Date: 8/13/2002 11:49:00 PM
From Authorid: 600
Well, I was raised with spankings and have spanked my children.......In the past, they are getting old enough now that taking away social events or making them write sentences until they think their hands will fall off works fine. I personally think that spanking is necessary at times, with the provision that it's NEVER done out of anger, and only as a last resort. When I did spank my children, I sat them down first and explained fully why they were getting spanked....Thank goodness those days are behind us now though. lol  |
Date: 8/13/2002 11:58:00 PM ( From Author )
From Authorid: 53339
TAC I agree. It should be a last resort. I know that when the child knows that a spanking is coming is much worse than the actual spanking.  |
Date: 8/14/2002 12:09:00 AM
From Authorid: 53052
i think a tap on the hand when under the age of five is a good thing... just enough for them to give you their full attention and understand that it was bad... i don't really agree that much with spanking.. i was never spanked... i think spanking is something what can draw the line on child abuse because if a parent spanks too much or too hard something can result without them even realising... i always got "the long talk"  |
Date: 8/14/2002 12:14:00 AM
From Authorid: 55755
I think there is a fine line between discipline and abuse. It is up to the parents to decide if they want to risk any possible consequences. But I also believe that a slap on the hand or a bare hand spanking is ok. Belts, paddles and the like should NEVER be used, under any circumstances. And then there is the factor of age. Any child under the age of 2 should never be spanked. All they need is a light tap on the hand, and they will figure it out. StarFire
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Date: 8/14/2002 12:14:00 AM ( From Author )
From Authorid: 53339
53052. Well I don't think thatspanking is appropriate for a toddler as well. But I think there are definate situations that cause for spanking. |
Date: 8/14/2002 12:24:00 AM
From Authorid: 56369
I posted this ages ago.. but it got deleted :( I think a majority of people will agree, just a slight tap, or so to startle a child but not to do damage like bruising and such. Im 16 and ocassionally My mum still whacks me and I tell you now I DONT LIKE IT. She knows that too. It agrevates me and I can see why this creates relationship breakages in familys.. lol maybe I should stop bein so nawti :P  |
Date: 8/14/2002 12:39:00 AM
From Authorid: 45800
I have one word for this, OUCH!!  |
Date: 8/14/2002 12:43:00 AM
From Authorid: 38849
My belief on this, spanking should only be used as a method to get the childs attention quickly( say, one or two quick whacks on the rear to get their attention ) then send them to time out and explain to them why it happened. I don't think spanking needs to really go further than that, my opinion of course. --  |
Date: 8/14/2002 12:56:00 AM
From Authorid: 16538
Spanking is perfectly fine as long as you dont use it to change a person as aposed to teaching a lesson. Just no shocl therapy.  |
Date: 8/14/2002 2:50:00 AM
From Authorid: 55980
I was spanked. There is nothing wrong with me and I was a well behaved child. I didn't need to many spankings. So I do spank my children. I give them fair warnings. Sometimes even time out and if that don't work then yes they get a spanking...I am an egg  |
Date: 8/14/2002 3:37:00 AM
From Authorid: 49277
spanking (in my opinnion) is supposed to teach a child consequences. Like things they do that might hurt others, or themselves, but they're to young to understand the effect of what they do, so the parent spanks them so they at least see some sort of negative reaction to their bad behavior. So yes, i think in some cases it's a good idea, but first ALWAYS think of what they did, and if it could actually hurt someone or something in the long-run. And remember- just barely even touching them will teach the same lesson, there's NEVER ANY reason to leave a bruise, or even a red mark. BUt only on children not mature enough to understand compassion, and negative reactions yet. 11+ no.  |
Date: 8/14/2002 3:49:00 AM
From Authorid: 15677
i was spanked an i think it did me alot of good. BUt when i had my children i just couldnt stand the thought of hurting them so a lil tap is all they got. Then they turned out on me for the lack of disipline an did i pay for it. I started spanking an thier behavior seems to be improving but they still get chances with me like the corner time out an no tv first. I think spanking scares alot of parents specially with the way children services works these days......them nut jobs do enough to scare any parent into submission to thier children just because we fear lossing them (  |
Date: 8/14/2002 4:19:00 AM
From Authorid: 54570
I was spanked when I was bad. Actually my father used whatever happened to be in the acre that I was standing in whether it was a bush or a tree to whip me. But I got the message loud and clear. If I had gotten time outs I prolly would be in a federal prison by now for doing something really stupid. But spankings are ok from ages 5 and up to 15. SmoknJoe  |
Date: 8/14/2002 5:08:00 AM
From Authorid: 49025
I grew up being spanked and just like you, if it was bad, I got the belt. I have a two year old and I do not spank him. He gets time out, or I take away a toy or a show he enjoys. Sometimes bedtime is a little earlier. The biggest reason I have for not spanking is this - when trying to teach a child not to hit, you shouldn't respond with hitting. Toddlers don't get the "do as I say not as I do" thing. As matter of fact, as an adult sometimes I don't get it!! So far it works pretty good. All in all, I don't see anything wrong with a spanking. There's a big difference between discipline and abuse. Some people walk a fine line with it.  |
Date: 8/14/2002 5:08:00 AM
From Authorid: 53659
what they said up there i think a couple whacks on the butt can be a good thing if needed *stars above me*  |
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Date: 8/14/2002 6:11:00 AM
From Authorid: 48771
I think if ur spanking a child its ok but sometimes people mistake spanking for beating and they beat there child and say it was spanking so it depends how u do it and why u do it. *~*Jessica*~* |
Date: 8/14/2002 7:01:00 AM
From Authorid: 48993
i have had to spank my son ... for these reasons ... swinging on the curtian rod like a monkey ( funny but dangerous) turning on the GAS stove ... touching anything that could potentially harm him , and letting go of my hand while crossing the street ( a car WAS coming) ..... other than that i have found that taking away TV and corner time has done just fine.  |
Date: 8/14/2002 7:14:00 AM
From Authorid: 61104
I very much agree. I was spanked and I turned out ok. My children get spankings. I think these children that are out of control are the ones who do not get spankings. I will not have my children growing up and becoming like most of these children are today. *Gothgirl*  |
Date: 8/14/2002 8:17:00 AM
From Authorid: 609
My daughter is about 14 months...time out dosnt always work and its not easy teaching her right and wrong at such a early age. We do spank. not hard and its a last resort, she will get a tap on the hand or a light swat on the butt if she dosnt listen or stop what shes doing. My parents spanked me, my father also went to the extreems of physical abuse so the line is quite clear for me, same with my husband but it was his mom who was the abuser. I know the differance between a spank and going too far and, on the last trip up to see my parents I actually thanked them for spaking me because I learned from it and I think I turned out pretty good. When we were visiting I told my mother inlaw about the only time I had spanked Draven in public. She was trying to pull the price signs as I carried her thru a store and wouldnt stop. I told her no a few times then taped her hand, she did it again so I gave her a swat on the butt. My mother inlaw said I should be careful not to do that in public or I could get in trouble. I told her if anyone says anything to me Im going to politely ask them if they are going to be there to be held responsible when my daughter is in her teens and shoplifting or staying out late and getting into trouble, or if they are going to come back and help me try to controll her when she is talking back to me and breaking all the rules I set and society sets...if not then they can kindly turn around and shove it. I think a major problem nowadays is that parents dont dicipline their kids. I hope by doing it now I wont have to do it later...spanking is a last resort but sometimes its nessasary. I will make sure I never go over the line Ive set, but I think just verbal threats to your kids isnt enuff. I was stubborne kid, so is my hubby so good chances are our daughter will be. Taking away priviliages or things didnt work for either of us but spanking did. So Im for it, but as long as the parent dosnt go to far. Ohh btw, I got the belt too at times, dang that thing stings dosnt it lol...my dad had a thick leather belt about 4inches wide and 2 thick OUCH!! lol  |
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Date: 8/14/2002 8:24:00 AM
From Authorid: 609
I wanted to add after reading the other comments that a tap on the had dosnt work for all kids, my daughter is 1 and she is getting spanks depending on what she does, but you dont know my daughter, she may be 1 but she acts older. 'No' she dosnt seem to get, its very frusturating because I didnt want to spank her till she was older but I honestly feel I have no choice, nothing else has worked. And even tho she is only 1 everytime she gets diciplined for any reason and by any method we explain to her why. "Your getting a spank cause you tore mommy's book and we dont treat things like that" she seems to have a love of tearing books apart. |
Date: 8/14/2002 8:59:00 AM
From Authorid: 54830
ages 5-10, go for it... ages 10 in up, id like to see you try it with out getting wacked back... {it also depends on the parent, if they have a temper, than no dont lay a hand on the child} GigaBitez  |
Date: 8/14/2002 9:51:00 AM
From Authorid: 48941
I am a firm beliver that it is ok to spank your kid, if it is something to give a spaken for. I do not beleive in abuseing a child though. I do spank my kids when they need it, and honestly it sometimes does not work, but then again my kids are almost bigger than me, and they are 9,8,7.  |
Date: 8/14/2002 10:52:00 AM
From Authorid: 53284
Having raised two kids, I have to say that positive reinforcement is the best way to get good results. But, sometimes you have to do it over and over and over and over..... It can be quite taxing on the parents.  |
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Date: 8/14/2002 11:06:00 AM
From Authorid: 61830
Well, we live in a changing world and the definition of spanking has changed. I think that spanking CAN but (not nescessarily is) a useful tool. I have not spanked my son, but he is two. I find that other methods work fine with him. For other people I thin it may be needed... But as a general rule it is better to say that spanking is a no no. Too many parents use this tool too often or too harshly, and if spanking is frowned upon hopefully they will seek out other ways. Maybe this reply isn't too helpful, for as you can see, I am on the fence.. (sigh) |
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Date: 8/14/2002 11:23:00 AM
From Authorid: 53052
i am not talking on the bum spanking i'm talking tap on the hand with a stern no |
Date: 8/14/2002 12:04:00 PM
From Authorid: 54987
Spanking should only be administered to consenting adults. The biggest problem with disciplining children (in most cases) is that the parent is not consistent. That is, they say, "If you don't stop doing that you will not get an ice-cream!" The child continues being naughty, "If you do that one more time I will take that ice cream away from you!" and then, "Here is the ice cream... now stop being naughty!" When a child is naughty you have to carry out your threat.. not wait..it should be done there and then. It's like training... you potty train them... you can also train them to behave and learn what is acceptable behaviour and what is not. Coolade  |
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Date: 8/14/2002 1:22:00 PM
From Authorid: 54196
It's when they DON'T KNOW BETTER that spanking works BEST. If a child reaches for a hot stove, a simple no won't always suffice. They will understand a warm and stinging rear end, though. Once a kid is old enough to understand, then you can try words. If those aren't enough, sometimes a spanking is still in order. And absolutely stop spanking before puberty. I get the feeling that'd mess the kid up. As much as I hate to say it, in older kids, sometimes a slap is necessary. Not too hard and not excessively, but I'll tell you, the maybe two times my father slapped me in the face, it stung a little, but that was just a physical manifestation of the dissapointment he felt, and the realization of that dissapointment hurt far more than my face. |
Date: 8/14/2002 5:15:00 PM
From Authorid: 38256
I think that if you learn how to dicipline your kids there is no need to spank them. Too many parent are leinant when their children are young because they're "cute". Then they wonder why their punishments don't work. Or parents make empty threats like "if you don't do this, you'll NEVER come here/ do this again!"  |
Date: 8/15/2002 7:24:00 AM
From Authorid: 61104
I think that you should have children before commenting on this post. I have 3 and even if you follow throgh on threats it does not work half the time. I think if half the children that are out of control today would get one good spanking that makes their bottoms sting for a good hour then they would start to straighten out. *Gothgirl
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Date: 8/15/2002 8:20:00 AM
From Authorid: 38474
Yes I agree with Laddybug 44 her children should be spanked and often, LMAO. No just kidding Shell :) BabyCry I do agree with spanking when it is needed and only with a hand NOT a belt, paddle or anything else. I was spanked VERY VERY rarely as a child and I was VERY spoiled. I turned out to be a spoiled brat expecting things from the world not realizing everything would not go my way or be handed to me on a silver platter. In actuality I don't think that I really grew up until I was out of my mom's house and then the REAL WORLD hit me like a ton of bricks. I think not discipling a child and spoiling a child actually hurts the child worse in the long run. I know there are still times when I don't understand why the world is not catering to me, LOL...........JMHO  |
Date: 8/15/2002 12:44:00 PM
From Authorid: 30477
So many kids today are brats, I'd like to beat the crap out of em myself. So yeah, spank loud, spank proud, and spank often.  |
Date: 8/15/2002 1:09:00 PM
From Authorid: 51070
I got spanked. I got hit with a wooden-handled brush. I turned out okay. I would spank the kid if he/she was out of control and wouldn't listen to me. I can think of worse punishments (yes, I've had them unleashed upon me, unfortunately), and they are mentally wrong. I will not say, though, because it's sick, twisted, and just disgusting.  |
Date: 8/18/2002 9:19:00 AM
From Authorid: 16069
I'll smack my daghters butt if she wont listen to me. The thing is, I rarly have to do it because she knows the concequences of her actions. And I'll smack her butt when we're just laying around. She thinks its funny then. Moral, either way, its not abuse.  |
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Date: 8/18/2002 9:24:00 AM
From Authorid: 16069
^^^Playing around^^^not laying. =) |
Date: 11/6/2002 10:27:00 AM
From Authorid: 49354
I was spanked when I was younger but it was so rare that when I DID get spanked, it was for something bad and I knew never to do it again. A friend of the family has 3 kids and they were spanked when they were younger and the Mom still doesn't object to giving them a slap every now and then when they act up. The other day my Mom and I and the oldest child who is 13 and her Mom all went shopping and to a movie. The girl was whining because she wanted something that the Mom wouldn't buy her. Finally the Mom just popped her hard and instead of hurting her it embarassed the HECK out of her and she behaved the rest of the day. If you have a temper I don't recommed spanking but otherwise, if the kid won't behave, go for it.  |
