Date: 4/12/2003 9:09:00 PM
From Authorid: 56840
Yes, others do act just as racist, and more.. You are right, it is an ignorant thing to say. And I know the feeling, only too well, of not wanting to be in the same room with another family member.. But regardless, they are people, and just like everyone else, they need love. If you can find it in your heart to accept them as they are, but tell them exactly how you feel about how they act, maybe they will realize that their ignorance is hurting you. Love is a two-way process, the more you show love to them, even when it hurts to the point of pain.. More than you know, I empathize. I also know a lot of people who have brown hair and brown eyes that aren't mexican. One is German, and some other different cultures, another is a combination of African American and British, and another is Scottish. Pure Scottish, even though it's a rare thing to find a Scot w/ brown eyes.  Please don't feel bad about your looks, or how you differ from your parents; me, I have an eye color that I got from somewhere on my dad's side, but nobody remembers who I got it from.. About speaking to your parents.. You can't get them to agologize by not speaking to them or not telling them why you aren't communicating w/ them.. I learned that from hard experiance with my parents. I would ignore them, but it only made them angry, and I was hurt just as much from that than what made me decide to not speak to them. Sometimes I get the gist that my parents are racist against African Americans, but I can only pray that they think harder about their opinions before making assumptions.. I hope that my words have helped you in some way. Take care..  |
Date: 4/12/2003 9:55:00 PM
From Authorid: 53052
it's sad when some parents are that nieve towards other ethnic groups....you need to tell your parents that what they said was uncalled for and disgusting and you never want to hear those things again from them... ask them how they would feel if people were saying things like that about them  |
Date: 4/12/2003 9:59:00 PM
From Authorid: 39887
They have a right to their opinions, maybe they know something you don't. Just be yourself and don't worry what others think because if you do you will always be unhappy about something.  |
Date: 4/12/2003 10:02:00 PM
From Authorid: 57830
Well, my mom and brothers are VERY racist and i find it totally disgusting! Maybe you could ask them not to be so racist around you if they aren't going to change (as in... if they aren't going to stop being racist completely).... I told my mom not to use certain words around me... she has stopped... for the most part.. so its cool... but yeah? That does suck how people can be so racist though!  |
Date: 4/12/2003 10:47:00 PM
From Authorid: 11721
You would not believe the fights and I mean knock down drag out fights I have had my parents because they didn't want me to go out with anyone who wasn't white! I was also not allowed to be friends with black people....hey waht they didn't know won't hurt them. I know where you are coming from and I feel for your situation. My solution no matter how lame it is- just ignore it. If you think your dad would listen to you if you said something to him it might be worth it but I know my dad will not listen to a single thing I say so I don't even try. Good luck!  |
Date: 4/12/2003 11:03:00 PM
From Authorid: 12341
I wish I could help. Growing up, my folks were very against any one of us dating or marrying anyone besides caucasians. They were, in my mind, horrible. Today they are so different. What changed? I truely don't know, but all three of their of their great grandchildren are Hispanic, they are proud of them, and love them unconditionally. I recently had a younger co-worker say to me, that her father would never accept bi-racial grandchildren. I told her, love makes everything possible. Others do think like this, but they can change. Life does has a way of bringing changes, sometimes for the good.  |
Date: 4/13/2003 12:10:00 AM
From Authorid: 62085
you are puerto rican? or dominican republic? tell your dad, that is about as crazy as a asian, say korean talking about a japanese person, but yet that happens too, or Italian are considered white, but irish peeps and italians cut each other down, i imagine when they meet jesus he will appear to every racist, in the form which they hated-- the KKK man will see him as black, ur dad will see him as a mexican, to know that he was wrong, what does race or wealth have to do with it, i mean jon benet ramsey's dad is white and a millionaire, and he raped and killed her, and the mom helped cover it up, so there ya go on which race will do what crime...  |
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Date: 4/13/2003 12:12:00 AM
From Authorid: 62085
tell your dad mexicans from the providence of chiuhauha in mexico have blonde hair etc sometimes, they have some spain/portugese blood in them, from cortez! and hernado de soto~ days. |
Date: 4/13/2003 1:36:00 AM
From Authorid: 61472
my dad's the same thing except with another race. Well i think you can go and talk to him about it without him not knowing what you're upset about. If he doesn't understand then jus pretend you never heard it. I know sometimes it'll get really annoying. If you really want to, you can get a school counselor to go talk to your dad or your sister, if you have one that is. Or you can bring a Mexican friend over and show them how great a friend they can be! =D hope this helps message me if you need any help! =)  |
47983 Category:(General Advice) Created:(4/12/2003 8:44:00 PM)