Date: 10/18/2002 12:49:00 PM
From Authorid: 36538
Especially in my home town, there are a lot of as you say, "babies having babies." Girls are having babies at a very young age. I've even heard of one girl at a local elementary school who was 12 having a baby. That's ridiculous. Myself, I'm 20 and I have faced the possibility of being pregnant. I'm not proud of it. It was a very scary time for me and it really made me put things into perspective.  |
Date: 10/18/2002 12:51:00 PM
From Authorid: 56446
ya its scary, i just turned 14 and only 4 of my friends are still virgins, and i have a lot of friends, all between the ages of 12 and 16. i mean come on! keep yer pants on! lol. I want our generation to be the beginning of a brighter future to, cause i want it to be safe fer my little brother to grow up in. *shudders* ewwyy 12 year olds losing their virginity, thats just wrong! lol *raises fist* power to the virgins! lol  |
Date: 10/18/2002 12:52:00 PM ( From Author )
From Authorid: 44525
Yes KC I know,you were very stressed out.Thanks for stopping by.Casey.  |
Date: 10/18/2002 12:52:00 PM
From Authorid: 25828
i think you're right, and the age gets younger and younger for when the majority of them have lost their virginity ----today if you find someone that's a virgins it's so 'sweet' and rare 8-) like jason on big brother 3 LOL *-) i don't think kids should have kids ---but, they're gonna have sex so we just need to accept it and help them get birth control if they need it.  |
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Date: 10/18/2002 12:53:00 PM ( From Author )
From Authorid: 44525
Lol Lost Souls I agree.Wher are these kida parents?If I had gotten someone pregnant when I was 12 my mom would have skinned me alive.Casey. |
Date: 10/18/2002 12:55:00 PM
From Authorid: 27705
yea its scary I'm 18 and from what i've understood i'm the only virgin in a dorm of 50 and that's sad since the girls are all between 17-19 virginity means something to me i'm not just going to throw it away some girls do just so they can feel like they are important others just think they are in love when they aren't really yet the world is just crazy peace and love regina  |
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Date: 10/18/2002 12:56:00 PM ( From Author )
From Authorid: 44525
Yes Heather I agree.I just don't think these kids are doing this on their own.Me and my friends were'nt thinking about sex when we were 12.We were thinking about baseball and how cool it would be to have a tattoo.Casey. |
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Date: 10/18/2002 12:59:00 PM ( From Author )
From Authorid: 44525
I agree Regina.It's getting less rare for girls to be considered "fast".Before it was always the guy who was a dog.It takes TWO to tango.Casey. |
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Date: 10/18/2002 1:02:00 PM
From Authorid: 25828
i didn't think about sex at 12 - but by 14 i was thinking about it ----i held off longer than most of my friends did..i waited till i was 16 -- |
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Date: 10/18/2002 1:06:00 PM ( From Author )
From Authorid: 44525
Well Heather I can't condemn you because you did practice restraint.Are you glad you waited,or would you like to change it all and wait even longer?Casey. |
Date: 10/18/2002 1:08:00 PM
From Authorid: 10245
what I wonder about most is the "technical" virgins.. they haven't actually had intercourse, yet they've done everything else under the sun....  |
Date: 10/18/2002 1:09:00 PM
From Authorid: 6890
AS long as the parents are responisible and the grand parents forgiving young people can survive. but its not a good thing I for one will stay a virgin till I find the man i want, i'm only 15 and don't want a kid. we can chage this be being less self conscience I've had so many teachers that didn't want to talk about it and that really gives us the wrong impression if you want to make a difference you have to speak out.  |
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Date: 10/18/2002 1:15:00 PM ( From Author )
From Authorid: 44525
Me too Mercury.That stuff can be dangerous too.Makes me shudder.Casey. |
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Date: 10/18/2002 1:16:00 PM
From Authorid: 25828
i wish i'd waited longer.....but that's one thing you can't take back 8-) |
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Date: 10/18/2002 1:17:00 PM
From Authorid: 10245
most of the things I hear about I hadn't even considered until I had ben married for a lllooonnnggg time... and some are still NO WAY!! |
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Date: 10/18/2002 1:17:00 PM
From Authorid: 25828
LMAO@ mercury..yeah, to me that just doesn't seem right -----LOL 8-) i knew alot of those when i was in H.S. |
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Date: 10/18/2002 1:19:00 PM ( From Author )
From Authorid: 44525
I agree Bogs2000.Casey. |
Date: 10/18/2002 1:28:00 PM
From Authorid: 53836
I maintained my viginity until I was 18, I failed my promises to God that day and a month before I turned 20, I found out I was pregnant...this post doesn't offend me at all...I stayed strong in my beliefs for as long as I could...this stuff makes me sad too about children having sex. Now that I am married, (six years) father of all my babies, I know what sex is for, and about, but I don't think 12-18 year olds can fully comprehend love or the consequences of sex, the "it can't happen to me" attitude gets so many in situations they cannot escape and they loose out on so many freedoms and experiences due to those careless choices...I am glad I had the chance to enjoy my teenage years, I had some of the most wonderful experiences in my life because instead of being caught up in thoughts of sex and drugs all the time, I was going on awesome trips with choir, youth group, and enjoying other clubs and activities I was involved in...children need guidance first and foremost...if my parents weren't there constantly reminding me of the consequences (pregnancy, disease, being used or disrespected due to free hand outs) I would've probably gone the green mile...on several occasions...LOL...second, the kids need to get back into clubs, sports and arts...the more involved a student is, the less time for naughty extra-curricular activities...my thoughts and I'm stickin' to them  |
Date: 10/18/2002 1:38:00 PM
From Authorid: 46530
There are two ways of thinking about this subject, as in what do we do to reduce the amount of kids having underage sex. Do we A>ban all sexual content from the media (where most kids get their info either directly or via a friend) which would mean that children know nothing about the actions, and consequences of the act. This is partially what is going on now, with parents not talking enough about it. Sex is a taboo in most families and here is where the problems lie because when the topic does arise we are too embarrassed to have a cogent discussion on the subject. Or do we B> Talk about it as freely as we wish. This happens in Holland. Now I know we see the topless quiz shows as commical, but look at their teenage pregnancy rates, lowest in Europe, lower than the US by five times. Everyone above the age of 10 has sex ed classes and their AIDS level is very low too. So what is the answer? Do we keep going on this "moral crusade to make sure the old ball and chain (wedding ring) is applied before we lose our underwear, or do we talk about this properly and in a decent manner with our kids. They will be the adults soon after all and they should be informed of what awaits them once they enter the adult world, whether we as adults like it or not. Personally if either of my two step sons asks a question I will answer it to the best of my knowledge. I hope this will mean that once they get to doing the act, they will know what the outcomes can be  |
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Date: 10/18/2002 1:40:00 PM
From Authorid: 25828
i would say B rather than A farleys, cause with or without the tv - the hormones start to rage at a certian point....so better to be open, methinks. |
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Date: 10/18/2002 1:47:00 PM ( From Author )
From Authorid: 44525
Space Case-Did you have one of those promise ring things?I know some people take vows (like Jessica Simpson SAYS she did,but I don't believe she's a virgin,her boyfriend is that dude from 98 degrees.All the girls I know would kill to sleep with him.)I think professing yourself a forever virgin and wearing a ring like that is overrated because I've heard that people do that,but then one night they decide they're tired of being a virgin and completely throw it all away.I know people are going to do it whether I like it or not.I just wish people would be more careful and use at LEAST one form of birth control,but preferably two.Casey. |
Date: 10/18/2002 1:48:00 PM ( From Author )
From Authorid: 44525
I agree Space Case-it's important for kids to be able to express themselves.Casey.
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Date: 10/18/2002 1:50:00 PM ( From Author )
From Authorid: 44525
Farley's-I take B:If I had a kid,I'd constantly remind him/her or the pain sex can bring as well as the pleasure.I don't even have a kid yet,I don't want to be a Grandpa until my hair is either completely white or completely gone.Casey. |
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Date: 10/18/2002 1:51:00 PM ( From Author )
From Authorid: 44525
^^^^Obviously Heather,we're on the same page lol.Casey. |
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Date: 10/18/2002 1:51:00 PM ( From Author )
From Authorid: 44525
^^^^Obviously Heather,we're on the same page lol.Casey. |
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Date: 10/18/2002 1:51:00 PM
From Authorid: 53836
No the promise ring was more of a mental and verbal promise. I had been with the boy for over a year and we met up during a college weekend...our emotions got carried away isolated in the privacy of my dorm...That relationship only lasted until midway through the following summer break...and I thought he was the one...haha...that's why you should wait...after him, I fell more easily, became more naive and ultimately went through more pain spiritually for letting myself go like that, if you understand what I'm saying...anyhow, I am only telling you guys this in hopes that ONE girl will read this and chose differently for herself then I did...Best wishes to all |
Date: 10/18/2002 1:51:00 PM
From Authorid: 56293
I'm 17 and a Virgin. I believe you should love a person b4 you do anything sexual...And I've never been in love. There are 8 girls pregnant at my high school right now, and 2 just recently dropped out.  |
Date: 10/18/2002 2:15:00 PM
From Authorid: 54826
It's very much possible to have sex before you are married and not be pregnant... And I know lots of people who are more than 17 and still virgins. And I know people who aren't. I don't really care too much, let people do what they want as long as they want to. *noopzie*  |
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Date: 10/18/2002 2:19:00 PM
From Authorid: 54826
I don't think 12 year olds should have sex though, I was thinking of people a little older! *noopzie* |
Date: 10/18/2002 2:19:00 PM
From Authorid: 49498
Im 16 and Im still a virgin  |
Date: 10/18/2002 2:32:00 PM
From Authorid: 52155
I think I got most of ya' beat. I am a 28 year old male and I'm a virgin. I made a commitment long ago to God and my furture wife, that I would wait til I was married for sex. It hasn't always been easy, and I have to remind myself why I made that pledge, but I totally feel that in the long run, it will be completely worth it. BTW, I have a promise ring, that I wear everywhere except to work (I work on cars and don't want it to get messed up)  |
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Date: 10/18/2002 3:08:00 PM ( From Author )
From Authorid: 44525
Congrats Eddo.It's good to see someone make a committment and see it through.Now your future wife will know she is more than special.Casey. |
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Date: 10/18/2002 3:09:00 PM ( From Author )
From Authorid: 44525
Im very sorry it didn't last Spacecase.Someday you will find your other half,he's out there looking for you too.Casey. |
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Date: 10/18/2002 3:11:00 PM ( From Author )
From Authorid: 44525
Social Slacker-good that your waiting for love,bad that people at your school aren't.Casey. |
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Date: 10/18/2002 3:12:00 PM ( From Author )
From Authorid: 44525
Metalliman-that's great.Thanks for replying.Casey. |
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Date: 10/18/2002 3:14:00 PM ( From Author )
From Authorid: 44525
Noopzie-I know it is possible to have sex and not get someone pregnant.That's not what I'm debating.Casey. |
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Date: 10/18/2002 3:15:00 PM ( From Author )
From Authorid: 44525
Noopzie-just a little!lol.Casey. |
Date: 10/18/2002 3:32:00 PM
From Authorid: 53836
LOL...I'm married, he's the half I have to do with  LMBO!! |
Date: 10/18/2002 4:03:00 PM
From Authorid: 12257
I think you're right, it's scary the way that younger kids look at sex today, like it's soo cool, and you have to do it. What ever happened to morals, and standing up for your own beliefs.
I wish people would think more for themselves, and then find the right person and time so it's special.  |
Date: 10/18/2002 4:25:00 PM
From Authorid: 58022
Hey Casey. This is a great post. I'm glad another teen sees this the same way I do, especially since you are a guy. So many guys also think virgin girls are a "challenge" and really try to make them have sex. I will remain a virgin until I marry. I don't really believe in those "church promises" to remain virgin, or rings like you mentioned. I know that I wouldn't want to put myself, my family, and my baby through all the horrors of a teen pregancy. Yes, I've thought of it, as everyone has, but I don't it doesn't mean as much to me as having a "life". Also what I hate is when teens to get pregnant, they usually get an abortion. The emotional scars of abortions are just horendous. If you get pregnant, at least go through with it and give the child life. Anyways, I think it's great that you have such great morals that many young people now a days don't have.  |
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Date: 10/18/2002 4:42:00 PM ( From Author )
From Authorid: 44525
Sorry about that,NOW who's the Space Case lol.Space Casey.lol.Casey. |
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Date: 10/18/2002 4:43:00 PM ( From Author )
From Authorid: 44525
As do I Legend.It seems like it's MY generation---17 year olds--that are doing all this.Along with drugs and violence,teens are slipping farther and farther away from peace with themselves and others.It infuriates me.Casey. |
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Date: 10/18/2002 4:45:00 PM ( From Author )
From Authorid: 44525
Mystery you got your tag!It's awesome!Thanks for stopping by.I'm glad that you are saving yourself,it shows maturity and morality.Casey. |
Date: 10/18/2002 4:50:00 PM
From Authorid: 54987
A GUY called 'BETH BALLET ROSE'?  |
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Date: 10/18/2002 5:21:00 PM
From Authorid: 25828
well i don't know about you koolade, but I was smart enough to go read his profile*-) |
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Date: 10/18/2002 5:21:00 PM ( From Author )
From Authorid: 44525
Feel free to read my profile Koolade,then decide if my tag is appropriate.Casey. |
Date: 10/18/2002 6:04:00 PM
From Authorid: 57225
dude that is AWESOME that you are 17 and still a virgin and you're a GUY!! most guys are all about sex.....wow. lol thats all i can say! :-D  |
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Date: 10/18/2002 6:42:00 PM ( From Author )
From Authorid: 44525
Why thank you 57225.Not all guys are about sex,but yeah there are many out there who don't care about anything but the number of girls they've been with.Casey. |
Date: 10/18/2002 6:48:00 PM
From Authorid: 53052
i think it's all personal choice.. you just don't hear very often anymore about people wanting to be virginal anymore... and i look at it as if your going to have a long relationship with someone and not jump into marriage it is fine.. i LIVE with my BF i am not a virgin we have been together for over 2 1/2 years...  |
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Date: 10/18/2002 7:02:00 PM ( From Author )
From Authorid: 44525
I agree Midnightly,I'm happy that your happy.Casey. |
Date: 10/18/2002 7:14:00 PM
From Authorid: 33925
I was a virgin until I was 18..I chose to wait, but my first time was forced..Unfortunately my boyfriend at the time decided that I had waited long enough..bad memories...I grew up in a Christian home and I had strong values, and I wanted to save myself..that didnt happen..I met my first husband that same year, and within one year (at 19) I was pregnant with my first child..Do I regret it?? No I dont..I had finished High School with honors, and I was working a full time job when I got pregnant..so I was financially prepared..but I was NOT physically and emotionally prepared..I would not change any of it though, and I have no regrets..My past has molded my present and my future..  |
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Date: 10/18/2002 7:50:00 PM ( From Author )
From Authorid: 44525
I'm so sorry Ladyluck,that is becoming more and more common.Guys say they'll wait for you,but then like you said,he decided you had waited long enough.I'm glad you have no regrets.Thank you for replying.Casey. |
Date: 10/18/2002 9:16:00 PM
From Authorid: 51070
I'm 18 and I'm a virgin. Isn't that a little presumptuous? I'm glad I'm not with a baby. People really need to use birth control before they're good and ready.  |
Date: 10/18/2002 9:27:00 PM
From Authorid: 42568
I think it's great when someone wait until marriage. I really respect that. I think it would be a good thing to freely talk about sex. On the other hand, I wish it would be pushed more that people should wait until marriage. I'm against abortion, and I'm not too fond of adoption so if I ever get pregnant, I'd be stuck as a mom. Just thinking about that at my age freaks me out....
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Date: 10/18/2002 9:27:00 PM
From Authorid: 42568
A GUY called "KOOLADE"? |
Date: 10/19/2002 7:10:00 AM
From Authorid: 57054
well i think that it kicks (for the lack of a better word  BUTT that you are still a virgin and you are 17. that impresses me. i think it's so neat. lol. most guys are all about sex... it gets old. well umm... congratulations. lol... i dunno what to say.  |
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Date: 10/19/2002 7:50:00 AM ( From Author )
From Authorid: 44525
Congrats Creepy Freak-I didn't say you weren't a virgin,I'm just saying sex is becoming an epidemic.Casey. |
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Date: 10/19/2002 7:52:00 AM ( From Author )
From Authorid: 44525
Lol Bethann.Thanks for replying.I go to a private school and you should see the pregnant girls in their uniforms.It's not a pretty site.I feel bad for them because the school won't allow them to wear maternity clothes,and they don't make a maternity uniform for our school,so their basically out of luck.Casey. |
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Date: 10/19/2002 7:52:00 AM ( From Author )
From Authorid: 44525
Thanks for replying Stooph.Casey. |
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Date: 10/19/2002 8:12:00 AM
From Authorid: 54987
Is virginity in a man a thing of the past. How can a woman find a virgin man to marry? Some christians believe that men should also be virgins. |
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Date: 10/19/2002 9:44:00 AM ( From Author )
From Authorid: 44525
My parents never really talked to me about sex OR religion,so I guess if I wasn't a virgin my parents wouldn't really care.Casey. |
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Date: 10/19/2002 11:11:00 AM
From Authorid: 54826
I know the debate wasn't about getting pregnant but a lot of the people (and you) seemed to come back to that point all the time. *noopzie* |
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Date: 10/19/2002 12:35:00 PM ( From Author )
From Authorid: 44525
Well,since it is an outcome of sex (even protected--no means of birth control is one hundred percent affective)I think it belongs in this debate.Should babies be having babies--yes I believed that was one of the questions raised in this post.I think,unless your ready for a baby,or an STD,your not ready for sex.Casey. |
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Date: 10/20/2002 8:29:00 AM ( From Author )
From Authorid: 44525
I don't have any boxes to delete comments.Where are my boxes?Casey. |
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Date: 10/20/2002 9:26:00 AM
From Authorid: 51070
Seriously, why would anybody want icky stretchmarks all over their bodies before they're actually ready? And why would anybody want to throw away their life with a baby? You know, once you have a kid, you are tied down and it really consumes you. My mom had me when she was 19 and she was married when she was 18. She divorced my dad and went to New York for a year and half or so. She felt pressured and I don't want to be like that. I can understand why she did it, too. I think that a person should wait until they're with someone whom they love. I'm waiting until I meet the right man to whom I'm going to lose my virginity with. : ) |
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Date: 10/20/2002 11:28:00 AM ( From Author )
From Authorid: 44525
EXACTLY Creepy Freak.That's the point I ahve been trying to get across.Why not wait to do something special WITH SOMEONE SPECIAL??Thanks for replying.Casey. |
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Date: 10/20/2002 3:39:00 PM
From Authorid: 54987
But we all think that a person is special. How would you know if that person is THE ONE to lose your cherry to. And what if that person turns out to be frigid... i.e. doesn't like sex? I don't want someone who's promiscuous, but it wouldn't bother me that their virginity was lost to someone else. And I am definitely in favor of sex before marriage. I remember seeing a t-shirt that had on it the words: "I am a Virgin" and on the back it said, "This is a very old t-shirt" |
Date: 10/20/2002 7:18:00 PM
From Authorid: 39129
Thats because sadly, all "fun" is to most teenagers anymore is drugs/alchohol/sex. seriously, and no i'm not some old guy bashing teens, I'm 18 years old, I'm a guy, and I'm a virgin. I guess you could say that I'm proud of it too because its just stupid the way people are so obsessed with sex and everything these days, I mean..kids are doing it commonly at around 14 yrs old, now come on..thats just sad.  |
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Date: 10/20/2002 8:49:00 PM
From Authorid: 56371
Koolade if you get by with saying cherry your BRILLIANT!This is my post,I am Casey,I got my old account back from Ginger herself,and I agree with you and Ouija.Casey. |
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Date: 10/21/2002 7:20:00 PM
From Authorid: 56371
Actually I agree more with Ouija than you Koolade.It seems that if kids my age aren't having sex their doing something else dangerous (ex.doing drugs,drinking,smoking,vandalizing things or keeping me up until the butt crack of dawn with one of their raunchy parties next door(and NO im not bitter because i didn't get invited lol).Casey. |
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Date: 10/21/2002 7:59:00 PM
From Authorid: 54987
Burp... excuse me! It's OK I don't mind you agreeing with someone else more than me. Feel free. |
Date: 10/22/2002 9:24:00 PM
From Authorid: 43200
Well I am 18 and so very proud of being a virgin and I plan an staying that way until I am married..  |
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Date: 10/23/2002 8:57:00 AM
From Authorid: 56371
Congrats Blue Fairy.Casey AKA The Irish One |
Date: 10/23/2002 9:28:00 PM
From Authorid: 47218
it may seem like no one's a virgin at your age, but do remember that 17 year old males like to boast and that most guys don't want the other guys to find out that they haven't done it yet because it is looked down upon. There are probably more virgins around you than you realize. And, by the way, congratulations on your sensible view towards sexuality. It shows that you are mature for your age.  |
Date: 1/5/2003 12:11:00 PM
From Authorid: 23731
congats on staying a virgin i am also one and im almost 21, i plan on waiting till im married before i do "IT"  |
Date: 2/9/2007 5:52:00 AM
From Authorid: 19586
It may seem like no one is a virgin. But some people are more talk than action.  |
