Date: 2/15/2003 6:54:00 PM
From Authorid: 7654
My heart goes out to you..And I am so sorry that you have such a big problem that causes you fear..I lived with a heavy drinker for 16 years and in that time I learned what fear really was..I know well the feeling that you get when they go out at night and then wondering what mood they will be in when they come in..I really wish I had an answer for you that could solve your fear..Mine was solved by a divorce, not as easy for you..But he will have to hit bottom or everyone in the house will have to work together in showing him that ya'll have had enough of the way he is now...I'll keep you and your family in my prayers and I wish you the best....  |
Date: 2/15/2003 7:38:00 PM
From Authorid: 36994
Have you tried talking to him? If so, it might of not been easy, when I was younger my dad was a drinker, and he would go into rages, and talking didn't help though, until he himself realized what he was doing was affecting us and my mom, the thing now is he mainly stopped drinking because he was diagnosed with high blood pressure, and alcohol is a no no. My prayers are with you, and I really hope things get better, maybe his gf should try to help him too! Best of luck to you!!!  |
Date: 2/15/2003 8:31:00 PM
From Authorid: 53052
call the police.. he will be arrested and put into a program at no cost to you.. that is probally the best safest way to go and it will get him into a treatment program what he probally needs.. i also suggest that you prop your door shut when you go to bed... paybe install deadlocks on certian doors so he cannot get into certian rooms(childrens rooms when sleeping or rooms where high valuebles are kept) but i do suggest.. it doesn't seem plesant or a happy thing to do.. next time he causes a disturbance call the police and get him the appropriate help(it will get him into de-tox saving you guys the cost of doing it)  |
Date: 2/15/2003 8:38:00 PM
From Authorid: 46486
The only thing I can offer sis, is to talk to him about it when he's in hope, sober, and hasn't done any drugs for that day.  |
Date: 2/15/2003 9:44:00 PM ( From Author )
From Authorid: 22275
theres nothign his girlfriend can offer.. she has no home and also has a drug/drinking problem. I cant lock my bedroom door thats his room too... they sleep in the living room but i cant sleep in peace hes still not home :(  |
Date: 2/16/2003 12:19:00 AM
From Authorid: 53054
Carena i know what u are going through...i am only 16 years old and i have lived most of my live with my father having an alcoholic problem....there really is nothing that you can do becuase like he cant stop (your bro. i mean) he does need help, but you cant get him to admit that he has a problem he has to admit it to himself first and that is the only way that things will change...im sorry that you are going through this i really am! best of luck!  |
Date: 2/16/2003 11:13:00 PM
From Authorid: 55582
you should move in with someonels until you brother leaves or tell someonels to tell your brother to leave your house.  |
Date: 2/27/2003 7:05:00 PM
From Authorid: 30786
May God be with you. This must be such a tough spot to grow up in, and kudos to you for being so strong through it. You will be a much stronger person for having gone through it, believe me. I say that if it gets worse, tell another relative, a teacher, or even call CPS or the police. There are also child abuse helplines that can give you suggestions. Try to look for some online as well. God bless you and your family  |
