Date: 9/22/2003 4:28:00 PM
From Authorid: 52141
If he cares about you then don't you think he'd be willing to back off and make adjustments? Your not his other girlfriends your you. He should know and understand that or be willing to take it slow. You say he doesnt pressure but isn't asking repeatedly a bit of pressure? If you say no, then i would hope he'd have the initiative to know your not ready. anyways best of luck with your guy :)  |
Date: 9/22/2003 4:29:00 PM
From Authorid: 57079
well i would just sit him down and talk to him and just say - like you said to us - that you really care for him and dont want anything to happen that you might not want to and if this becomes too much of a problem then i dont know anything else to say cept for break up with him i know its not what you want to hear but if you dont want to regret anything later then it just might have to happen thats how you can tell if he really cares for you is if he respects your wishes. hope i helped just a little! Guitar Babe  |
Date: 9/22/2003 4:31:00 PM ( From Author )
From Authorid: 39139
Yeah, i understand what you're saying. i think sometimes i just feel bad because he's stuck with me who isn't like the girlfriends he's used to even though i know he does care about me. and then sometimes, it seems like that's all he's interested in. i guess i'm just confused right now, but thanx so much for replying.  |
Date: 9/22/2003 4:47:00 PM
From Authorid: 48858
Well, not to be a real downer, but if he doesn't get what he wants from you, he'll prolly go somewhere else. If playing it safe's not a priority for him, why do you think he would make it one on your account? I mean, you don't want to do anything too soon and you won't, even though he wants to. Well, it's the same way for him. Plus, you're young. I'm assuming he's young...there's lots of time for you to wait and lots of time for him not to. You should think about the relationship a little more before you fall deep for the guy....it may not work out for too much longer if he is wanting you to do things so early. Oh, and if you think you may go all the way...make sure you both get tested and all that other protection jazz. It's mandatory...or should be.  |
Date: 9/22/2003 6:34:00 PM
From Authorid: 53909
Tell him what you just told us here in USM. Sit down with him and let him know that it's making you uncomfortable when he does this and that you're not ready. Be honest with him and tell him how you feel. If he really cares about you, he should respect you and how you feel.  |
Date: 9/23/2003 11:50:00 AM
From Authorid: 38256
Now Beth i promise i'll be nice lol. You need to make sure he understands that no matter how much he asks for it you're not doing anything until you're ready and that that's not going to be any time soon. He's not a jerk for wanting it but he's sitting on the jerky fence for pushing you like this. Love ya!  |
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Date: 9/23/2003 1:20:00 PM ( From Author )
From Authorid: 39139
Lol, thanx for not being mean erica. thank you everyone for your comments. i want to let you all know that i talked to my bf today and he said, of his own accord (without me bringing it up) that he was gonna back off and wait till i was comfortable and ready. i'm glad thing worked out, thanx again everyone! |
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Date: 9/23/2003 1:55:00 PM
From Authorid: 62348
That's great that he undestands u... Girl let me tell you... I think that I lost mine when I was 19 that was a year ago... Believe me, you will know when the right person comes. that's if you know how to wait...MezmerEyes |
Date: 9/28/2003 9:14:00 AM
From Authorid: 34865
Hey Beth! sry i missed this post when it first came out but i was kinda busy this past week and never went on usm. i'm glad everything is working out for u two ..be safe lol ~Christine P.S. i'm here if u need to talk  |
