Date: 9/20/2003 4:08:00 PM
From Authorid: 35160
call DHS and report that man b4 something really bad happens. it will only get worse!!!!  |
Date: 9/20/2003 4:53:00 PM
From Authorid: 5252
have you ever watched radioflyer? well it's about these two kids and their mom. the b/f of the mom abuses the younger son, and wont touch the older one. finally they have enough of it and the younger one makes like an air plane out of a red wagon and flys away, he leads a happy life afterwards, okay so the point of me telling this is, that you need to tell someone, wether it's your parents, his mother, or the police...they NEED to know. if you don't things will only get worse! :(  |
Date: 9/20/2003 5:04:00 PM
From Authorid: 51463
call Social Services and report the behavior, tell his mother, do anything and be there for him when they go because sometimes they go to a house and the kids are so frightened they won't do anything. They'll remove him from his house for some time while things get straightened out there- this happened to my cousins as well and they had to stay with us for a month or so. But do it soon =-bootz-=  |
Date: 9/20/2003 6:45:00 PM
From Authorid: 33925
Tell the boys Mother! If he is being abused SHE needs to know..Tell his REAL Father, Call the police, call social services..ANYTHING!! This needs to stop before it gets any worse.  |
Date: 9/20/2003 6:50:00 PM
From Authorid: 15394
if he is cutting, he is obviously overwhilmed... I am not one to hesitate on getting teens help when they are obviously reaching out, but I do understand his fear of "messing up" peoples lives. Maybe if you point out that by allowing this he is doing more damage than good, or if you point out that while he may be taking the abuse now, will the little sis be taking abuse later on when he is gone?? Mom should know, but it would be best to come from him and not you, HOWEVER, if he will not get some help, perhaps you should go to your parents, or to his father, or someone in authority.  |
Date: 9/20/2003 9:13:00 PM
From Authorid: 29532
I agree with others, tell someone who knows him. Or the cops. Something has to be done IMMIDIATELY!  |
Date: 9/20/2003 9:46:00 PM
From Authorid: 44850
okay ... i have been in your spot before ... and, to be honest, DO NOT call the cops ... call the mother, or have the young man call the police. what happens when a 3rd party calls, is the police show up, inspect the bodies of the children and if there are no visiable bruises, nothing can be done. your heart is in the right place, but don't take legal action, talk to the mother, or convince the young man to take legal action. i can tell that you care, use that passion to explain to him that it would be the RIGHT thing to do ...  |
Date: 9/20/2003 10:28:00 PM
From Authorid: 51070
3 words - tell the mother. Immediately. Before things get worse.  |
Date: 9/20/2003 10:31:00 PM
From Authorid: 13119
Tell your parents!! He is your cousin and they should have contact with his mother and real father. Impress upon them what is happening and that he has taken to cutting himself. He needs help now.  |
Date: 9/21/2003 4:00:00 AM
From Authorid: 62146
Well I think you should tell the cops or at least tell his mum if he is cutting his wrists by the sounds of it he can't take it no more you have got to help him. (((hugs))) hope it works out for you.
*Cosmic freak*
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Date: 9/21/2003 4:30:00 PM
From Authorid: 40979
Well if he is too afraid to tell anyone then YOU need to step in . This guy could go too far and really hurt your cousin . Or your cousin could hurt him self if he cuts his whrists. You would be doing him a favor by telling someone in your family. Sadly , no one would probably beleive you . So , why not copy one of the internet conversations between you two and show it to someone in your family who could help . :)GOOD LUCK !!!
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Date: 9/21/2003 7:08:00 PM
From Authorid: 39887
I say start by telling his mother. Let her know and if that does not help him, report it to the authorities, especiall if he is threatening to take his own life.What worries me is why does he love the girl so much and not him, I would be suspicious of that too.  |
Date: 9/21/2003 8:20:00 PM
From Authorid: 34487
He should tell his father. His father has not only a right to know about his stepfather abusing him but a right to intervene. His Dad will probably insist he moves in with him quicker. One other thing you may want to tell your friend.... I was abused by my stepfather also, as was my sister. I took his abuse for many years and didn't tell anyone, until I saw him do the unspeakable. He socked his own daughter, my half-sister who was 3yrs old at that time, in the tummy. I was terrified for her and then knew that no one was off limits from his abuse. There are no guarantees on who is safe from an abuser. My stepfather was an alcoholic and was physically abusive. I don't know if his stepfather is one but regardless, when in a rage he could hurt anyone. Right now he's targeting your friend but once he's gone, who knows who he'll target next. He should report this to the authorities on the very next incident and before doing so, tell his dad to pick him up and take him to fill out the report. He should then, not go back to his mom's house without someone like his father there, for protection. Good luck to him and you.  |
Date: 9/22/2003 7:31:00 PM
From Authorid: 61920
Even though he might not like you calling the police, DO IT! Just letting him suffer like this is bad enough, and letting it persist is worse. And, if you don't want to call the cops, then either call his real parents, or call a company that deals with that kind of behavior. Trust me; this needs to be stopped.  |
Date: 9/26/2003 1:06:00 AM
From Authorid: 48250
You Need to let Someone Know what is going on...Your Cousin Will Thank You, Later.....It is true this Situation will Only get Worse...Your Cousin is Hurting and Needs Help..., Please Tell Your Parents, His DAD or Mom, The Authorities, Child Protection Services, this man needs to be Incarcerated.... Please let us know how Your Cousin is....Best Wishes...Take/Care...  |
56297 Category:(General Advice) Created:(9/20/2003 4:03:00 PM)