Date: 5/28/2002 9:06:00 PM
From Authorid: 49689
Very well stated Danie..I'm sorry to hear about all the tragedy in your life....
But you can scream until your blue in the face and people will never see the big picture....  |
Date: 5/28/2002 9:07:00 PM
From Authorid: 45948
wow daniedarlin, this is a truly powerful and touching story. Thank you for sharing a part of your life. Hopefully your story will help others see that there is two sides to every story and that a woman must do what she feels is right for her at that time and place. Personally, I have never been in a position like that before, so I can't say exactly what I would do but I do know that i'm glad women are given the choice to make up thier own minds because like your aunt's story, women will do things out of desperation in a nonsafe environment.  |
Date: 5/28/2002 9:08:00 PM
From Authorid: 50864
Oh Danie I can understand although I made the opposite choice as you did it cost me my marriage and I have been alone now for 21 years and the baby now my 21 year old son for whom I sacrificed all couldcareless if I dropped dead today. So if my choice was so right then why am a being punished with no love at all I think there is no right or wrong on this issue just what is right for you. Hugs Mrs.Strider  |
Date: 5/28/2002 9:09:00 PM ( From Author )
From Authorid: 48993
thank you pyriel and your right I could scream right in some people ears and they would never hear me   |
Date: 5/28/2002 9:09:00 PM
From Authorid: 7830
dont let anyone tell you that you're a bad person for making a strong decision for yourself. Im sure it was a very hard decision, I had to make the same decision. Luckily I was in a position where I could keep the child, but it took alot of thinking before I came to that conclusion. Just keep your head up and know that you're a good person and dont let anyone judge you, because nobody but you knows you.  |
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Date: 5/28/2002 9:10:00 PM ( From Author )
From Authorid: 48993
exactly angel eyes , a safe enviroment and the right to have a choice. |
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Date: 5/28/2002 9:11:00 PM ( From Author )
From Authorid: 48993
Mrs. Strider I cant imagine how you must feel. thanks for commenting. |
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Date: 5/28/2002 9:13:00 PM ( From Author )
From Authorid: 48993
Shai..... I dont think I am a "bad" person for the choice I made I have no regrets , I met my hubby 2 months after that and I am thankful I made the decision I did , because I am sure he wasnt looking to become an instant father! people choose their own road , for reasons none of us know . |
Date: 5/28/2002 9:13:00 PM
From Authorid: 6050
Wow..sorry about your aunt and your friend I can completely understand where ur coming from..You expressed it very well..thank you for sharing this   |
Date: 5/28/2002 9:14:00 PM
From Authorid: 53689
DanieDarlin, I am so sad for you...I am so sorry you had to endure that. I am a firm believe of the right to choose. I stand firm on the belief that NO ONE can say exactly what they would do if they were in that situation. *HUGS* TarHeelGirl  |
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Date: 5/28/2002 9:14:00 PM ( From Author )
From Authorid: 48993
thanks Tina |
Date: 5/28/2002 9:16:00 PM
From Authorid: 34487
DanieDarlin', I totally relate to your post. Even though I feel that abortion is wrong doesn't mean that I have the right to judge anyone that does it. I give my opinion on the aftermath of guilt and possible depression that follows. No one has the right to hurt you. Ultimately, what is important is that you love yourself... God's already forgiven us, man tends to take more time if ever.   |
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Date: 5/28/2002 9:19:00 PM
From Authorid: 53689
*Still hugging daniedarlin* Cry on my shoulder if you need to. That is what it is there for. TarHeelGirl |
Date: 5/28/2002 9:20:00 PM
From Authorid: 16671
I'm sorry you went through that, and men can be jerks.  |
Date: 5/28/2002 9:22:00 PM
From Authorid: 25183
I feel that it is a woman's right to choose. I feel it is unfair to judge unless you've walked in her shoes.  |
Date: 5/28/2002 9:22:00 PM
From Authorid: 34775
I support your feelings and your choice, daniedarlin...I still thank goodness that women have the legal right to make this choice. It is my understaning that, more oftenn than not, people that speak the loudest on this topic do not take the time to truly understand what it is like to walk in another's shoes. I think that so many people become blind to the fact that we are not people meant to judge, just people meant to get through this life the best that we can. I will support a woman's right to this choice to the utmost degree. There is not ONE of us alive that KNOWS what it is like to be another person, no matter how much we would like to speculate that we do. My mother always told me...and it is the best advice that she has ever given to me....I think about it all the time...."You are the only expert on you that there is." It is the truth....do not let others rants bring you down. You made a choice like many other women have had to, and it was the right choice for you at the time. People should get down from their high horses and realize that life throws us curveballs....we all need to deal with them differently...we all have hard choices to make...and none of us are perfect...I would much rather live my life with understanding than by being accusatory. I support what you have to say, wholeheartedly, in this post.  |
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Date: 5/28/2002 9:23:00 PM ( From Author )
From Authorid: 48993
thank you tarheel .... but I am fine , i am right with God and my decision , but i thank you for your kindness |
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Date: 5/28/2002 9:24:00 PM ( From Author )
From Authorid: 48993
you choose: i thank you for your comment , but i cant see how you can relate to my post. .. have i missed something? |
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Date: 5/28/2002 9:25:00 PM ( From Author )
From Authorid: 48993
thanks doodle bug ... exactly my point. |
Date: 5/28/2002 9:25:00 PM
From Authorid: 16442
Excellent post!! You go girl.  |
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Date: 5/28/2002 9:27:00 PM ( From Author )
From Authorid: 48993
thank you so much for you comment anabel! |
Date: 5/28/2002 9:30:00 PM
From Authorid: 15033
I have talked about this before on USM, but I'll repeat myself here. I have lost babies from miscarriege, and I have aborted too. I used to make excuses for it, like, I was using birth control and the father and I couldn't take the pressure financially, so on and so forth...but the fact remains, I killed an innocent child, through having sex with someone I didn't completely trust to stand by me no matter what. It was wrong to be irresponsible for my body and I murdered because of it. It took me years to be able to admit that and ask my maker to forgive me. My conscience was cleared as soon as I asked for forgiveness and repented from ever making that mistake again. I have never slept with a man I didn't plan to be with for the rest of my life since.  |
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Date: 5/28/2002 9:31:00 PM ( From Author )
From Authorid: 48993
thank you firstborn |
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Date: 5/28/2002 9:32:00 PM ( From Author )
From Authorid: 48993
thankyou moon priestess |
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Date: 5/28/2002 9:33:00 PM
From Authorid: 34487
I relate because I too had an abortion. I'm sure we've been effected a little differently from it but I can still relate to the difficulty with the initial decission. |
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Date: 5/28/2002 9:34:00 PM ( From Author )
From Authorid: 48993
thunderhead , your excuses are my decisions and I am right with God , and I have NEVER placed myself in a situation like that again , and how could I have known that the man I cared for didnt care for me? as i said i could scream in some peoples ears all day , and they still would have to let their tongue do the lashing instead of letting their brains understand. |
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Date: 5/28/2002 9:36:00 PM ( From Author )
From Authorid: 48993
Oh I understand now you choose , I am sorry I didnt "get it" before ( duh me ) |
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Date: 5/28/2002 9:44:00 PM
From Authorid: 34487
No problem, actually, after admitting it for the first time on another post and this one... I feel like baggage has been somewhat lifted. |
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Date: 5/28/2002 9:46:00 PM
From Authorid: 15033
Excuse me, I thought this was a discussion. I was merely stating what I learned from having an abortion. Some may find release on a deeper level by hearing it's okay to admit they will never feel comfortable with the guilt...and let it go by being honest with themselves. Sorry if you took it as me thrashing and not understanding. In every case where someone has had one outside of incest, rape or it threatening their lives, it was because of being irresponsible in some way. We all make mistakes until we get some experience behind us. |
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Date: 5/28/2002 9:46:00 PM ( From Author )
From Authorid: 48993
for the record I am not seeking sympathy , I am seeking an understanding , that no matter what you believe or why you believe it , one can NEVER know anothers hardships , or happiness , or fears or joys .......... a little understanding goes along way , you dont have to agree with me , and you can think what you want , fact remains the same though. |
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Date: 5/28/2002 9:47:00 PM ( From Author )
From Authorid: 48993
you choose, i can so understand that! |
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Date: 5/28/2002 9:53:00 PM ( From Author )
From Authorid: 48993
thunderhead I see your point now and I do agree with it to some degree. |
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Date: 5/28/2002 9:55:00 PM
From Authorid: 15033
...oops, looks like I was commenting at the same times as you and we were not seeing each others yet...Thank you for having this discussion DD. |
Date: 5/28/2002 11:04:00 PM
From Authorid: 50435
You go girl!!! If you feel what you did is right then that's all I need to know. I don't have to live with it...YOU do. It looks like you put a lot of time into your decision and I can't even imagine what it was like to be in that position. I'm behind ya on this one and it looks like a lot of other people are, too. Take care and thanks for being brave enough to share that kind of info...Gallytuck.  |
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Date: 5/28/2002 11:07:00 PM ( From Author )
From Authorid: 48993
thank you gallytuck . this is simply a post about seeing things from a different perspective , i ask of no one to agree with me but to open their eyes and see other sides to a story .... a little kindness and some understanding can go a long way! |
Date: 5/28/2002 11:11:00 PM
From Authorid: 15070
DanieDarlin- I am sorry for the hurtful things you read. May I hug you? *hug*  |
Date: 5/28/2002 11:41:00 PM
From Authorid: 3321
It would help society as an entirety if everyone could just fit themselves with someone elses shoes...  |
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Date: 5/29/2002 8:45:00 AM ( From Author )
From Authorid: 48993
thanks LSG (hugs)...... and persephone , I agree! |
Date: 5/31/2002 2:45:00 PM
From Authorid: 40881
Wow sweetie..powerfull post. Are you talking about the same Tara I know? Sad but true. Great job on this post. *hugz*  |
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Date: 5/31/2002 4:25:00 PM ( From Author )
From Authorid: 48993
yes daijha same Tara! and thanks |
Date: 12/9/2002 1:59:00 PM
From Authorid: 52140
You replied to my post so I am going to reply to yours. In your situation, your aunt's, and Tara's you all made the choice to have sexual intercourse. You made your choice. Therefore, you have to face the consequences. I cannot let my girl dog in heat run around outside ((especially since I know she is in heat!)) and then when she gets pregnant and delivers puppies drown every one of them because I don't have the money to feed three extra dogs. Its was my choice to let her run around. If a person can't take care of the consequences of their actions (reguardless of what their actions may be) then they don't need to take part in those actions. Simple as that.  |
