Date: 10/25/2003 10:44:00 PM
From Authorid: 34487
Well I think that sometime people get on power trips in the work place. Unfortunately, they've earned some, probably underserved respect with the boss. You are newer and not quite as trusted yet. Some people will take advantage of that and don't mind their own business. The next time one of them makes a comment about your being sick from work...I'd say, "Well, that isn't really something I need discuss with you, that's between me and the boss." You're not being disrespectful, just standing up for yourself. I would also try your best to ignore their negativity. They're either jealous of you and your happy disposition in life, or very sad people in general. Keep doing a good job and realize that some people will stab you in the back if they get the chance. They do it to almost everyone since they aren't intelligent enough to find a more productive way of dealing with issues in life. Good luck.  |
Date: 10/26/2003 4:37:00 AM
From Authorid: 62085
Never let yourself feel that you shouldnt speak up for yourself, even if its out of respect for someone who is older, etc. However use discernment when voicing your opinion. The #1 reason for stress in the workplace is poorly trained management. Its not so much your co-workers, its your Boss who is the root of the unrest.  |
Date: 10/26/2003 4:40:00 AM
From Authorid: 30747
Maybe it is time for another job if you can't find a way to work it out with the other employess. Maybe they thimk you have a bad attitude. I'm sure you don't but something must have been misinterpreted. I do have to ask...why did you go to the boss and ask for help with the line when you could have gone right to the other employee and asked? Maybe she thought you were being some kind of narc or something. I hope you work it out.  |
Date: 10/26/2003 5:15:00 AM
From Authorid: 53054
Im with You Choose on this one...i believe that you should stick up for yourself, without being disrespectful or anything! umm maybe it is time to start LOOKING for a new job, but where ever you go you will be new first meaning that the people who have been there longer will have a much better knowldge of what goes on and how management works and might be more respected by the boss, and believe me they have a good say in what goes on! *hugz* best of luck!  |
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Date: 10/26/2003 7:28:00 AM
From Authorid: 62240
Do not let these people walk all over you. Stand up to them, you need to confront them and the manager and bring your feelings out in the open. its the only way to keep peeps from walking all over you, you dont have to be nasty about it. Just make it known to all concerned here that you wont stand for it. maybe these women should learn to respect you as much as you do them. |
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Date: 10/26/2003 7:31:00 AM
From Authorid: 62240
but whatever you do, do not leave that job without issues like this settled and brought out in the open. Learning to deal with these kinds situations confidently is the best way to keep them from happening again at another job. |
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Date: 10/26/2003 7:53:00 AM
From Authorid: 62410
When I started the job I have now almost three years ago, all of the girls in the office treated me as unwelcomely as they possibly could -- the old and the young alike. It's very difficult to get into the legal field in a smaller city, so when I got hired, no one there knew me from the legal community and rumors started circling that I was only hired for my looks. The first year and a half, nobody would talk to me, no one invited me to lunch -- I was thoroughly alienated. [If you've ever seen the movie Erin Brocovich how the girls in the office diss her - same thing]. I just didn't pay them any attention. Let them be as ugly as they want to be -- don't give them the satisfaction of tears or even a disconcerted look on your face. Be strong. Do your job to the best of your ability. Ask for help when you need it. When a stack of 10 customers in line and 5 in the drive through stacks up -- that's when you DO call for help. If none is forthcoming, call your boss and make him directly aware that customers are suffering (not that your co-workers aren't picking up the slack). The problem really lies with your boss for not being more in tune with his team and customers. But if you really need and like this job, you'll have to find a way to toughen up and not let these other girls get to you. Scall |
Date: 10/26/2003 8:03:00 AM
From Authorid: 15228
I think it is time for a new job. Doesnt sound like your boss is very good at managing his people. Just make sure you find one first, than give your two week notice.  |
Date: 10/26/2003 8:09:00 AM ( From Author )
From Authorid: 11097
Wow... thank you all, this is some very sound advice you've all given me! You Choose... thank you for your words of advice, alot of what you've said rings very true with the women I work with, and I think what hurt me the most is one of them I befriended and talked with alot, and it did feel like a stab in the back, but thank you and I will take your advice. Knightmare Rulez, Soul Drifter, Lil_Leppy, 62240, and Scall- thank you all for commenting and trying to help me, I really appreciate it ((hugs)) xox  |
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Date: 10/26/2003 8:11:00 AM ( From Author )
From Authorid: 11097
Perhaps if things don't get much better I will be doing just that, thank you Kelly :0) |
Date: 10/26/2003 8:12:00 AM
From Authorid: 44321
Sounds to me like they got the impression you are a pushover,and that they can ride you any way they want because you will not stand up for yourself and the boss will not do anything..repsect aside stand up for yourself do not allow yourself to be treated like this at work,or no matter where you go the situation will follow you....I understand you feel they are older than you and deserved repsect but where is their respect for you ? I am a fairly laid back person myself but I will not allow anyone to treat me wrongly and not stand up for myself ..Good Luck ! I would not let a few people make me so miserable that I needed to leave a job.  |
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Date: 10/26/2003 8:25:00 AM
From Authorid: 62357
Some of these older women may have issue with you, simply because you're young and pretty. I had to deal with an environment like that on my last job, and do think I overcame it all, because I did a great job, stuck to my principals...Learned to see the difference between their jeolousies, and my job performance, and always maintained my character, no matter how hard they tried to discredit me. You may hate this approach, but professionalism speaks for itself. Next time one of them starts finding fault, walk over and speak in a self-assured, quiet tone, and say " I understand that youre having a difficult time with me, but let's move past our differences, help each other, and get the job done right today." Believe me, I know you'd probably like to punch them out, truthfully, but do not go there. Let your ethics and a sense of FAIRNESS be what speaks for you. I worked at my job for eight years, hearing all kinds of rumors about myself, being judged critically among my peers, all who were older, and should have been wiser, but in the end, I was THEIR boss right before the facility closed, because my fairness showed, no matter what they said about me, or did to me. Some of these same women had applied for the position I had before I got it, but they were turned down because they were trouble makers, and had poor judge of character, and no doubt, would have treated the employee's they didnt like very badly. Stand your ground, but listen to what they gripe at you about, and try to compromise a better solution than bitterness, even though that is the NATURAL response. Good Luck, Darlene |
