Date: 4/29/2002 8:42:00 PM
From Authorid: 6317
I would wait. It's obviously something he feels very uneasy about. Don't take it personally at all. The issue of his adoption is between him and his parents. He could be struggling with issues of abandonment, but forcing him to tell you before he's ready might make him resentful.  |
Date: 4/29/2002 8:42:00 PM
From Authorid: 48993
this is a personal decision for him to make and he will tell you if and when he wants ... i am sure he has all kinds of feelings of being unwanted and all the whys that surround adoption , i had a boyfriend who was adopted and he rarely talked about it , only that he was and it was about 2 1/2 years into our 4 year relationship.... my mother in law ia adopted and she has NEVER talked to any of her 3 kids about this ..... and alot of the time the one that is adopted doesnt have any answers to the possible questions you may ask....... i am sure he isnt doing this to be secretive , he doesnt know how to feel about this either!  |
Date: 4/29/2002 8:45:00 PM
From Authorid: 48279
I'm guessing he is just waiting for the right time. And that doesn't mean the right time for you, it means the right time for him. When he feels like sharing it, he will. Don't worry, it'll come out.
~Heresanameforyou  |
Date: 4/29/2002 8:55:00 PM
From Authorid: 6358
Most people that are adopted love their adoptive parents as if they are their own flesh and blood, and don't think much of it. I can understand why it's a big deal to you, but it might not seem like a big deal to him. His parents are his parents, love does not know blood boundaries. There could also be issues with the biological parents that makes things even more complicated. You can ask him if you want, but be prepared for any range of reactions, since you're not sure why he's not mentioning it. Good luck!  |
Date: 4/29/2002 9:05:00 PM
From Authorid: 35178
i can see why this is a big deal to you and no i dont think you are over reacting. i would wait until he did bring it up though. just because it does seem to be a sensitive subject.  |
Date: 4/29/2002 9:09:00 PM
From Authorid: 47699
Did you ever stop to think that maybe it's a sensitive subject to him and he doesn't like to think about it or discuss it? I say you should keep it to yourself. If he ever feels like telling you, he will.  |
Date: 4/30/2002 10:48:00 AM
From Authorid: 40979
maybe it is too personal to talk about...  |
Date: 4/30/2002 12:05:00 PM
From Authorid: 3909
If your relationship is swiftly developing then he will inform you on the intimate points of his life soon enough. Just wait it out and Im sure he will tell his heart when hes ready.  |
Date: 4/30/2002 2:23:00 PM
From Authorid: 30786
I wouldn't wait for him to come around. That sounds really odd to me that he wouldn't tell you something like that after being together for so long. I would ask him about it gently. Tell him that you heard something about him being adopted and you want to know if it is true. I wouldn't leave it alone  |
Date: 5/3/2002 8:57:00 AM
From Authorid: 51009
Wait til he is comfortable talkig about it  |
Date: 8/10/2002 8:28:00 PM
From Authorid: 16845
wow think I read this earlier LOL maybe he won't tell you not because he's not comfy with telling you but maybe he has the type of relationship with his adoptive parents that's close enough that it doesn't seem that they are adoptive therefore he doesn't consider himself adopted? heck if I know! LOL!  |
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