He just can't get over him (gay relationship...I need your advice..please!)....*PunkStarChikk*

(If you read this...please say something in reply...I need some advice..I need to know what you think I/we should do...thank you!!)

My brother is gay and he was in a relationship a while ago with a dude named Brad. Brad was his first acutal relationship. First acutally relationship being with anyone. Mike (my brother) was real happy that he found someone that he could finally relate to.

It's been many months now and they had broken up. There were several reasons why they broke up. Okay, one thing that you should know...that Brad was married to a female. He cheated on my brother just to use him to see if he (himself) was really gay or whatever. Mike did know this....He did know that he was married, but he fell in love with Brad.

Since they broke up, Mike had changed his cell phone number and his name on the net. He did everything so that Brad could not contact him anymore... Every now and then...He would get really depressed.

Cause he would be thinking of the memories he had with Brad. Me and my friends keep telling him, that he has to get over him. Yes, he was you're first. You wont ever get over your first, not for a long time...But you have to get over him.

Mike feels that he has to call him...But he fears that Brad will just rub in his face that he is so much better than him...Saying how much his life is so much better than Mikes and how his (brad) new boyfriend is better.

Now, Brad has done many things that have hurted Mike. He's lied, cheated, broken promises...you name it.

We've told Mike that he is so much better than Brad. Mike asks why did Brad find someone faster than he could...Mike Has a heart and Brad does not. We also tell Mike that he has to go out and meet new people. The pain will not go away unless you do something about it.

Everytime when he gets a memory of him, he gets a really bad attitude and gets depressed. We keep on telling him over and over again to just stop thinkin of him, to get over him, to move on....etc... He just shakes his head and doens't listen..Right now, its starting to get really really old....How can we convince him that this pain will not go away unless he does something about it??

Have any of you delt with anything like this or had friends that delt with something like this.?? Someone please give me some advice on what to tell him... I feel that I have left out so many other info in here that you all need to know...if you are confused by this..please ask me anything..

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