Date: 3/6/2003 3:52:00 PM
From Authorid: 8278
honestly, you need to stay as far away from all of this as possible. tell him he can either have you or the gang. he can not have both. if you stay with him, it is only going to lead to problems for you too. he is putting his life in danger by joining. let him know that you are afraid for him and that you can not and will not be a part of it. i really hope he sees your way and leaves them.  |
Date: 3/6/2003 3:57:00 PM
From Authorid: 14754
actually Cage gave you great advice..please take it, and treasure YOUR life.  |
Date: 3/6/2003 4:11:00 PM
From Authorid: 24845
Oh, hon... the best thing for you. In my own opinion, is to leave him to his gang. If he chooses them above you, then you'll never be first. I know that love is strong. I remember. But you have to love yourself first. Take care of yourself before anyone else. Including him. It's sad besides what if he chooses you. If he doesn't you'll do fine on your own. There are alot of repercussions to the actions you take. Jail, a ruined life, drugs, death. I hate that you are put into this situtaion. I have faith in you however that you'll do what's best for YOU. God bless you and be with you.  |
Date: 3/6/2003 4:41:00 PM
From Authorid: 38406
You really need to get as far away from him. If you stay with him, it will be only problems. Protect yourself. Tell hin that you disagree with his decision of being in this gang and if he loves you than he would leave the gang. Tell him that he has a decision to make and that decision is to pick whether he wants you or the gang but he can't have both. Yes, I know you are in love with him but your life is way more important than him. He will drag you along with him. You would just be better off without him. Good Luck.  |
Date: 3/6/2003 5:07:00 PM
From Authorid: 1799
ppl join them to fit in, to feel wanted. the problem is, now that he has joined, if he tried to get out, they would probably beat him up, or kill him for it. the best thing to do is to get away...explain ur reasons, and say that when things are safe, the gang is gone, and there is no threat and no pain, then maybe it can work.  |
Date: 3/6/2003 5:25:00 PM ( From Author )
From Authorid: 27554
Thank you so much all you guys. I talked to him about it and I couldn't even get the words out that I wanted to leave him. He actually started crying, which is suprising for a macho man like him. He hung up on me and called me back like five minutes later. He begged me not to leave him and said that he would leave it alone. he explained that he wasn't a full member yet and that he would back down. I'm still so worried about him, I don't know what they would do to him. I pray to God that nothing happens to him. I feel like I'm holding him back from something he really wants, but at the same time I'm saving him. I know he wanted to join this gang for 3 years and I'm sooo happy that he isn't going to. Oh guys, I hope nothings happens to him, I'm so worried :( I just couldn't be around that, but I couldn't leave him. I hope it turns out ok. Thanx again all of you. Kisses and Hugs for everyone.  |
Date: 3/6/2003 5:40:00 PM
From Authorid: 29262
Tell him you love him but its either you or the gang
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Date: 3/6/2003 6:38:00 PM
From Authorid: 8278
you're very welcome. i know it is hard to do something like this. but it's called tough love. it may be something he really wanted...but it is something that would eventually hurt him. don't worry about keeping him from something he really wanted, think of it as just keeping him! you are doing him a hugh favor and someday he will know that and thank you for it. |
Date: 3/6/2003 10:06:00 PM
From Authorid: 53052
well it seems almost as if he has chosen you over the gang... and putting you in a situation around a gang your not in isn't a good thing it's not safe for you  |
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Date: 3/7/2003 4:23:00 AM ( From Author )
From Authorid: 27554
Midnighty- He said that he doesn't want to lose me, so he won't join the gang. I know that being around them would be dangerous for me even though he thinks that it won't be. Especially with this gang,they only have latino members, and I'm not. I also know that they would pressuere him into haveing a (latino) gf from the gang, so it would break us up anyway. |
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Date: 3/7/2003 3:33:00 PM
From Authorid: 53052
gangs are not pretty things... i don't think anyone in thier right mind should join a gaing! |
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Date: 3/7/2003 6:44:00 PM
From Authorid: 24845
Bugs, I understand that you don't want to discourage him from doing something that he has "always" wanted to do, but this goes much deeper than a dream that he has. This has something to do with his emotional well being. He feels like they can protect him, that they could be his family. I know what that feels like not to belong. I know that you grasp at straws, but this is something in the end that would or could get you hurt also. Like you said, they'll pressure him into a latino gf, it may not last anyway. So why prolong the pain. Get it over with if he can't get away from them. In the end there is only you that can take care of you. That goes the same for him. I hope this helps you. God bless you and I'll pray for you. |
Date: 3/9/2003 12:25:00 AM
From Authorid: 61472
i kno you don't wanna leave him but gangs are pretty dangerous! If you leave him though im scared the gangs might get really angry =/ try to persuade him not to be in it cuz it makes you uncomfortable! Message me anytime and if you have any questionz i think you can ask a school counselor because usually they're really helpful!  |
Date: 3/13/2003 11:39:00 PM
From Authorid: 18516
I know you don't want to leave him but this not only puts him in danger but it also puts YOU in danger. Gangs are nothing to mess around with and if you betray them they will hurt you..I don't want to scare you but what if another gang member gets mad at your boyfriend and decides he wants to come after you just to get back at your boyfriend? ya know..it just isn't safe..I think you should stay away from him and the gang for your own safety..you should definitely tell him how you feel about this..talk to him please!!!  |
