Date: 9/22/2003 4:15:00 PM
From Authorid: 52141
Get help, she may hate you for awhile but its for the best. If not that then try to talk her out of it. Tell her its not the way out, it'll only bring pain and heartache to those around her. She needs to be strong and face the facts that life is not meant to be easy and death is never a good way to hide from life. Goodluck in the conquest, i wish you friend well :(  |
Date: 9/22/2003 4:23:00 PM
From Authorid: 33925
Studies have shown that most people that threaten suicide openly are usually NOT going to do so, they are reaching out as a cry for help. They do not WANT to kill themselves. Tell her that you are there for her. I would also suggest calling her parents and letting them know what is going on..She may hate you for it now, but she will appreciate it later I am sure.  |
Date: 9/22/2003 4:32:00 PM ( From Author )
From Authorid: 52363
thank you so much for the replies. it really means alot to me  |
Date: 9/22/2003 4:34:00 PM
From Authorid: 48858
The only thing you can do is be there for her. Make sure she knows that. Don't give her a reason to believe that no one truly cares about her. If you are constantly telling her and proving it to her, she can't talk herself into believing there is no one there to lean on. Other than that and the other decent suggestions here, you can only hope that she will work it out for herself. That is the only way it is ever truly resolved.  |
Date: 9/22/2003 8:22:00 PM
From Authorid: 34487
Well, I will admit that I too was suicidal at times in my life. I'm pretty sure I would've done it too if not for God. Anyway... I can empathize to how your friend feels. When you're suicidal, it's because you're very depressed, angered or deeply hurt, or a combonation of all of them. It's feelings superceeding reality. Reality is clouded and the future has no light. The only thing you can do is to tell someone. When a person admits to considering suicide, what they're really saying is, "Is anyone going to help me, since I can't help myself and I'm scared I'm going to kill myself?" They'll also make you swear not to tell anyone sometimes and beg you to just listen but do nothing. That's not what they want deep down though, they want someone to get them the help they can't get for themselves. They're stuck between a rock and a hard place because of they're emotions and don't see the door to get out. If you truly want to help her, tell a school counselor or nurse. Most people would say tell her parents first but I told my parents I wanted to kill myself and they didn't believe me and did nothing. Parents are often to scared or in disbelief to acknowledge reality. If a school official isn't a possibility, there a suicide crisis groups and 800# hotlines you can call for her. The very last resort, is to call the police... obviously, that's a drastic decision to make but sometimes necessary. You can try to get her to call the hotline herself with you next to her. I'd give her an ultimatum, that if she doesn't tell someone with your help, you'll do it for her alone. Be prepared, she'll either get mad, tell you she'll never forgive you, or start crying or she'll lie and say she isn't really going to do it. If she makes it easy and goes along with the idea of getting help, great.... that's ideal. Worst case scenario is, you do nothing but she does good on taking her life = never ending guilt for you and the loss of a good friend. Good luck and I hope it all goes well.  |
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Date: 9/23/2003 12:41:00 AM
From Authorid: 48858
Well, as long as she is talking about it, she wants help. Be careful, though, if it all seems to blow over and she acts suddenly opposite. Alot of times after people decide to commit suicide, they get a moments happiness because they have made up they're minds. |
Date: 9/23/2003 6:48:00 AM
From Authorid: 62146
Suicidaul people don't really see any thing ahead they think life is trapping them and death is the only way out. To stop suicidaul people there are different ways to stop them for one is to show them they wont be alone though their problems give them numbers and links to help lines and websites. Try and make them see what they will be missing out on if they kill themslves. Tell other people aswell you can't do this alone.
*Cosmic Freak*  |
Date: 9/25/2003 7:35:00 AM
From Authorid: 53054
Ok first of all if you are still at school (i dont know your age so) but if youa re at school you HAVE to tell a teacher or soemone that u knwo this other person will TRUST and DOES TRUST...maybe a fav. teacher or soemthing, other wise tell a responsible adult...even though the person may hate you for a while, it is THE BEST THING TO DO, and the sooner the BETTER! It may take them a while to reliese it, but if you do tell someone...its for the better of both you and the other person...U CANT DO THIS ALONE, AND U DONT NEED TO, just be there for her and TELL SOMEONE ELSE!!!!!! *hugz*  |
Date: 9/25/2003 12:25:00 PM
From Authorid: 62184
You have to tell someone! That is something serious and definately shouldn't be overlooked. She may be kidding and she may not be, but like i said, tell someone. If she hates you now, she'll appreciate you for it later. I was the same way your friend is a little while ago and my friend went to my school counselor and i was given help from there. It might also be that she wants someone to help her cuz she's bottled it up so long. I'm just speaking from how i was, and that doesn't necessarily mean she's the same way. ~Silent Existence~  |
Date: 9/25/2003 9:13:00 PM
From Authorid: 19625
http://unsolvedmysteries.com/usm357371.html <- Read that, then have her read it. Erin-  |
Date: 12/20/2005 3:31:00 PM
From Authorid: 23101
You need to tell someone about your friends plans, because you need to help her any way you can. Im sure you dont want to lose her, and you might have to deal with the guilt if she does commit suicide and you didnt do anything. Good luck! [[Okay so this was posted a long time ago, oh well. =p]]  |
