Date: 11/28/2002 4:56:00 PM
From Authorid: 1799
i understand how this is,...my grandma still doesn't know I'm bisexual...and i love her so much, but I'm afraid... but, if you feel you need to tell her, then tell her. Just, be prepared for anything...hope for the best, expect the worth.  |
Date: 11/28/2002 4:56:00 PM
From Authorid: 14780
I wouldnt tell her at all....Older people are set in there way of thinking and nomatter what you say they are determined thats the way it is...Just let her think what she wants and if she asks you one day then tell her the truth. Good Luck in whatever you feel the best to do...  |
Date: 11/28/2002 5:00:00 PM
From Authorid: 14464
I think you should tell her. And I'd wait a month so that way you can try to figure out how to tell her. You never know maybe she will take it good. Atleast I would hope she does considering you are her family and she should love you no matter what. I hope everything goes good if you tell her.  |
Date: 11/28/2002 5:01:00 PM
From Authorid: 18516
I think this is something that you need to decide on your own..but do you feel the need to tell her? do you think it would make you feel better if you told her? Katsho did make a good point..older folks were raised differently than we were..they have different mindsets. good luck!  |
Date: 11/28/2002 5:09:00 PM ( From Author )
From Authorid: 50439
Katsho, you are SOO right. With her raising me I learned just how set in their ways old people are. I do want to tell her very bad but on the other hand Im TERRIFIED. I dont know, Im stuck between a rock and a brick wall.  |
Date: 11/28/2002 5:21:00 PM
From Authorid: 56293
I think you should tell her. If you don't, you'll always have that hanging over your head. She loves you now, and she will love you the same after you tell her. Even if she doesn't say it or want to think it.  |
Date: 11/28/2002 5:23:00 PM
From Authorid: 37101
Why don't you tell her in the presense of your other family so they can help stick up for you if your grandmother doesn't react in a positive way? I realize it's probably very scary, but your family said they will be there for you! Best of luck to you. -  |
Date: 11/28/2002 6:07:00 PM
From Authorid: 49539
i agree with smooth criminal..its an excellent idea. hope it all works out   |
Date: 11/28/2002 6:20:00 PM
From Authorid: 59385
well there are plenty of older people that accept it with no problem.well its up to you but if she doesnt like it oh well yuor leaving ood luck  |
Date: 11/28/2002 6:47:00 PM
From Authorid: 60018
If she's so set in her ways then... don't you think that the way she sees you is also set. No matter what happens she's set in her ways for loving you. Nothing you say or do will change that and she may just change her opinion on gay people after this...  |
Date: 11/28/2002 7:33:00 PM
From Authorid: 36766
maybe she just might surprise u and accept u for it...if she doesnt then thats her problem  |
Date: 11/28/2002 10:01:00 PM
From Authorid: 7654
First let me tell you that there is NOTHING that a grandchild could do or say to destory the love that a grandmother holds for them..Yes, we are human, and we do hurt just as you have said..Although your grandmother has stated to you how she feels about lesbians I think that you will find that she will not look at you in that way.As a matter of fact I think she will become more educated on the subject..Just let her know how your heart feels. Yes I do think you should tell her because you have told other family members and friends and she will hear about it from them...Take time to sit down with her and let her ask questions and try to answer them as best you can..Good luck....  |
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Date: 11/29/2002 12:46:00 AM ( From Author )
From Authorid: 50439
That was a really good idea...never thought about that. You know paranormal I never thought of it like that. But, despite the fact that she loves me, she doesnt like me very much. The things that are set in stone ,so to speak, have more pull in her opinion than things that I do or dont do. Shes very closed minded when it comes to things like homosexuality, or interacial dating, ect. Being gay is me, there nothing I can do either people continue to love me and be there for me or they hate me for it. If you cant accept that then you cant accept me. Despite that, that its me, she belives what she belives and thats that gay people are wrong, that if someone is gay God will turn his head or something. Therefore, me being happy and my needs to be loved and supported while Im dealing with finally knowing for sure that Im gay comes 2nd or even 3rd to her opinions and strict beliefs on how people should live, love and act. Im just not sure what to do. Im scared that these things will prevent her from ever accepting me and since the secret is that Im gay, something she despises, she might even push me away harder and dislike things about me even more. |
Date: 11/29/2002 9:55:00 AM
From Authorid: 53052
i don't think it's one of those things you need to sit her down and tell her.. i think it's one of those things that just comes up in a lifestyle  |
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Date: 10/6/2004 6:35:00 PM ( From Author )
From Authorid: 50439
Man I wrote that a long time ago!! Well.... I guess maybe I could've been a little confused. I'm not gay. |
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Date: 10/6/2004 6:35:00 PM ( From Author )
From Authorid: 50439
Man I wrote that a long time ago!! Well.... I guess maybe I could've been a little confused. I'm not gay. |
