Date: 7/27/2003 10:33:00 PM
From Authorid: 53052
great post... it could be applied to a heck of alotta debates around here*L*  |
Date: 7/27/2003 10:42:00 PM
From Authorid: 42568
Hmm... this is what I think. There is a place and time for everything. I don't get into debates much because I have learned from experience that it doesn't really get you anywhere; just leaves you frustrated. Anger that isn't expressed while sober can be a sign of repressed feelings/emotions however. If they need a substance to release those thoughts or feelings, then they aren't doing that great of a job listening to their conscience. Mostly though I think it's best to leave a person alone. Maybe I think this just because I know myself the best and I am very stubborn when it comes to this. I think what most people don't realize is that there's only one person that can change this particular person and that's that one person - no one else. Also, just like how people say that every joke has some truth to it... I believe that most people fear their own conscience and store most thoughts into their subconscious. If by some release a 'thought' is expressed, there is always some truth to it. A person may say, "Oh I didn't mean that... " really, they do to some extent. I'm just too much of a Freud fan... I'll stop.   |
Date: 7/27/2003 10:51:00 PM
From Authorid: 53900
I agree for the most part but I dont know but to me there is nothing worse then someone who knows I am angry at them and they have done something to cause me to get angry to just sit there and say nothing...  |
Date: 7/28/2003 12:30:00 AM
From Authorid: 21867
Yep...the easiest variable to alter in any crisis situation is yourself. In any Crisis Situation there are 3 basic variables: 1)The Person 2)The Environment 3)Yourself. The person is the hardest to alter (without taking them out of course), for that ultimately takes time to effect change. The Environment can be altered simply by moving from the situation, or removing objects within it that could pose threat. But again, that is a variable harder to change that #3 Yourself. Your response to any Crisis Situation is more important, for it is immediate and under your control...keeping a cool head, a prepared and pro-active head will see you right in most situations. Having been in more than a few Crisis Situations with work and various life experiences, its yourself that is the key to the outcome. Peace,  |
Date: 7/28/2003 3:21:00 AM
From Authorid: 62116
I'm sorry... was that de-fuse or diffuse?
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Date: 7/28/2003 8:56:00 AM
From Authorid: 58611
Good post! thanks for sharing the information!  |
Date: 7/28/2003 9:55:00 AM
From Authorid: 54987
Moon Girl you are so right and this is excellent advice for us. I would like to add to your excellent post that when one drinks it lower our inhibitions. Therefore, when an angry drunk is spouting off about how they feel ... it's true.. it is really how that person is... it is really now they feel. When sober again, the wall that prevents our true feelings from emerging is up again, they feel bad... they say the didn't mean it... it was the drink talking. The fact is... that is their true feelings. You are right to say let them vent as it is healing for them. However, if you really want to find out what someone true persona is ... give them a few drinks and see how they are. Thank you for the post.  |
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