Date: 11/28/2002 10:32:00 PM
From Authorid: 19092
I do not let the conflicts of others dictate my friendships. It is difficult at times to "remain" neutral, but not impossible...  |
Date: 11/28/2002 10:45:00 PM
From Authorid: 53128
I don't think that you're being a traitor. I've been in a situation like that myself...still am.  As long as I make sure not to take sides unnecessarily, everything's cool. Of course there's the few little "jealous" spats that I like to imagine are because of me   |
Date: 11/28/2002 10:46:00 PM
From Authorid: 51393
CBloosom it seems you have quite a stressing day today my friend gives you a big *hugs*.I know the feeling trying to treat everyone equal whether their enemies at each other or not.Its not that easy thoe seeing others may implement content of words againts others and just deliberately manipulate others you think so much for.Sometimes it seems its easy for them to do so.The fact remains like you said we all have different harts and character and possibly you find a really good friend for life,but what if these things happnens as i mentioned what do you do then?Nothing to be done and just let things go.I have friends and friends with people i do not like,as long they keep themselves quiet i will not do anything but if they pursue even mnore harrassment towards me then i shall react other than that they do not exist.I am geting sleepy lol if ur confused with my words sorry *hugs*  |
Date: 11/28/2002 10:55:00 PM
From Authorid: 12341
I hope that I will have tried to look at both sides with an open mind and heart. Hopefully I will know "both friends" from their "deeds" and what "vibes" I recieve. As for second hand information, I don't need it, what we see is what we get. I keep my eyes and mind wide open, true values and friendship is never hard to uncover.  |
Date: 11/28/2002 11:27:00 PM
From Authorid: 23367
actually no, it isnt betrayal. as long as you dont talk bad about the person to the person that they despise. I mean, i am friends with two enemies, and you know, once and awhile they'll ask me if i still talk to the person that they hate, and when i answer yes, they pretty much lay off and repect that i hold a close friendship with them and dont say a thing more. if they are your true friends, they wont talk bad about the other.  |
Date: 11/28/2002 11:27:00 PM
From Authorid: 56410
I dont think so. I'm kind of the same situation, but with three people besides myself.... Whenever one says something bad about one of the others, I just say "Okay." I don't really care about what they think of the other one. Its not my problem. I'm not going to get involved. And neither should anyone else. Let them be their own person, and let yourself be your own. Don't let them make you unhappy by trying to tell you that you can't hang out with a certain person. Thats just wrong..  |
Date: 11/28/2002 11:44:00 PM
From Authorid: 30229
NO, you are not a traitor for talking with a person who your friend is an enemy with. I have kept friendships alive when some of my friends were battling with someone.. and I have had friends who remained friends with someone that "I" have had problems with.... I think a lot of this is maturity to KNOW that your friend is NOT being a traitor, but just has other things going on in their life..  |
Date: 11/29/2002 2:37:00 AM
From Authorid: 59385
in no way does it make you a traitor.if they dont like each other thats kinda there problem why should you take sides for no reason your perfectly right in stayin friends with both hugz and kisses from  |
Date: 11/29/2002 5:36:00 AM
From Authorid: 46527
It is not your argument, therefore you are not a traitor.  |
Date: 11/29/2002 6:57:00 AM
From Authorid: 53478
You're totally not a traitor. I base my friendships on how "I" feel about the people. Not based on other peoples likes or dislikes of those same people. (Sorry this is kinda jumbled, I'm exhausted)  |
Date: 11/29/2002 8:12:00 AM
From Authorid: 2030
In the end everyone is responsible for their own behavior and happiness. Tell them both they are idiots and not to bother you anymore unless they have something positive to sayu.  |
Date: 11/29/2002 9:04:00 AM
From Authorid: 1799
its not being a traitor..ur allowed to pick ur friends, and no one else really has a say in it. i have friends who absolutely hate each other, and i sometimes agree with the reasons why that dislike is there, but, i'm still friends with both of them. so.  |
Date: 11/29/2002 9:40:00 AM
From Authorid: 23886
I agree with LSR , *HUGz* Take care,  |
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Date: 11/29/2002 9:46:00 AM
From Authorid: 37354
It is quite srtrange adults behave like middle schoolers. I have no one I consider my enemy. Except those who wish to raise my taxes. Hugo |
Date: 11/29/2002 10:34:00 AM
From Authorid: 12835
It's ^^^  |
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Date: 11/29/2002 10:34:00 AM
From Authorid: 12835
It' easier just not having friends... |
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Date: 11/29/2002 10:35:00 AM
From Authorid: 12835
I give up^^^^ |
Date: 12/4/2002 9:41:00 PM
From Authorid: 16671
another good post I missed!! No your not betraying anyone. I have friends that have friends for people that I'm not overly fond of, but that should have nothing to do with the friend. LOL< YOUR right, I can think them Both right when I hear their side of the story and yes its odd to do this, but I do it too. I hate to pick sides when they are both my friends but dont like each other.  |
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