What would you do? (relationship question) ~Samantha~   Author:  10614  Category:(Discussion) Created:(9/21/2003 11:13:00 PM) This post has been Viewed (672 times) I am going to be asking a couple of questions here, so bare with me. Scenario: You have been with this person for 2 and 1/2 yrs now. Less than four months after getting together with him, he starts seeing his ex. The affair continues for about 2 weeks before you find out. You chose to stay with him. NOthing more than just kissing and cuddling happens. Over the next yr, it happens again with the same girl twice more. Again, nothing more than kissing and cuddling, maybe a bit of fondling. In this entire time, you have been nothing but faithful to him. (even going to the point of breaking up with you for 3 days to decide who he wants to be with, who he really loves) Finally this affair comes to an end. About 6 months later (after the last incident) on New Year's you have a friend come over and drinks flow, you have to work the next day, so you try to get some sleep. When you roll over, trying to sleep, you see him making out with your friend. Situation dealt with, both parties concerned promise it to not happen again, she was lonely and drunk, he was just drunk. 2 days later, (to a lesser degree) it happens again, with you in the room, (wide awake this time)So you end your frindship with the girl. 9 months later, with a third girl, it happens again, but this time, "IT" almost happens. The only thing that prevents it is (umm) a physical malfunction (if you catch my drift). But the intent was there, even to the point of having protection there to keep little babies from happening. For the past 5 months he has not been working, you, as the woman in the house have been supporting him on a job deliverying pizzas. Sometimes (not often, but on occastion) having to work as much as 60 hours in a week to try to make ends meet. But before April, he was usually pretty steady with a job, supporting you for more than a yr when you were not working. Question #1: would you end it now, not that the 5th incident has happened? WOuld the employment factor into it at all? Scenario: Now, a bit of a twist. You have a beautiful 1 and a half yr old baby girl together. And, though not biologically his son, your son believes him to be, and he is the only father your son has know, your son is 3 and 1/2. Question #2: WOuld you still break up with him, now that the kids are a factor in this? Question #3: WOuld the fact that the act was not completed, even though it wasn't because of intention, but a physical malfunction make a differance? He meant to cheat, but he didn't because... How would it factor, in your opinion? Scenario: Now that your working to make ends meet, he is not. He isn't keeping the house clean to your specifications either. I am not talking about a neat freak, but dishes done daily, garbage taken out, things like that, even though, when he was working and you were not, due to depression, caused by past abuse (will go into it only in private and if asked) you didn't even want to get out of bed, let alone do ANYTHING. Question #4: If you stayed with him, what restrictions, requirements, ect would you lay down for you to stay with him, if any? It is now 2:10am EST on Monday, September 22nd, 2003. In about 72 hours, I will update everyone on what I did, how I dealt with everything, and the choices I still have to make. Before you jump to "throw him out", think long and hard about how you would deal with this is this was the only man you have truly loved, that truly treated you decent (in every other respect) in almost 28 years. (this includes parents too) ~Samantha~ You can join Unsolved Mysteries and post your own mysteries or interesting stories for the world to read and respond to Click here Scroll all the way down to read replies. Show all stories by   Author:  10614 ( Click here ) Spring is coming