Date: 10/18/2002 6:14:00 PM
From Authorid: 47699
It's not right for him to single one kid out and demand that he leave. I think you should pack up all of your kids and hit the road. If you kick him out, he's going to keep coming around bothering you. If you're the one who leaves, he doesn't have to know where you are. You should also talk to the guidance councelor at your son's school and explain the situation. Maybe he can be moved into a more advanced class where he won't be so bored and he can actually learn something. I wish you all the best. Take care and have a great weekend.  |
Date: 10/18/2002 6:16:00 PM
From Authorid: 53427
Wow. That puts you in a very difficult spot. You are doing the right thing by choosing your soon. Hopefully your husband will rethink this ultimatum. Maybe you should all go into family counseling. I wish you the best.  |
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Date: 10/18/2002 6:17:00 PM
From Authorid: 53427
oops I meant son |
Date: 10/18/2002 6:17:00 PM ( From Author )
From Authorid: 28336
thanks for the advice.....i am meeting with the principal and the counslers on monday. i was thinking of going back home to my Mom's she said i could come home anytime, and my husband is scared of my Mom so i don't think he would come there looking for me..  |
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Date: 10/18/2002 6:18:00 PM ( From Author )
From Authorid: 28336
i think family counseling might be a good start.....if i could get my husband to go for it... |
Date: 10/18/2002 6:20:00 PM
From Authorid: 58642
I'm 17 so I don't know much about this kind of thing, but ask your son about why he doesn't like the classes and ask him what he would want, remember we kids have our own minds and we need to be heard out. As for your husband...tell him to be reasonable and that a minor problem that hopefully can be fixed is not worth getting worked up about, because it would be a real shame if your husband threw everything away for something so small.  |
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Date: 10/18/2002 6:24:00 PM ( From Author )
From Authorid: 28336
thank you author 58642 i am a strange parent i guess, i believe in talking to you kids.....not talking at them. and i did talk to my son and he told me that the work is just too easy for him and he is bored. that part i am working on, it is just the idiot husband i have to figure out what to do with.... |
Date: 10/18/2002 6:24:00 PM
From Authorid: 22852
Oh Boy, You are in a hard place right now. First and foremost let your son know that you will always be there for him and the fact that your husband is making things harder just boils my blood, sadly your son feels the way you husband thinks of him and maybe only makes the problem worse. When my son tried doing this I told him that he has a choice in life, to be happy or to be sad and mad at the world. But no matter what his choice HE had to live it. My son thankfully decided to make the best of it and today is a happy grown man who has a wonderful relationship with his stepdad. I hope the best for you and your son and I will keep you both in my thoughts and prayers.  |
Date: 10/18/2002 6:45:00 PM
From Authorid: 23610
I don't know, but it sounds like there must be more to this story than just the fact that your son is acting up at school. For your husband to be so set on having your son move it makes me wonder what is going on at home and if your husband does not feel that he is at the mercy of your son's attitude and your son's choices. I am not trying to offend you and I may be wrong....I would just need more information before I could really answer something like this. Is your son held accountable for his actions? It sounds like things have probably gotten worse over a period of time and your husband has just reached the end of his rope. It's not all hopeless though, if you could get some family counciling and if your son could be held accountable for any disruptive behavior.  |
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Date: 10/18/2002 7:03:00 PM ( From Author )
From Authorid: 28336
no offense LadyNyx...he is held accountable for his actions. so far i have taken away the tv, computer games (none of my kids are allowed online) and play station. my son has ADHD and is on meds for it. it was working wonderfully for the last few years but this year and the end of last year he has been acting up again. we tried a new medicine but it does not seem to be working very well. as for my husband, he thinks he was the perfect child, which i know he was not i have talked to his mother a time or two, and he thinks they should all be like him......but my son is being just like he was, he just does not realize it...or he does and it scares him...... |
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Date: 10/18/2002 7:16:00 PM
From Authorid: 23610
Hi, Blue Moon. Thanks for the extra info. I know that, especially in a case with a child with ADHD, it takes a lot of understanding and patience. This sounds like a very tough situation to be in. I would think that after being together for 11 years your husband would see that it is important to work things out and stay together as a family....even if that means getting counseling. I don't know....family's are probably one of the most trying things and yet the most wonderful thing a person deals with in life. Hang in there and follow your heart. I hope things do get better for you soon. Sounds like you have quite a bit of the responsibility lying on your shoulders. |
