Date: 10/25/2003 12:54:00 PM
From Authorid: 35720
She sounds like she's starving for attention.  |
Date: 10/25/2003 1:12:00 PM
From Authorid: 52489
Your friend is reveling in her sexuality because she thinks she knows it all (a typical teen sentiment). Basically, she has "peaked" early--she's developed early and is acting out. People who do this calm down in a few years, and end up living very ordinary lives. For right now, though, just tell her that you like her as a person, but you don't like the way she behaves. Because of that, you think it's best that the two of you not be together. "Call me when you're willing to be civilized."  |
Date: 10/25/2003 5:45:00 PM
From Authorid: 29262
I think the reason she dresses like that is because she LOVES to be the center of attention. She doesn't want bad stuff happening for attention cuz she doesn't wanna be a loser. She better get straightened out because when you get into a higher grade and you dress and act like that then she could either get raped or they can go all against her and she'll have to switch schools. I know better because a friend acted the same way and got raped. Now she doesnt even wear her size clothes. She has baggy clothes on 24/7 I think that she needs to go to a counsler because shes still upset about it and doesnt know what to do.  |
Date: 10/25/2003 6:52:00 PM ( From Author )
From Authorid: 36757
thank you all for the advice. she ALWAYS tries to be the center of attention. my dad has pointed this out mannnny times. i don't get what she's trying to accomplish though. we used to walk around at night and she'd say "oh but the teachers said they go for the girls who wear baggy clothes becuase they're easier to get off" and i'm like "well they go for any girl if they want to" i don't want to say "call me when you mature" because she'll probably go kill herself. she wrote me in a note that she thinks i'm the only one who cares for her and she has tried killing herself but when i told her not to it changed her mind. she wanted a friend to know what it was like... not just from a second hand source... the whole "i'm depressed" thing i mean. her mom does not support her at all and her dad forgets her birthday. her brother is sex driven and her little 4 year old brother is a monster. her grandparents live way out in the boonies so they aren't always around. they support her though. without them, she would be absolutely no where. she was pretty much raised by them! i don't want to leave her hanging... it's just that i don't like the way she acts and she knows it... but she can't break the habbit if you know what i mean. thank you all for the advice though  |
Date: 10/26/2003 9:13:00 AM
From Authorid: 61931
well you might want to be cautious, and maybe tell her to get different clothes like ones that fit  |
Date: 10/27/2003 10:28:00 AM
From Authorid: 13897
oh i've had a friend like this.. i wasn't able to continue being her friend.. it was just way too difficult. but like what Arion said, tell her that you really don't like the way she behaves and it is making other people not want to talk to her, also. that's all i can say.. sorry i couldn't help more.  |
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Date: 10/27/2003 5:18:00 PM ( From Author )
From Authorid: 36757
thank you :) i don't think she'd be willing to give up her whole wardrobe... she just thinks it's flattering and so many people have told her it isn't... i don't know... she must not believe them or something. |
