Date: 8/16/2002 7:47:00 PM
From Authorid: 12103
Well i think its YOUR job to "teach him lessons" the way YOU want to..its YOUR child..not hers...man thats a hard one..sorry  i dont know  |
Date: 8/16/2002 7:47:00 PM
From Authorid: 15070
Call her, confront her, if she were a FRIEND, she would not have disrespected you by allowing your child to do that!  |
Date: 8/16/2002 7:47:00 PM
From Authorid: 16442
I tell her that if my children needs lessons, either I or their teacher give them and who in the heck does she think she is. And then I probebly wouldn't call her a friend anymore.  |
Date: 8/16/2002 7:47:00 PM
From Authorid: 61834
I really don't see the problem with that as long is she let him do it for a good cause, such as to show him how nasty somkeing is. If she let him smoke i would rock her world
RacerX |
Date: 8/16/2002 7:47:00 PM
From Authorid: 33922
I would be mad too, kids should stay as innocent as possible for as long as they can. She steped over the lines.  |
Date: 8/16/2002 7:47:00 PM
From Authorid: 52866
I would have a choice of words for her too!!!  |
Date: 8/16/2002 7:49:00 PM
From Authorid: 33925
Oh girl..I would be flipping!! That is NO friend..how dare her??? You sound like you did what I probably would have done and then slammed the phone down in her ear..  |
Date: 8/16/2002 7:49:00 PM
From Authorid: 35720
Oh... MY... GOD.... that is the stupidest thing I ever heard! I would flip out on her!!  |
Date: 8/16/2002 7:49:00 PM
From Authorid: 50864
Had a of the richter scale meltdown and went berseark she would probably be minus a few hairs on her head and have a fat lip among other things neighors would have called police you get the picture  |
Date: 8/16/2002 7:50:00 PM
From Authorid: 47699
I think it's pitiful and she is no friend so stay far away from her. She strikes me as being exceedingly ignorant and insensitive. That's just my opinion on the subject.  |
Date: 8/16/2002 7:50:00 PM
From Authorid: 61811
i wouldnt wanna be her if i were you! ~WFP~  |
Date: 8/16/2002 7:51:00 PM
From Authorid: 53836
I would kick her booty...ok...kill her is more like it!!~SpaceCase (seeing red)  |
Date: 8/16/2002 7:52:00 PM
From Authorid: 53806
Well if she's your best friend than you must trust her judgement.....she's teaching him a lesson.....if you let him stay with her you must trust that she's an ok person.....after the lesson he learned I bet he will never smoke anything.....this is forgivable tell her that you don't appreciate this and forgive her!  |
Date: 8/16/2002 7:53:00 PM ( From Author )
From Authorid: 30051
Thanks guys..I am so mad at this person!! She is a sick sick woman!! Who in thier right minds gives a child a smoke?? To me that just opens the gates to other substances..I am so heartbroken over the whole thing..Really a bummer  |
Date: 8/16/2002 7:54:00 PM
From Authorid: 56200
No, that was not right for her to do that. I wonder what the situation was. Was she just smoking and said "Here try it" or did he ask her about it. I would want to know more about it. If he did ask her she should of said that you need to talk to your mom. Your the mom, you should be making the decisions. That's like my friend's mother-in-law cut my friend's daughters bangs without asking my friend, who happens to be a hairstylist. My friend was so mad cause she didn't want her daughter to have bangs. This cigarette thing is way more serious though. Snipit  |
Date: 8/16/2002 7:55:00 PM
From Authorid: 53339
It is not her place to teach him a lesson. She is not the one raising him and if there was a reason that she felt she needed to teach him a lesson she should have told you. I mean if she was smoking and he wanted to try it and wouldn't stop bugging her about it then she should have told you that he was curious about cigarrettes. So that you could decide what to do.  |
Date: 8/16/2002 7:56:00 PM
From Authorid: 998
Maybe this person doesn't see a problem with others teaching her kids lessons with things like cigaretts ... but obviously the overwhelming vote here on this post is that it is not right at all. I would have been extremely upset if I found this out about a person I trusted with my child. One would wonder where she would draw the line of 'teaching'.  |
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Date: 8/16/2002 7:57:00 PM ( From Author )
From Authorid: 30051
Well he says he wondered what smoking was like and she said here try it and see..I can someday forgive BUT I will never let her in my life again..This isn't the only thing she has done to me..I actually did a post today thinking of her..BUT the thing is her Mom is like my 2nd Mom..My kids even call her Grandma..so there is a bit of a problem there.. |
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Date: 8/16/2002 7:58:00 PM
From Authorid: 53339
Well you know what when I was little my dad let me get a puff and it was so nasty. This was when I was little. Maybe 5 and that did teach me a lesson never in my life have I smoked or wanted to. But however that is something for the parent to decide if they want to teach their kid a lesson that way. |
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Date: 8/16/2002 7:59:00 PM ( From Author )
From Authorid: 30051
Ginger..she has no kids..Thank GOD!!! |
Date: 8/16/2002 7:59:00 PM
From Authorid: 14754
i dont blame you for being so mad..what kind of a lesson is that?..  |
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Date: 8/16/2002 8:00:00 PM ( From Author )
From Authorid: 30051
Well I do not approve of that as a lesson! |
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Date: 8/16/2002 8:04:00 PM
From Authorid: 53806
express to her your feelings and try to overcome it! If you been friends with this woman for 11 yrs you must see some good there.....she treated your son like she would her kids not to say it's right but it's HER way of doing things....everyone has ways of doing things that seems wrong. Now If she has been disrepectful to you over and over again then I say this is the last straw and to end it for your sake and for the sake of your son. |
Date: 8/16/2002 8:08:00 PM
From Authorid: 26733
You have every right and then some to be mad. My personal thing with the whole drug free thing is if your kdis dont know about ciggs and drugs they will be to scared to experiment. It's common knowledge that its bad for you. What could a child learn by taking a drag of a ciggarett. I would have some choice words and thensome. You should be mad, all you need to do now is relax and maybe later have a talk with your kid about smoking and such. Good luck, have a peachy night  Matt aka  |
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Date: 8/16/2002 8:15:00 PM
From Authorid: 56200
It's obvious this person has poor judgement. I would not trust her alone with him again. Next time it may be drinking. It is a shame after 11 years. I have a friend who I've known about that amount of time and over the years I see less and less of her. Over time things have just come up where I just can't trust her and so on. I still see her socially sometimes but that's it. Snipit |
Date: 8/16/2002 8:21:00 PM
From Authorid: 53689
She really should have left the lessons up to you. I think I would me mad also. TarheelGirl  |
Date: 8/16/2002 8:32:00 PM
From Authorid: 55755
NEVER send him with her again! Personally, I wouldnt even speak to her again, but since she is a friend of a very long time, talk to her. Explain to her that he is your son, and you will teach him whatever lessons you wish, as you see fit. Make her understand that, where your
children are concerned, it is none of her business, unless they are being injured. And on that note, point out to her that "lessons" are supposed to be helpful, and not harmful. StarFire  |
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Date: 8/16/2002 9:43:00 PM
From Authorid: 54952
If I were you, I would execute a zero-tolerance policy and never contact her again. Obviously this lady is no friend at all, she sounds completely irresponsible for letting a child smoke. It is not her place to teach YOUR kids lessons about drugs such as smoking, especially by letting them TRY THEM OUT. I wish you the best of luck, and may you find others whom will be REAL FRIENDS instead of behaving like this woman. |
Date: 8/16/2002 9:46:00 PM
From Authorid: 27046
Actually if you really wanted to do something about it.....it is really no different than teaching your child the stove is hot and placing their hand on a burner giving them a burn to teach that lesson and it's considered abuse. If you wanted to push the issue you could go in that direction...  |
Date: 8/17/2002 1:59:00 AM
From Authorid: 28946
Well said Azairia.  |
Date: 8/17/2002 7:01:00 AM
From Authorid: 53838
I know the person you are talking about and this girl has not been a good friend to you she has never shown any responsibility and I would not trust her with my dog!!! Run Forest Run!!!!!You have always tried to see the good in this person but it is buried so deep inside her it is going to take God to help her you have tried to be a friend but she has not. I would like you to go to the post that says who do you admire here on USM and read my comment as I think it is relivant to this post.. Old lady aka Mom love you  |
Date: 7/29/2003 1:47:00 PM
From Authorid: 58078
Tell her its not her place to teach him a lesson...she's NOT his mother.  |
