They talked to me about sex and pregnancy. I'm the one who didn't listen. I'm the one who went out and got pregnant. They supported me and helped me when I finally decided to tell them I was pregnant. I agree that there are to many teen pregnancies*sp*. I don't think of my daughter as a mistake, she was/is a blessing. I do wish that I would have waited but at the same token I don't regret having her young.  |
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Date: 4/4/2002 10:11:00 PM
From Authorid: 16069
NKA, Yeah, I can see that your being honest here. Like I said, I hope your kids never have to hear it. I just cant understand this at all. |
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Date: 4/4/2002 10:14:00 PM
From Authorid: 16069
DizzyMe, I was a nervous wreack when I had Alyssa. I didnt know the first thing about taking care of a new born baby. You learn quick! |
Date: 4/5/2002 12:11:00 AM
From Authorid: 27046
Well we know that there is no birth control that is 100% abstinence would be the "only" fool proof way to not end up as a pregnant teen. I have very specific thoughts on the issue. I 100% believe that PARENTS play a major role in the situation and I do believe there are many teens that WANT babies. I have seen many young girls that purposely get pregnant and have children because they think its cool to walk a baby around in a stroller and have people in the market or the stores comment on how cute their kids are. It would seem to me that there are WAY too many parents that allow their daughters or sons to sleep at their girlfriend's houses or they let the one or the other live there. Some play the "Well he sleeps on the couch." game when they really allow them to share a bed and PUHLEEZE with the he is sleeping on the couch *rolls eyes* I bet MANY teens could tell ya that their boyfriend spent few hours sleeping on the couch after mom and dad went to bed. Parents honestly think that they would hear "something". I am one of the lightest sleepers on the planet and my kids have gotten up plenty of mornings and snuck into things while I was sleeping...it only takes one night of being extremely exhausted to not "hear" anything. If parents were more active and involved in what their kids were doing and knew where they were, who they were with and set guidelines and limitations with consequences for actions IT wouldn't happen. I was made WELL aware of the consequences of my actions growing up and like LoveOneAnother said I know that the one real thing I wanted was to be a mother. I told my mother when I was 14 years old that I was going to have a baby and she almost fell over, until I said after I turn 18 and I am an adult and you won't be disappointed or upset with me. <---the mentality of a 14 year old speaks for itself. However I was also well aware of how devestated my parents would be if I came home pregnant as a "teenager" under 18. When I met my husband I knew that he was the one that I wanted to have my children with and did just that. I was 19 when I got pregnant and 20 when I had my daughter and she was a 100% planned pregnancy. I would take living in the states over living ANYWHERE in this world that was going to torture a woman for simply being a woman let alone for reproduction. And on a last note to Alien I think that is also extreme. Teaching a teen mom or dad child care and how to raise a child is not a bad thing..ANY PARENT no matter WHAT age could benefit extremely from a parenting course or class. But while they are locked up in prison is who footing the bill to take care of them, who is paying for the medical costs for prenatal care and delivery, where is their "normal" school education coming from, and when are they going to learn about growing up in the real world, getting a job and supporting themselves and their child? You obviously can't work if you are sitting in jail for 9 months? Do we have to build more jails just to house unwed teenage moms and dads because I am sure that you are aware of the psychological damage that many inmates suffer when they have committed petty crimes and forced to serve with harden criminals. I am sure that you are aware of the many people that have become antisocial. I am also sure that you are aware of what a stressful environment like that can do to unborn fetus. A criminal that commits a crime that renders jail time, sure that I can see, but jail time for getting pregnant... rather extreme. Would the mothers and the fathers also be able to be jailed in the same building because working on their relationship and working on a family environment and allowing the father to be very much apart of the pregnancy is a necessity. Or are we to just assume that they won't stay together anyway and leave it at that? I would support court mandated parenting classes, but jail would never get my vote...and I am going now before Dizzy knocks my block off for leaving a book on her post...LOL...:p~~~  |
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Date: 4/6/2002 9:40:00 AM
From Authorid: 22080
azairya good reply btw nice tag ya got there :) anywho i have to disagree about the parents who let there kids b/f or g/f spend the night or live with them for a lil while my bros g/f lived with us cause of something going on in her family they slept in the same bed and me and my dad are insomniacs i never heard anything i know darn well if he heard something he would have stopped it so i kinda disagree there but i also agree about the "he/she sleeps on the couch" deal because the parents could goto bed they wait about an hour or 2 then *squeak*squeak*squeak* |
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Date: 4/6/2002 1:11:00 PM ( From Author )
From Authorid: 9130
Azairyia-- i guess I just don't get it. I am not the "mothering" type. I haven't been around kids, I am an only child, and I have no clue how to relate to them. My husband is the same way... (although for some reason kids seem to like us, we have no clue why LOL) Anyways, That may be a main reason why we do not want children. We see only the EVIL side of kids LOL not the good side...IF THERE IS A GOOD SIDE... |
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Date: 4/6/2002 6:46:00 PM
From Authorid: 27046
I dunno Dizzy there is really no secret to relating to children other than acting like a child yourself. Being able to goof around and play horsey with them on the floor is an example...LOL...I have always started a conversation with another child by pointing out something they are wearing if its a boy because 9 out of 10 times kids have some kind of character on their shirt, pants or at least their shoes, or mentioning a little girl's hair or barrette's and just act like everything they say is totally amazing lol. There are good sides... I have never laughed so hard at anything than I have at my own kids...and of course there are bad sides...like spending an hour repeating your telephone number 500 times to pass a kindergarten screening (we did that last night...lol) I know what you are saying though, you hand my cousin Amy a baby and she holds it out in front her like "what am I supposed to do with this?"...lol..I guess some people can relate and some can't...I have siblings but they are both older.....MUCH older, I just did a LOT of babysitting... |
Date: 4/7/2002 7:59:00 AM
From Authorid: 45611
But you know what. Having a baby is the least of the problems.You could catch a very deadly disease called...... AIDS. Or any other STD  |
