Date: 7/13/2003 8:45:00 PM
From Authorid: 8278
i get the same way! people always see me as "laid back" and everything. but inside i am fuming! but my problem is, i let it build up and build up until i pretty much explode. then it is usually my poor husband who has to deal with it. LOL. i wish i had some advice to give you, but i think i am going to bookmark this and see what others have to say. sorry i couldn't be of any help  |
Date: 7/13/2003 8:45:00 PM
From Authorid: 30229
Yep, I agree... people ARE getting RUDER... I have noticed that for a couple of years now... dont know why, but it is happening.. :( I always try my best to ignore them, because MY peace of mind means more to me than worrying about their rudeness... I always try to keep my peace of mind at all costs, so I dont allow these people to come in and shatter that...  |
Date: 7/13/2003 8:48:00 PM
From Authorid: 47296
Jessica, I was the same way for years. There is no easy way to get past the anger. It takes time to build your self control, and a lot of patience. I was told something years ago that helped. You have to be like a duck, and learn to let things roll off your back like it was water. It isn't easy, but with time you can do it.  |
Date: 7/13/2003 8:51:00 PM ( From Author )
From Authorid: 53900
Here is an example...I was at teh gas station tonight with my daughter, youngest son and my husband my daughter ran in to use the restroom and this girl(she looked about 18-20) pulled in and parked abuot 5 inches from my door. My daughter gets in on teh same side as me so there was no way I could open the door she looked when she pulled in and saw she was to close but I guess she did not care...I looked to see how close she was then looked at her and she said "what" real snotty I told her "you are to close" She pulled out tehn pulled back in about 2 inches farther away then looks and says "Happy?" I swear I wanted to smack her. I mean I am usually very nice and this would not have been such a big deal if she had just straightened her car when she realized she was to close and not been so snotty over it.  |
Date: 7/13/2003 9:02:00 PM
From Authorid: 36901
I have a very bad temper as well, so I don't have any advice. Maybe we'll both learn something to help us in the replies.  |
Date: 7/13/2003 9:14:00 PM
From Authorid: 16705
you sound just like me but i've learned that those strangers are not worth draining my energy from me. think about it are they worth your time NO you have more important things to consider like your family so just keep your cool and pray and GOD will make it right. no stranger is worth going to jail for. you are going to meet people that get on your nerves but you have to over look them and go on with life. be strong my friend for you reap what you sow. all my best to you. Hamb918  |
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Date: 7/13/2003 9:16:00 PM ( From Author )
From Authorid: 53900
Yea Apryl maybe...I usually just try to ignore but like Cage said it builds and builds until one day I just explode and then it is usually over something really small. I hate being like that and I really hate the feeling of being angry. I just wish I knew some technique t use to just say ok I am going to ignore this I am going to walk away and let the other person just feel like an idiot for being so rude. |
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Date: 7/13/2003 9:17:00 PM
From Authorid: 62264
This might sound weird, but before you go out, close your eyes, breathe in and create a circle of bright light around you. It might be hard at first but try it. You should feel something once you do it, The idea is that their emotions, their energies won't affect you. |
Date: 7/13/2003 9:22:00 PM
From Authorid: 36704
don't let it build and build, try to deal with each thing as it happens  |
Date: 7/13/2003 9:30:00 PM
From Authorid: 50678
Well when you get angry or stressed I would suggest you lock youreslf in the bathroom and take a long bath and relax, or if you aren't close to home, go for a nice long walk and if you have a walkman listen to music while you do, if that still don't work try meditation, or just go into your bedroom lock the door, light a lot of candles and put on soft music and just lay on the floor and close your eyes. Another way is if you have the time and money treat yourself to a Day Spa for a day. The opject is to get away the every day people you are around!!! I really hope you try some of my advice and I wish you luck!!! Blessed Be!  |
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Date: 7/13/2003 9:33:00 PM ( From Author )
From Authorid: 53900
Yea I will try some of that it is not the people I live with who usually make me angry(well not counting my husband although he just annoys me sometimes not really makes me angry) it is other people. I will try that though I am going to try to start letting things go instead of getting ticked off over little stuff that wont matter tomorrow. |
Date: 7/13/2003 9:37:00 PM
From Authorid: 53052
i just try not to allow myself to take things personally... that and get yourelf a punching bag... take out all your stress on it and build up those arm muscles!  |
Date: 7/13/2003 9:58:00 PM
From Authorid: 13897
what i think is the best thing for that.. is to go by yourself somewhere and count to ten and breath deeply. it helps you take a little break and relax  |
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Date: 7/13/2003 10:03:00 PM
From Authorid: 13897
hehehe i learned that in elementary school.. =D the things you learn as a kid.. amazing! |
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Date: 7/13/2003 10:06:00 PM ( From Author )
From Authorid: 53900
Yea MagentaBlue I do that also and it does work sometimes |
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Date: 7/13/2003 10:07:00 PM ( From Author )
From Authorid: 53900
Yea Midnightly that is what I need I have actually been looking at them for awhile... |
Date: 7/13/2003 10:42:00 PM
From Authorid: 51587
I know what you mean..I have that alot..I get mad very easy. But what i do...is just go into my own little world and just think of things that i like. or i even listen to music loud *i love loud music* or read, clean. or just do something you enjoy doing to help you not be so stressed out. I hope this helps you alittle *hugs*  |
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Date: 7/13/2003 10:50:00 PM
From Authorid: 51587
I think i surpise ppl though out in public since of me being an teenager and all. I'm so nice to older ppl when i'm out. I help ppl or open doors for them when they look they are having problems. I get such of a surpised looks. Its great. *huggs* |
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Date: 7/13/2003 10:59:00 PM ( From Author )
From Authorid: 53900
Yea I do that too I am very polite *most of the time* sometimes though something someone will say or do will just rub me the wrong way and I will tell them off. |
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Date: 7/14/2003 12:23:00 AM
From Authorid: 53052
i bought mine from canadian tire.. but you can get a good deal at walmart... you don't need a FULL sized bag just a half sized one i had and it had a bungy cord that tied it to the floor but it was great it served it's purpose but get PUNCHING BAG gloves to go along with it!! the gloves are a fairly important |
Date: 7/14/2003 9:29:00 AM
From Authorid: 53284
Sweat and laughter is my prescription for mental health. Every day you need to get exercise preferrably aerobic for at least 30-60 minutes. The second thing is every day you need a good sustained laugh. It's best when you can laugh with your family. Read a funny book, tell them a joke or a silly story. (The internet is a great location for jokes, riddles and other types of foolishness). If you do this the same time everyday your family will begin to expect it and appreciate it. I alway did the humor thing at the dinner table usually towards the end of the meal. So sweat and laughter will make you a happier person. Try it, it does work.  |
