Date: 7/10/2003 8:47:00 PM
From Authorid: 53427
Thats awful. She doesn't sound like a true friend at all. Its sad that you get taken advantage of when you try to help someone out. I hope things get better for you soon and I'm sorry to hear about your marriage breaking up.  |
Date: 7/10/2003 8:50:00 PM ( From Author )
From Authorid: 45948
Thanks snook!! It's been a rough couple of months for me. Sometimes I just get reallllly frusterated with life now and then and this is one of them times. I just lost my car since I couldn't afford it and now this........ugggggg!  |
Date: 7/10/2003 8:53:00 PM
From Authorid: 8905
Ouch, Im sorry to hear that.... Here hoping its gets better.....  |
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Date: 7/10/2003 8:55:00 PM ( From Author )
From Authorid: 45948
Thank you Phantom Crow. Love, |
Date: 7/10/2003 8:57:00 PM
From Authorid: 53052
unfortunately it kills me to say this but it doesn't look like yoru ever gonna get the money back... you can call the police and tell them she stole it but that is sort of lying.. you can talk to HER mom maybe she can do something or you can call the peoples court to see if you can get it back that way...  |
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Date: 7/10/2003 8:58:00 PM
From Authorid: 53052
i have learnt this lesson more then once.... a friend, a BF and if you don't catch them with the cash right in hand you can just call it gone.... your not the only one unfortunately.. and sometimes getting it in writing doesn't help much either unless you take ti to court |
Date: 7/10/2003 8:59:00 PM
From Authorid: 28190
awww that isnt right at all Sunshine :( Maybe you could print this post, put it in an envelope, and send it to her, just so that she can see, that WE think she is wrong! lol :) I cannot understand SELFISH people like that at all, and I absolutely cant stand when you loan someone some $ you worked hard for, then they say,"I have bills!" I mean What the heck? Do they not think you dont have bills too, and that they Selfishly asked for help, but being a good friend that you are, you help, then nothing is returned... Man, people like that just steam my vegetables BAD! lol.. If I didnt live so far north from ya, I would probably come down and tell her a piece of my mind for that :( Im so sorry you have to go through this hun.. It isnt fair nor is it right... *hugs*  |
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Date: 7/10/2003 9:01:00 PM
From Authorid: 28190
Actually re-reading your post, you have a legal recourse... Now, if you can get her to admit, or you can get the original email you sent her and it has the price in it, you can actually sue her in small claims and get the money back. If she said in her email back that she would, "pay it back" then that right there is enough proof on the proponderance of the evidence to show you are owed that money back.. :) Remember to save your emails and print them, they can be key in a lawsuit sometimes :) *hugs* |
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Date: 7/10/2003 9:14:00 PM ( From Author )
From Authorid: 45948
Unfortunately, Amanda, the only email I have left is the one where she said she has bills to pay and that she will pay me back when she can. I should send her another one and make sure I include the dollar amount in it because the ones I have don't have the amount of money. Thanks for the advice and who know's....maybe you'll see me on the People's Court! LOL |
Date: 7/10/2003 9:23:00 PM
From Authorid: 24924
I have never, nor will I ever "loan" money to a friend. If they need it, I GIVE it to them. That way, I am not disappointed; I do not expect repayment of any kind. I tell them upfront, that it is not a loan; it is a gift. If you are going to stipulate that it IS a loan, then you need to have everything put down on paper, and signed, witnessed, and and all that legal stuff. May I suggest that you just chalk this up to a bitter lesson learned, and vow never to "loan" money to anyone again. Especially since you could not even afford to "loan" it in the first place, much less give it to someone. For your "friend" to even except your offer, or ask you for it, when you are not in a position too, speaks volumes for her as far as her intentions, and is a big CLUE to pay attention too with regards to anyone in the future, should the same situation arise again.  |
Date: 7/10/2003 11:31:00 PM
From Authorid: 3998
this happened to me once... and unfortunly we are not friends anymore... what i did though was hunt her down, i would go to her work and her home and forget the phone etc.. i had to show up in person. sometimes i only got 10.00 but i didnt care cause i made her pay me back little by little.. she started using crank and also her new beau about the same time i lent her the dough, i didnt know though.. anyhoo its so sad that it has come down to this with the both of you. and i am sooo sorry... just keep on pushing thats what i had to do much LUCK *hugs* roseann  |
Date: 7/11/2003 2:45:00 AM
From Authorid: 33925
There are a couple things I have learned over the years and one is NEVER lend money to friends or family! It almost always bites you in the butt in the end..Sounds like this "friend" is a real winner..they hung up on you and then emailed you?? How childish is that, and how cowardly!  |
Date: 7/11/2003 7:49:00 AM
From Authorid: 58611
Tell her parents and then tell her if she cant pay you back that you will take her to small claims court. That is really really rude and very inconsiderate. But yeah, call her parents.  |
Date: 7/11/2003 7:58:00 AM
From Authorid: 44321
Such a shame, for your kind heart and generous nature you got kicked in the butt!! what a rotten thing for a so called friend to do,she knows you are struggling and that it was not easy for you to loan her that money.I don't think you will see that money anytime soon if even at all.From now on you get everything in writing and notarize it if you have to or just say No from now on to anyone asking for money.I am sorry this is all happening to you.  |
