Date: 9/22/2003 3:47:00 PM
From Authorid: 27046
The worst advice was never from an actual person but from books on raising and nurturing children and insisting the way that my parents did it was the wrong way and ended up doing it backwards. After hours of stop that, knock it off, listen to me, I would blow up with them and toss them into bed. Then after screaming my head off I would apologize for my behavior and allow them to dictate what they were doing wrong and how my actions were affecting them. One day like a slap in the face I got the best advice. "Look at the situation, she is in charge." Meaning my daughter because she is my outspoken one. She argues her case and I made a lot of mistakes in allowing her to do that. With her language delay, expressing herself with words was helping her speech. That's pretty difficult to just cut off and say nope, see ya, I said no, end of discussion when you have a kid that is trying to learn HOW to talk. Welp she is all caught up now and the rules are set, I still fall off the wagon every now and then and let them "get away with it one more time" but I have learned to stop it first time, every time and it has stopped an enormous amount of the repeat behaviors. Good Post!  |
Date: 9/22/2003 3:53:00 PM ( From Author )
From Authorid: 33925
Oh Az I know about this allllllllll too well..LOLOL..My oldest has run circles around me for years and I was too stupid to see it..LOL..I was always afraid of him being raised with social problems and such so I would give into him..BIG mistake. This is one time my Mother was right..LOL..she told me that I was raising a spoiled brat who was manipulating me, and she was right there..LOL..Its a hard cycle to break too since he is not a small child anymore..Man that boy is head strong!!  |
Date: 9/22/2003 3:57:00 PM
From Authorid: 16845
No kids, but someone once told me how I should be raising my dog...and boy was I mad! Here we are 9 years later, and we're doing fine! he's got me wrapped around his little leash....jumping at his every call...HA and I was told I was doing it wrong! ;) LMAO hehe  |
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Date: 9/22/2003 4:04:00 PM ( From Author )
From Authorid: 33925
LMAO!! So in other words Becky your dog has raised YOU!! |
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Date: 9/22/2003 4:05:00 PM
From Authorid: 16845
Yeah! pretty much!! See I think I'll do fine when I have kiddos! :p LMAO |
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Date: 9/22/2003 4:11:00 PM ( From Author )
From Authorid: 33925
LMAO!! Yep and be prepared to have one like my oldest son!! LOLOL |
Date: 9/22/2003 4:17:00 PM
From Authorid: 62222
LMAO..we call my nephew "The Boy" because he is the only one in our family. Well that and I stood up one day and shouted "No one ruins our family vacation except for me...and maybe the boy" ala Homer Simpson. (We were having a really bad time in Orlando and I was trying to lighten the pessimistic mood). Well a couple weeks ago we were in the grocery store and I asked my sister "Where is The Boy?" She said she sent him to go get milk. This chick near us sniffs and says "I hate it when people demean their kids". So I whip aroung and say"It is a family thing lady, you aren't in our family so butt the *insert naughty word here* out" She then left the produce isle...think I was too hard on her?<RegretfulHalo>  |
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Date: 9/22/2003 4:21:00 PM ( From Author )
From Authorid: 33925
LOLOL..nope RH I would have told her to bite me! I absolutely hate it when total strangers try to tell you how to raise your kids..been there, done that and dont freaking like it! LOLOL |
Date: 9/22/2003 4:32:00 PM
From Authorid: 59876
and that is not the first time we've gotten that over the spongebob thing either.  |
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Date: 9/22/2003 4:32:00 PM
From Authorid: 59876
hmmm.. i got this the other day. my husband and i were in target checking out the halloween stuff when we naturally migrated over to toys. i started cruising the aisles looking for spongebob stuff as that is my son's absolute favorite. he was a screamer and a vomiter, and one day while watching t.v. we happened across a channel that caught his interest and quieted dowm. it was spongebob squarepants on nick. kid was five and a half months old and lhbo at spongebob. he's been hooked ever since. well anyway, this lady was in the same aisle looking for blues clues stuff and all we were seeing was dora the explorer stuff. i made some comment about how much my son dislikes dora and she commented that her grandson loved that show. i then said my son loved spongebob squarepants and i got a look of disgust and a sorrowful headshake lol. too bad! like i could care! my husband and i were cracking up lol. i hate it when people do that though. |
Date: 9/22/2003 5:33:00 PM
From Authorid: 35160
dang,not 1 person has given me advice to help raise my kids. probably has something to do with the fact i dont have any yet,lol. ;) :P i am pretty sure if and when i do have kids someday i will be getting some advice. knowing my family the way i do ,lol. :) huggs shay  |
Date: 9/22/2003 5:49:00 PM
From Authorid: 28193
My daughter was a newborn..probably within a week or so of life, and my MIL was concerned whether or not she had gone to the bathroom..and MIL told me that we might have to give her an enema...brother!! ON A NEWBORN..That was probably the most bizarre...gotta love a MIL. I did not do what she said.LOL.  |
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Date: 9/22/2003 6:00:00 PM ( From Author )
From Authorid: 33925
LOLOL..Well Shay maybe this post will help to prepare you for that time! |
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Date: 9/22/2003 6:00:00 PM ( From Author )
From Authorid: 33925
LOLOLOL..Doh you know what?? My youngest son was obsessed with barbies when he was little and we had MANY disgusted stares in the malls, from family and even from McDonalds cashiers when he wanted a barbie toy instead of a truck or car..LOL..Who cares!! |
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Date: 9/22/2003 6:01:00 PM ( From Author )
From Authorid: 33925
LMAO!! Golden Taxi I think that was an instant cure for ALL moms years ago..they did it on a dime!! I used to have to laugh too when they would want you to put some whiskey on their gums for teething...yea, right!! |
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Date: 9/22/2003 6:20:00 PM
From Authorid: 28193
I've heard of the whiskey on the gums. I thought I read somewhere that people used to give small children cocaine, to make them sleep. It seems like it was around the late 1800's or so, when you could buy drugs like that at the mercantile store. It might have been another type of drug, but they did have potent cough syrup back then. |
Date: 9/22/2003 7:11:00 PM
From Authorid: 49037
I've only been a mom for about 3 weeks now, and I've gotten some advice, but mostly good advice that I was happy to get. But I remember when my little brother was a baby, one of my great aunts insisting that my parents should force him to use his right hand more, because it looked like he was favoring his left. She was so scared he'd become left handed! Like it was a curse of something! My parents of course ignored her. Lol.  |
Date: 9/23/2003 3:21:00 AM
From Authorid: 42945
actually hun, my mother was the one who gave me any advice that I asked for, and with raising 6 of her own, and doing such a good job of us LOL!! I accepted her advice with open arms, but I have heard of some real horror stories and as you said yourself, mostly from people who didnt have kids of their own, you know, the ones who know everything about everything...lol!!!hugs  |
Date: 9/23/2003 4:35:00 AM
From Authorid: 10245
I actually tried that whiskey on the gums thing once. One time only. She liked it too much and I envisioned her sneaking into the booze after I went to bed. My mother-in-law is good for the freaky advice... I can't think of any offhand, but she's made me roll my eyes on many occasions.  |
