Date: 2/11/2004 5:46:00 PM
From Authorid: 62100
My guy is the same way and we live together..and I know how beat he is, he works 5 days a week in housekeeping as a project person..meaning he is responsible for stripping and waxing the floors of the hospital and buffing them, as well as filling in for the regular housekeeping staff on their days off. Like I said, I know that he is exhausted but like you, I start having doubts and feeling like he's not into the relationship anymore..but I think that's normal for us girls. We are definitely (as a general rule) more needy of the time together than the guys..not that they don't enjoy it..just they are more simple, they are beat and they need rest. I mean, he could get upset with me cause lately when we get a day off together and pop in a movie..I fall asleep, why? I'm beat from going to school all week and then working all weekend every weekend (12 hour shifts mind you)..But, he has been great and a lot more understanding than I had been. I think you just gotta work out some time to spend together when he hasn't worked, and understand that he's exhausted and just let him know that you're there.  |
Date: 2/11/2004 6:03:00 PM
From Authorid: 30786
I understand what he is going through entirely. I used to go to school full time and have two part time jobs, and I was so beat all the time. My boyfriend would get really choked because I was always too tired to see him, or we'd go hang out and I'd pass out cold on his couch. It has nothing to do with you personally, it is purely a physical response to being overworked. All you can do is let him know how much you care, but that it won't work out if he can't devote any of his time to you. You need to see him to make it work. Maybe when his schedule clears up, you can rekindle your relationship  |
Date: 2/11/2004 6:49:00 PM
From Authorid: 8278
my husband would go through this every summer. he's a marine mechanic, so thats the really busy time. he would work 6 days a week, 12 hours a day. by the time he got home, he would go to sleep. i thought the same thing as you at first. but i eventually came to realize that he was just REALLY tired. hard work all day does that to them. just be understanding and eventually it will get better.  |
Date: 2/11/2004 9:06:00 PM
From Authorid: 12103
I think people are differnt..Or maybe not? I dont know, i think no matter how beat they are or whatever comes up they will find a way if they really care..If he really is just beat tired, look for signs that he does care...even the little things count :)  |
Date: 2/12/2004 12:05:00 PM
From Authorid: 52489
I too work long hours, six days a week. My wife and I would try to be together on the weekends, or do something fun and easy after I finished work--a game of cards, or watch a video together, etc. We would also make plans on what to do on my day off.  |
