Date: 6/18/2002 10:30:00 AM
From Authorid: 46530
What is wrong is that some parents are not being parents nowadays, letting their children, male and female, out, and not knowing where they are and who they are with. Children need to be told about sex in a way that lets them know of the consequences. They seem to be just told how to do it, and that is it, go and procreate.  |
Date: 6/18/2002 10:31:00 AM
From Authorid: 53549
yeah its really wrong for little kids like 12 and 13 and even to 18 to geet pregnant!! i mean they have there whole life ahead of them and it will just ruin everything if they have a child! there went there freedom out the window! WildChild  |
Date: 6/18/2002 10:32:00 AM ( From Author )
From Authorid: 15157
Farleys this is true...I feel some Parents just don`t give a DARN about telling and teaching Kids the GOOD OL Right from Wrong...No time is theirs reasoning???  |
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Date: 6/18/2002 10:32:00 AM ( From Author )
From Authorid: 15157
BABIES Having Babies!!!! |
Date: 6/18/2002 10:33:00 AM
From Authorid: 3894
omg thats totally true my parents alwayz watch over me and i know a friend who has had 3 abortions and shes like 16! i mean omg! were too younge to be getting pregnant or even having intercourse! i mean 12 and having intercourse? i mean thats nutz!  |
Date: 6/18/2002 10:34:00 AM
From Authorid: 28946
Kiki, back in 1968, a fellow classmate, we were 11, came up pregnant. The father of the baby was 22 years old. He went to prison and Debbie gave the baby to her folks to raise. Needless to say, her folks each blamed each other and the man. But it was everyones fault involved. The parents let the man stay in the home and encouraged the relationship.  |
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Date: 6/18/2002 10:34:00 AM ( From Author )
From Authorid: 15157
Tweety omg that is totally DISGUSTING!...No value for HUMAN LIfe!!!..good comment! |
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Date: 6/18/2002 10:36:00 AM
From Authorid: 46530
when will people realise that girls aren't sweet and innocent? They have a good idea what they are doing when they have sex, in most cases, so why not point a finger or two at them in blame too |
Date: 6/18/2002 10:37:00 AM
From Authorid: 52563
A friend from school had 2 kids and shes only 16..She had the first when she was 12.  |
Date: 6/18/2002 10:39:00 AM
From Authorid: 53900
I had my daughter when I was 15 and you are absolutely right my mother and stapfather did not give a crap where I was I came home drunk a few times and my mom did not even care....but a child at 15 is not the end of the world I mean I would not reccomend it but if it happened the girl should not be condemned for it. BUt 12 is entirely to young to be pregnant and entirely to young to be dating. My kids are not going to date until they are 17.~~luv_4_2pac~~  |
Date: 6/18/2002 10:39:00 AM
From Authorid: 22102
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Date: 6/18/2002 10:40:00 AM
From Authorid: 40158
i think parents give kids to much freedom, im 18 and my mom n dad are really protective of me. but my guy friend is 16 and his mom thinks he does no wrong. some parents just think it isnt their kid that would do something like that. id say the parents to blame |
Date: 6/18/2002 10:42:00 AM
From Authorid: 40881
Well my neice Tassy is 14 and is due July 5th....she is ((in love with her boyfriend)) She would skip school a few times a month and go to his house while his parents were at work! They also went out after school to private parks and friends houses...How could her Mom stop that? If they want to do something they will find a way  |
Date: 6/18/2002 10:45:00 AM ( From Author )
From Authorid: 15157
Penny consentual sex after the fact of statutory rape? welcomed by the parents?...THATS Sick! |
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Date: 6/18/2002 10:45:00 AM ( From Author )
From Authorid: 15157
Farleys! Well said! |
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Date: 6/18/2002 10:45:00 AM
From Authorid: 28946
There is a couple of girls that used to live down the street and play with my daughter. Jessie ran the streets at all hours while her mom was at the bar. Her mom would let Jessie have 18 year old boys stay the night and Jessie was only 13, She had 3 kids by the time she was 17 and now at 24 looks at least 35 and now has 5 kids, still unmarried. Rose has 4 kids at 24 by 4 different men and unmarried also. ROSE'S parents were strict but trusted her too much. |
Date: 6/18/2002 10:45:00 AM
From Authorid: 24856
Well, I don't have any profound answers, I only know that when I became a parent, it was my job to know where mine were....They are soon to be 21 and 19 and no babies in sight yet.....  |
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Date: 6/18/2002 10:46:00 AM ( From Author )
From Authorid: 15157
Well I think the Parents should go to jail when they NEGLECT to Protect their Child from getting Preggy! |
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Date: 6/18/2002 10:52:00 AM
From Authorid: 28946
Kiki, after he got out of prison he married her and they had 3 more sons. Then they divorced and hate each other. That whole family was strange and I was never allowed to talk to them exvcept at school even though they lived a few blocks from us. |
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Date: 6/18/2002 10:52:00 AM
From Authorid: 46530
do you think the new mother should go with them kiki? |
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Date: 6/18/2002 10:54:00 AM ( From Author )
From Authorid: 15157
Daijha...so should the Parents blame the boy? Or should the parents go to Jail...for their so-called...UNKNOWAGE Of their daughters Shinanigans? |
Date: 6/18/2002 10:56:00 AM
From Authorid: 40145
No parents should not go to jail for the neglect, thats really silly.. it takes two to tango. like you said, so boy and girls faults but they are children though..  |
Date: 6/18/2002 10:57:00 AM
From Authorid: 3395
Well, I wish there were some kind of law against teens that young doing that. However, that would probably be giving the government too much control. I think that it is both the boy and the girl's fault and not one side should be blamed more than the other. I think it should be up to the parents to educate their children on this topic...and not only this topic, but to also let their children know that they are strict in many aspects and they do care.   |
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Date: 6/18/2002 11:00:00 AM ( From Author )
From Authorid: 15157
Hmmm Interesting!...PantherLover...they can put Parents in Jail for not making their children go to school but they can`t put Parents in Jail for Neglecting to supervise their child? |
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Date: 6/18/2002 11:01:00 AM
From Authorid: 53900
I have noticed a lot of girls who got pregnant at a young age have been abused at home not all though of course. I know I was just about anything that could happen to a child I have dealt with so I think that these children really are seeking somehting that may be missing in their relationships with their parents. |
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Date: 6/18/2002 11:05:00 AM ( From Author )
From Authorid: 15157
I think there should be a law! IMO |
Date: 6/18/2002 11:09:00 AM
From Authorid: 50758
Kids need to have their parents there. The parents are to blame for not instilling morals in their kids. They are too busy with their "careers" to care!.  |
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Date: 6/18/2002 11:17:00 AM
From Authorid: 28946
ut some kids won't listen either and have parents that care. The kids are defiant and sometimes only learn the hard way. Sometimes the best parents have the rottenest kids and vice versa. |
Date: 6/18/2002 11:24:00 AM
From Authorid: 30477
Sheesh, when's it gonna be time for Jerry's Final Thought? Ha, my opinion is that all kids other than myself are morons.  |
Date: 6/18/2002 11:32:00 AM
From Authorid: 33925
Kiki..I watched the same show you did today and obviously we both got something totally different from it...One of those little girls was FORCED..and the Mother DID have charges layed against the 17 year old boy who forced himself on her...The other little girl...12..boyfriend 13...How sad..How sad that those children had to go looking for love in all the wrong places..How sad that SINGLE Moms are forced to work outside the home to make ends meat and provide for her children..How sad that society has to sit in judgement with words like "disgusting" Im sorry but obviously we saw something different afterall..what I saw broke my heart and made me want to reach out and hug those little girls..and hug those Mom's who are watching their daughters suddenly have to grow up and become an adult..  |
Date: 6/18/2002 11:52:00 AM
From Authorid: 17516
Someone made an interesting comment about these children being emotionally neglected. I think THAT is the main problem. Setting "rules" is easy, but spending time with you children takes more of a commitment. My children recently came to live with me (I let their father keep them until school let out so they wouldn't have to change schools). Tim and I noticed that ALL they wanted to do was watch TV and play video games, so we set time restrictions on these things BUT we also make a point to spend time with them and do things with them every day. Surprisingly, my daughter wasn't even upset about the Tv restriction and she suggested that we buy a white board so she could make a schedule. My point is that parental intent is the most important thing, and we as parents must work to teach our kids accountability by example.  |
Date: 6/18/2002 11:53:00 AM
From Authorid: 15621
I agree KK.....  |
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Date: 6/18/2002 11:56:00 AM
From Authorid: 22083
People need to see that having kids is a responsibily for the rest of their life and stop allowing their kids to take care of themselves once they hit 10 years old. Lazy parenting is what I think. Kain |
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Date: 6/18/2002 11:57:00 AM
From Authorid: 40881
KiKi..I think no-one is to blame in my case...the mother is close to her daughter. She tryed everything..she got good grades and was a (joy) to have in class..so the school never let mom know when she wasn't there! Mom had no idea what was going on because Tassy has always been honest and open with her! The boy is not to blame either,..the kids think they are in love and have known eachother for 7 years! No -one should go to jail..I'm not saying it's right but...come on..2 kids in love a clasic Dawsons Creek romance..there having a baby now and that is a big thing..They should be incouraged to stay in school, stay close for the baby's sake,and be loved! They made a mistake some might say..but there bring a beautiful life into this world and he will be loved and thats all that matters now! And could you imagine her having that child without her mothers help..because she's in jail for her daughter sneeking out and having sex? I don't think so. If her Mom was pimping her out or neglecting her it would be diffrent..but you can't stop a kid from doing the wrong thing...you can only raise them the best you can and pray they will make the right chioces when the time comes to make them. |
Date: 6/18/2002 11:59:00 AM
From Authorid: 48993
while i dont think that in our society this is acceptable , do you all realize that in many mnay mnay cultures around the world this is normal? a 10 11 12 13 yr old girl having an arranged marriage to a man that is 10 20 or 30 yrs her senior? being pregnant as soon has she is able .... this is the norm in countries all around the world . ....... as daijha said a parent cant stop a kid from sneaking around , but a parent does have the responsibility to teach their child morals and values ...... it does take 2 to tango , and the parents of the 12 yr old girl or boy in this matter in jail wouldnt help solve a thing .... it would make matters worse imo ....... it is everyones responsibility to make sure their child knows the consequences of their actions , mother father guardian ,,, whomever it may be ..... yes kids are gonna do sneaky thing , i am sure we all have some of us were lucky ( like myself) and some of us were not ... and for the record my mother NEVER knew 90% of the things that i really did as a teen. and i am sure she thought she was doing a great job at the time , letting me be free and a normal teen ..... well let me tell you some of the things i did at 13-17 would make dr. ruth blush .......... no im not proud of it ..... but my point is that my mom never knew and thought she was doing right by me ...... i was lucky , i never got pregnant , or addicted to crack or lsd or something like that ....... now years later i have told my mom only about 5% of the things i did back then and the shock on her face i will never forget ....... bottom line is you have to always watch your kids like hawks , and know everything about them , care about them as people with thoughts and fears and love and hate .... understand the person within , not the child within  |
Date: 6/18/2002 12:34:00 PM
From Authorid: 54830
*erhem* i was 11 when i started dating [as in going to the movies] i handled myself quite fine, and didnt let it go to far, i think that if i can handle myself i can date, without supervision. *ANNNND* they still have that commercial on the 10 0'clock news.. GigaBitez  |
Date: 6/18/2002 12:44:00 PM
From Authorid: 10534
The parents shouldn't go to jail for it...But that is pretty bad, getting pregnant at 12. Kids are just messed up these days (i'm in highschool, and the people there are totally UGH...lol)  |
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Date: 6/18/2002 1:45:00 PM ( From Author )
From Authorid: 15157
One was supposely forced LL and also the Mother of the boy who was the father said that if really forced and was so tramatized by the whole thing...why go out and do it again? I mean did she like it? |
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Date: 6/18/2002 1:47:00 PM ( From Author )
From Authorid: 15157
Besides...the last girl shown Knew that she was just as guilty as the boy who did have sex with her. Also One girl even lied about her age and got an older boy in trouble...now that was outrageous! |
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Date: 6/18/2002 1:50:00 PM ( From Author )
From Authorid: 15157
Karma Killer Exactly!...Instead of parents pointing fingers at their baby daughters so called FORCER...they should be pointing at themselves saying....OH I AM SO STUPID!...Der!...and that girl that said She was FORCED...lol well she looked at tad GUILTY to me...she knows she was lieing!...Probably coz her mother would have thrown her out on her ear! |
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Date: 6/18/2002 1:53:00 PM ( From Author )
From Authorid: 15157
Daihja true...ya can`t be around every minute. That is where instilling the best understanding of Sex and the whys and No`s come in. And when a child is 12 they have not the BRAINs to know unless told...so I guess Neglect could be a GREAT Possiblity still |
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Date: 6/18/2002 1:55:00 PM ( From Author )
From Authorid: 15157
DD very well put!!! |
Date: 6/18/2002 2:31:00 PM
From Authorid: 19345
for what its worth a few months ago I posted about a situation where ny neighbor who is a drunk has a 14 year old who she lets sleep and date a 20 year old, you would be suprised how many posts I got saying more or less its her choice and okay, needless to say I was real floored, I couldn't believe some peoples lack of morals, guess I am from the old school, I didn't get hardley any support to call social services but to mind my own business. Well not a problem, now the kid is pregnant and mr wonderful is long gone  |
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Date: 6/18/2002 2:46:00 PM ( From Author )
From Authorid: 15157
Sluggo that is downright sad....It only goes to show society where some parents stand...or in this case lay! |
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Date: 6/18/2002 2:58:00 PM
From Authorid: 54063
When I was in junior high in seventh grade, a girl a year older than me was pregnant. 13, and pregnant! She had an abortion. I ran into her a week ago (this would make her now 17) and she told me she was having ANOTHER abortion. WiccaGal |
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Date: 6/18/2002 2:59:00 PM
From Authorid: 54063
I think parents should definately try LITTLE HARDER! wICCAgAL |
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Date: 6/18/2002 3:51:00 PM ( From Author )
From Authorid: 15157
Maybe some kinda a electronic chastity belt should be made!LOL! |
Date: 6/18/2002 4:00:00 PM
From Authorid: 22721
Very good debate. It's sad when children have children. IT does take 2, so I'd say both need to own up to what theyb did. I'd say some trips to shelters for single moms. Or use a scare tactic.  |
Date: 6/18/2002 4:01:00 PM
From Authorid: 52956
I'm not saying I agree with being pregnant at 12 years of age. But I mean it's not like parents can keep their eye on their kids 24/7. I mean, it's not the parents fault. I mean teenagers sneak around a lot. Maybe they snuck around and said they were somewhere else when actually they were with a boy or a girl or something. Don't blame the parents.  |
Date: 6/18/2002 4:02:00 PM
From Authorid: 22080
i dont think it should be illegal because thats stupid and also if they wanna have sex thats a burden they have to live with if they wanna have sex there gonna have it no matter how hard the parent tries to stop them and also my parents dont care if i do it as long as im responsible should they be arrested? uh no  |
Date: 6/18/2002 4:06:00 PM
From Authorid: 53339
I don't think parents are completly to blame. When I was in sixth grade there was a boy and girl caught in the attic of the school just as they were going to do it. So if the kids want to do it then they will. BabyCry  |
Date: 6/18/2002 6:40:00 PM
From Authorid: 54946
i think its the kids fault im 12 and i have enough sense not to do that!!!! Lexy Kat  |
Date: 6/18/2002 7:02:00 PM
From Authorid: 16845
*eyes go buggie* hmmmmmmmmm i think I was JUST starting to wear a bra at that age LMAO Kids are trying to grow up way too fast now  |
Date: 6/18/2002 10:47:00 PM
From Authorid: 48129
Today in our society, parents are not doing what their main responsibility is, PARENT. They are either too busy with work, dont want to hassle themselves, or just put it off on someone else. No wonder there are so many young teens having babies. I just hate to see when a patient comes in for an appointment (a newborn) in the dr's office i work in, and their mother is 13 or 14 years old.  |
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Date: 6/19/2002 6:50:00 AM
From Authorid: 53900
It is really sad when a baby is born to a teenage mother but not al teenage mother's are bad moms and not all babies born to teenage mothers are unplanned. I got married to my husband and although our first child was unplanned our second was not and I had him when I was 18. The problem with most of these girls who get pregnant is that they are missing something in their lives and they think sex will fill that void. Then they end up pregnant and they think that a baby will fill it ...they keep searching for what cannot be fouind because what it is that is missing is their parent's love and attention. |
Date: 6/19/2002 9:45:00 AM
From Authorid: 29534
Hiya Sis, very good topic for Debates. I have mixed feelings. I feel like the parents should be held resposible for their children's actions. They are in all other cases, why should they not be held accountable for this situation. I mean to me it's a form of Neglect. I feel like it's all their faults not just one person's. The Mother, the Father, the Daughter, and the Boyfriend. The Parents for not guiding their Children, and for letting them date so young. And they 12 year old and the Boyfriend for not being mature enough to realize what consequences come with sex. Those are just my thoughts.
Love ya Sis,  |
Date: 6/19/2002 9:51:00 AM
From Authorid: 53314
The problem is You introduce Sex into there lives,You know there goign to expiremeent with it.Sex ed classes are in 4th grade now a days.Why is this?If you dont want them having sex Then dont tell them about it.Thats like someone telling you theres a hundred dollar bill in the washer.  |
Date: 6/20/2002 1:59:00 PM
From Authorid: 46139
I think the kids should be held accountable just as
well as the parents.*OSHEN*  |
Date: 6/21/2002 2:06:00 AM
From Authorid: 21266
"it takes two to tango" yep, IMHO they should both be executed, regardless of their age.  |
Date: 7/21/2002 6:52:00 PM
From Authorid: 16376
It shocks me how young some mothers are anymore, I know a few teen moms myself and I am glad I am not in that position. I feel bad for them but I think that they shouldn't be having sex in the first place, unless they were raped of course  |
