Date: 5/23/2003 1:33:00 PM
From Authorid: 16845
I think change is good....But it needs to be mutual.....LOL Don't try and change someone if they don't want to....I mean if you change them than whats the point in marrying them!? I mean your marrying them for them....not for what they could be after you work on them for a while....But yeah Like I said over time change can be a good thing so long as it's mutual and no one is forced to change.  |
Date: 5/23/2003 1:37:00 PM
From Authorid: 33925
I think when you get married you are going to change regardless..You have chosen to make a lifelong committment to another person and with that committment comes responsibilities..  |
Date: 5/23/2003 1:57:00 PM
From Authorid: 15997
Why even try to change someone...you knew who they were when you married them. I think its stupid to think that after youre married you can change a person. But hey maybe it is true that you find out who you really married after you've married them...the true colors finally come out.  |
Date: 5/23/2003 2:06:00 PM
From Authorid: 53284
I think there are more women than men who see the potential in their mate and try to influence them in that direction.  |
Date: 5/23/2003 2:19:00 PM
From Authorid: 28848
Right after I married my husband he started telling me all of the things that I needed to change about myself and how I should act and what I should do in a given situation.. LoL...I think he had some kind of misguided assumption that I was nothing more than some subservient, mindless nitwit. Well we fault about this endlessly. Until he finally realized that I wasn't ever going to give in to him. But then later on in our relationship things started to arise in my husband that I didn't like and thought should be changed. Of course, they never were changed, and probably never will. I think that I am finally realizing that people are who they are and you might find out that you really don't like who they really are, but you have no right or reason to try to change a person. If you don't like them, just let them go. I'm currently in the process of doing just that.  |
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Date: 5/23/2003 2:21:00 PM
From Authorid: 28848
Yes LG their true colors really do come out after the marriage... What I don't understand is why someone would want to live a life based on lies or pretending to be something they're not. |
Date: 5/23/2003 2:53:00 PM
From Authorid: 3538
I am about to find out on this one. I am getting married on June 28th, so I hope no one changes each other, because things are fine the way they are now/.  |
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Date: 5/23/2003 2:53:00 PM
From Authorid: 3538
I am about to find out on this one. I am getting married on June 28th, so I hope no one changes each other, because things are fine the way they are now/. |
Date: 5/23/2003 8:15:00 PM
From Authorid: 53558
Married makes people grow up. Good post, BusyBee. Great big hugs. Take care.  |
Date: 5/24/2003 10:38:00 PM
From Authorid: 53052
i think that is the one flaw... people look to change the other... don't marry a person if you cannot live with their faults and personality quirks.... don't change them...  |
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