Date: 1/26/2003 7:23:00 PM
From Authorid: 60162
Tell him if he loves you then its time to seek a counsellor. Get him to get some help and you can go with him for support. He must do this now before he feels any worse and he is only dragging you down with him. He will do it if he is serious about your relationship and stand by him if you love him. After he has gotten help, he will be a changed man.  |
Date: 1/26/2003 7:24:00 PM
From Authorid: 14780
How old r u guys? I think that some type of counseling should be needed for both of you. I would seriously find a parent, relative or a counselor that maybe can help this kind of anger or depression.  |
Date: 1/26/2003 7:29:00 PM ( From Author )
From Authorid: 53909
I'm almost 22 and he's 20.  |
Date: 1/26/2003 7:32:00 PM
From Authorid: 6558
When i found myself in this situation it seemed like my bf was trying to make me feel bad for him and stop being mad by doing something very dramatic. It's not fair for him to make you worry like this and feel this horrible. Suicide is so selfish. Counseling would be good for BOTH of you.  |
Date: 1/26/2003 7:33:00 PM
From Authorid: 20750
Plain & simple get help! Both of you!  |
Date: 1/26/2003 7:37:00 PM
From Authorid: 53052
your relationship doesn't sound healthy... it almost sounds like you two need a break from eachother these are issues what need to be delt with... you have an issue with him seeing things online(what i think is perfectly healthy) and he fears hurting you and he's hurting himself in the process  |
Date: 1/26/2003 7:42:00 PM
From Authorid: 15675
Well anyone who tries this does need counsling I agree. But I read your last post and I do think your way to tough on the thing he promised he wouldnt do. Its probably really hurting him....I think you have to get over your issues with his 'stuff' he looks at, and then he needs consuling for being depressed, and maybe then you two can be happy, otherwise this relationship will never work...I'm sorry thats just how i feel  |
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Date: 1/26/2003 7:51:00 PM ( From Author )
From Authorid: 53909
Queen, I don't think that I can get over the issue on it. We rarely fight like this. Would it really help him if he got help on this? He says the only reason why he lives is because of me. That he can't live life without me. But I'd really want him to stop saying how much he hates himself and stuff like that. |
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Date: 1/26/2003 8:00:00 PM
From Authorid: 53052
i admit he does sound depressed.. he shouldn't be depending on you to keep him happy... he should be content with himself...not relying on you to make him content with himself |
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Date: 1/26/2003 8:16:00 PM
From Authorid: 15675
Maybe you both need help, him on his depression, and then you two might need relationship counsling. Because if hes dependent on you, and you cant get over his usuage of 'stuff' then you two will never succeed if you cant get over both issues happily (and him promising wont work, it makes him miserbale because he cant do it, and it makes you miserbale because he'll break it eventually) |
Date: 1/27/2003 7:55:00 PM
From Authorid: 47218
agree with everyone else-- this has definitely gone beyond the bounds of a healthy relationship. A normal dispute shouldn't end with one person threatening to stick a sword through their throat. Relationships are a two-way street, which means that if there's a serious problem, you both need to seek counseling. And please don't hesitate, this is serious stuff. My roommate has attempted suicide 3 times in the past few months, and after several close brushes with death, has become very familiar with the psyche ward, (not a pleasant place!)  |
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Date: 1/28/2003 7:07:00 PM
From Authorid: 6558
I can't respect a man that makes you stay with him because you're afraid he'll kill himself if you leave. |
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Date: 1/28/2003 10:26:00 PM ( From Author )
From Authorid: 53909
Hey everyone. Thanks for listening, replying back to me and giving us advice. We talked more and things are starting to work out a bit. He doesn't think that he needs counseling, I don't know how I could get him to do that if he really needed it. He still thinks that he deserves to be in pain and stuff. I'll keep talking to him and we'll see what happens in the future. Thanks everyone. |
