Date: 6/16/2002 8:28:00 PM
From Authorid: 15675
Wow Im sorry bout that! Sounds like my mommys story! Her dad left her a lil after she was born (she had 3 older bros and sister) and he visited and it got fewer and the last time she seen him she was 8. Shes now 38.  |
Date: 6/16/2002 8:36:00 PM
From Authorid: 30051
*hugs* I know how ya feel..I tell my mom Happy Father's Day:)  |
Date: 6/16/2002 8:46:00 PM
From Authorid: 34487
My husband had the same thing happen to him. His dad left when he was 8 and went to live in Turkey. He rarely spoke to his kids and now lives in the States and still rarely speaks to them. We just had his first grandchild 7mos ago and he still hasn't seen him. I know how this hurts my husband and affects him as a father. Keep your chin up. Keep realizing that it had nothing to do with you and is his loss. He will regret this some day when he's old, gray and alone with no one on the holidays. Regret is worse to live with then anger. I've also had to deal with much anger toward my parents and the best way to handle it is with empathy. Believe it or not, anger will eat you up... not him. Pitty him and this will help you. No child deserves to go through this and no person should produce children that can't raise them. Good luck and God bless. :o)  |
Date: 6/16/2002 8:56:00 PM
From Authorid: 11348
I know exactly how you feel. My mom left my dad when I was 2 and my sister was only 6 days old... after that, he voided all responsibility of me and my sister. He didn't pay child support, didn't call, didn't try to keep in touch AT ALL. I went until february of this year with no memory of him and a complete loathing for him because he didn't want to know his daughters. He missed out on everything important in my life thus far... he was never there because he never cared enough to contact us. Then in february, my sister wrote him a letter and it was the first contact we had with him since my mom left him. All of a sudden he was trying to play the role of Dad... sending me lecturing emails and everything else as well as calling himself dad and in my opinion, that's a title you have to EARN. You can't just all of a sudden come back on the seen and be the wonderful dad that I should love and respect for the rest of my life. I'm grown now... I'm 18 and graduated from high school... he knows me now and he wouldn't even come to my graduation... as badly as i wanted him to he wouldn't. He's missed my entire growing up, my entire childhood... which is the only part of my life I truly needed him to be a part of. So I know how you feel completely and Father's Day doesn't mean much to me either.  |
Date: 6/17/2002 12:34:00 AM
From Authorid: 49742
My parents have passed on and I didn't have a nurturing caring loving father in my life either. My husband is a good caring father to our kids and grandkids so that makes up what I know about a good father. Angelfollower  |
Date: 6/19/2002 5:40:00 PM
From Authorid: 22275
i can relate  |
Date: 8/13/2002 7:15:00 AM
From Authorid: 35720
If I ever see your daddy, I'm gonna say "HEY BUDDY!! YOU'RE MEAN!!" And then I'll kick him in the shin just for you! *HUGS* :) :)  |
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