My grandmother has been living with me, my fiance and my daughter for about a year and a half. She ended up retiring and getting on disability. She didnt want to be left alone in the house at anytime and asked me if I could find away to where I could take care of her and get payed because I wouldnt have been able to work outside the home and she didnt want a stranger coming in to take care of her. So, I agreed because none of the family was offering any help. So, I found a way. Months have gone by and her health was slowly but surely declining so it intitled more care. Between taking care of her and cleaning my house which is pretty hard because it is not a small house and take care of my daughter and do errands and try to do my schooling and such and such. But, I still did it. The house wasnt always tip top but i did what I could each day. Now, my sister is living here temporarily on behalf of grandma because she didnt want to see my sister and my 7 month old nephew out on the street so we agreed to let her stay to save money so she can get a place of her own. Well grandma took ill and had to go to the hospital and ended up in icu and the family went berzerk. they are all treating me like it is my fault and that I wasnt taking care of her right. grandma also came to me and said she wasnt sure if she weanted to come stay with us anymore because she just cant handle the kids anymore that come over. I usually end up babysitting because people assume I have nothing better to do and put a guilt trip on me if I dont. That is certain family members. Now mind you the only people that came to check up on grandma or offered me any help with her was my mother and my uncle Joe. Now, she has five others kids. Not one of them made an effort to come see her or offer any kind of assistance. And, these are the ones making a big stink. My uncle Joe offered to put her up at their new place whick she will have a bigger room and their kids are teenagers so. But, they want me to come sit with her for 4 to 5 hours a day and take care of her until they get home. Well, my problem with that is I have another job now that I can do at home on my computer and I really need the money. I'm getting married next year, my car is broke down and I cant afford to fix it right now. Plus, not to mention the holidays. So, it's almost impossible to do. Well, I was told by someone to get over it and that my grandmother needs help and that i should rearrange my life because no one else will. Plus, my granmother come home in 2 weeks and she wants me to kick my sister out if grandma decides after all to come back here. Well, i cant do that because she wont have the money to move by then she is helping me here for the time being because I dont get payed for grandma when she is in the hospital and such and such. So, anyways my mom told me I should say no and have them just get another home health aide to come in during the day and I can just go check up on her to make sure she isnt being mistreated. My mom also said : what are you going to do if your daughter gets sick drag her out down to there house? And, she is right. I dont have anyone who could babysit for me. Been that route before. So, what do you think about al this? I am so confused and my heart hurts and I'm stressed and I'm just lost. My family is driving me nuts. I'm so sorry this is so long but I had to tell the whole situation. I went and saw her this evening and she is not doing so good :(
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