Date: 12/16/2002 9:09:00 PM
From Authorid: 43185
Just my opinion, but at your age I think you are right to not concern yourself over marriage and kids. Just take care of yourself and be happy. I think in time you will change your mind though. I think there is someone for everyone and you just haven't found that person yet .  |
Date: 12/16/2002 9:12:00 PM ( From Author )
From Authorid: 49354
I told my Mother about what I wrote and she said I would change my mind. She didn't want to get married when she was my age, then she met my dad when she was 19 and was married a year later. I might change my mind, in fact, knowing me I probably will. LOL. Who knows what the future holds?  |
Date: 12/16/2002 9:19:00 PM
From Authorid: 15228
You might change your mind later, than again you might not. Either way is okay. I never thought I wanted kids because I didn't much like kids. In fact, I still don't like kids a whole lot, except my own which works out really well, especially for them.  |
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Date: 12/16/2002 9:21:00 PM ( From Author )
From Authorid: 49354
LOL @ Kelly. I'm fine with kids as long as I get to know them. My Mom's friend has 3 kids and I love them all. |
Date: 12/16/2002 9:24:00 PM
From Authorid: 47162
ahh don't worry about it. There are people out here who can't handle it if you have different views. SOme are so intollerant and insensitive.  |
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Date: 12/16/2002 9:26:00 PM ( From Author )
From Authorid: 49354
Thank you Resilient One. I agree with you 100%. |
Date: 12/16/2002 9:29:00 PM
From Authorid: 16845
I've always wanted to get married...not super soon....then I met danny hehe :D I think ALOT of people when their teens even early 20's don't really think about marriage....pffffffffffft I've talked to people who say 'your getting married?! your only 20 and haveso much living to do! being a wife isn't the ONLY thing you should do!' I simply tell them 'who said I was JUST going to be a wife? and just because i FOUND my someone already doesn't give YOU the right to down me' hehe yeah anyway :D like I said on your other post I know pleanty of people who live fullfilling lives without getting married...and like you said you may change yourmind down the road :D  |
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Date: 12/16/2002 9:30:00 PM ( From Author )
From Authorid: 49354
Congrats on finding someone Becky!!! I hope you're very happy. |
Date: 12/16/2002 9:34:00 PM
From Authorid: 53836
go for it...I don't think there is anything wrong with not wanting to get married. Being single, you have less in your way and will be more likely to succeed...not that my family is in my way, it's just a thought. I know several very successful and HAPPY single people out there, so don't worry so much about what everyone says :)  |
Date: 12/16/2002 9:36:00 PM
From Authorid: 53052
there are MANY MANY MANY people out there like you i have heard of groups(well clubs almost) of people who don't want to have children so your not alone in that feeling(me personally i would like to have 1 child) and i do want to get married... seeing i am in a very very long term relationship now.. it's been 3 years.... but i often say.. to each thier own and i respect your choice.. it is your choice to make...  |
Date: 12/16/2002 9:39:00 PM
From Authorid: 42945
well sweetie, not everyone wants to get married and not everyone wants to have children and as far as I'm concerned that's okay, if thats what you want...not all women make good mothers or wives and still get married and have kids and get divorced and have their kids taken off them..so you do what is right for you hun and don't worry about what other people think..I prefer honesty any day...I'm happily married and have been for nearly 44yrs and had 3 kids, but that was my choice...hugs Zema  |
Date: 12/16/2002 9:50:00 PM
From Authorid: 48129
I dont think you have to feel the need to justify yourself to anyone here on USM who might think negatively of something you posted. I read your post and I found no problem with it. Like all the others have said, its your choice, your life and you might change your mind later, thats your free will.  |
Date: 12/16/2002 10:08:00 PM
From Authorid: 18516
I didn't see the post..but marriage isn't for everyone and I'm the same age as you are so I'm not thinking of getting married anytime soon. I'm still very young and haven't experienced life enough to be in a marriage yet..if that makes sense to anyone..lol Plus it's a huge step and alot of work and responsibility that I'm not ready for quite yet. But you never know down the line..I could meet someone in the next year or so. Just take one day at a time. :)  |
Date: 12/16/2002 10:18:00 PM
From Authorid: 33817
Yes we are, R1. We don't like differences. I want all of humanity to be 100% homogenous.  |
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Date: 12/16/2002 10:37:00 PM ( From Author )
From Authorid: 49354
Thank you for all your comments. I was probably too harsh on that other post and I came off sounding bitter which wasn't my intention at all. |
Date: 12/16/2002 11:07:00 PM
From Authorid: 15033
I likely would have spared myself from a lot of grief and hardship if I hadn't ever married. I was never raised to understand it. I ended up having kids that to me spiritually belonged to other people, so I guess I contributed something good in that way. Now that I am much older and raised myself up by asking for God's help, I and my kids both understand how things like that can happen and we have very good relationships. They don't feel like getting married and don't think they ever will. I believe they may, but as you said, they'll likely be much older and hopefully asked for help from God to understand what their place in life is. Do what's right for you...Much Love,  |
Date: 12/17/2002 3:06:00 AM
From Authorid: 28899
I know exactly how you feel.. I don't see myself needing a peice of paper to speak for me, if I find someone that I want to spend my life with. Parents act very strange when I say I dislike kids though.. They'll either smirk and say "yuh-huh.. We'll see" or, even worse, they'll take pity on me, and say "oohh, that's okay. I'm sure there are others like you." Lmao! Being a mere 19, though, I reserve the right to change my mind anytime I please :p  |
Date: 12/17/2002 3:56:00 AM
From Authorid: 7654
You have a life time ahead of you..Actually I am glade to know that there is ONE young woman out there that doesn't think that she has to get married right away to be happy..Marriage is hard, it is alot of give and take and most of the time you feel as if you do more giving.You have a life time to find that true love..So many girls think that they have to get married to get away from home no matter if their lifestyle there is good or bad.As for children I had a friend that waited until she was in her thirties to have her first child..She was truthful in what she said..She said that she and her husband wanted to enjoy their life first without being tied down..I respect her for that..She now has two children..Another thing, NEVER change your goals, views or life because others disagree with you about it..As the saying goes, what is right for others may not be right for yourself..Good luck with your future......  |
Date: 12/17/2002 4:52:00 AM
From Authorid: 43556
I think you are very wise to take things slow. Your not ready for marriage and kids and your feelings reflect that. Enjoy life! When the right person comes along, you may change your mind, but then again you may not. You may just be an independent person that doesn't want to be tied down. Don't worry about it or anyone else. Just be happy and live long. Hugs!  |
Date: 12/17/2002 9:30:00 AM
From Authorid: 53284
It is so easy to be missunderstood. I hope that you have made your position clear to the masses. In your post yesterday, I thought that your position was clear and I was happy for you that you know what you want ( or don't want). I don't think that marriage and children are for everyone. There seem to be many people who have kids and I wonder why. When I was 18, I certainly would not have been decent marriage material and would have been not such a hot parent. I will say, that even at that age I could picture myself married with children, but I knew that I had to grow up first. So best wishes to you this holiday season.. Bob  |
Date: 12/17/2002 9:39:00 AM
From Authorid: 20296
I do not think there is anything wrong with not wanting to get married:)  |
