Hi everybody, I'm feeling the need to vent about my mom's jerk of a boyfriend again. I've finally grown to hate him and believe me it's not unfounded. Even more he's starting to remind my of my father(not good), who shares some similarities. He's not an alcoholic like my father, but he has the same habit of trying to pick fights with me and of making me feel bad. I previously posted about some of my problems with him. Well, this is what's been happening lately. Last week he complained that because of the way I parked my car in the driveway, his van always ended up parked at an angle which made his car hard to start in the morning(Yeah, he actually said that). However, I think it would have more to do with the service engine soon light that has remained lit for the last 2 months. Last Sunday night after my mom and he went to bed he came out of the room and ordered, not asked me politely, to turn the tv down. I wasn't in the mood for any arguing so I turned it down and when he went back to his room I turned it back up. Strange how his idea of the right volume that the tv should be on at night changes from day to day. For example, the previous day when his son visited he kept that tv in his room, which is right across my mom and her boyfriend's room, on significantly louder than I ever do. Not a peep out of my mom's boyfriend. Anyway, after this most recent incident he's pretty much ignored me. I'm not giving him any satisfaction so I'm just pretending like I couldn't care less even though it really is ticking me off. If this were just an isolated event, I could let it go but this is a pattern with him that is beginning to feel like some sort of abuse. My mom is sympathetic but she is not the rock the boat type so I doubt I'll get any help from her; she too has also received the silent treatment from him. I don't care about his issues, and I certainly don't feel guilty for being a part of my mother's life. I think that's what it is, he wants to be the center of my mom's world and he is jealous of our relationship. I've been searching for behavior like this and it sounds like he is an "invalidator." So many of the descriptions fit him so well, such as the jealousy and pattern of being nice and turning into a jerk(Wish I could a stronger adjective here because he royally deserves a much harsher description).
I'm searching for a quick way to get out of this house. I couldn't do anything when my mom was with my dad because I was just a kid, but now that I'm an adult I refuse to be placed back into this type of situation where I feel like I have to walk on eggshells. I can't find any jobs in an office setting because apparently having a college degree doesn't qualify me to do anything. I'm looking into seasonal positions anywhere I can find them. I just wish I could get out of this house immediately but I don't have anywhere to go. Anyway, that is all. Thanks for listening.
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