Date: 2/26/2004 11:07:00 PM
From Authorid: 15675
Everytime I see someone say their in love or engaged or what not I shake my head silently and bite my lip (this isnt an attack at you or anyone on USM its just how I feel in real life too, even my mom and people I barely know!) I believe in love, but I believe most people don't know what it is, confusing it for lust and 'like'. Love exists but most people will never expierence it. I also believe if you fall out of love you were never in love to begin with, because true love isnt that fickle. Lol sorry I've had a lot of time to be bitter, I really hate Valentines Day and prom and all that crap and I just cant stand seeing this false love people speak of. Lol there's my two cents   |
Date: 2/26/2004 11:11:00 PM ( From Author )
From Authorid: 35720
I messaged you privately, Kaja.. some love never fades.. some wounds never heal.  |
Date: 2/26/2004 11:21:00 PM
From Authorid: 53052
maybe it's time to take a break from love... dont get into relationships and just rule out love for 6-8 months and just get to know you, i know it's hard with all this wedding announcements and it seems like everyone is either getting engaged or married or falling inlove... sometimes it's just nice to be single and be out on your own you graduate this year dont you?? look at this as an excuse not to hook up with anyone... that would just tie you down and make you rethink your schooling and such... and that's no fun.... get to know you and what you like about you... be an independant woman!  |
Date: 2/26/2004 11:23:00 PM
From Authorid: 25481
I am completely happy and wouldn't take back a moment of my time in the relationship I'm currently in. I believe in love and true love. I think people can experience love several times but true love is that person you're meant to be with until you die. I believe some people have had really bad experiences and choose to believe that some things don't exist such as love but you can't give up. It has to find you, you can't go seeking it.  |
Date: 2/26/2004 11:24:00 PM
From Authorid: 42945
well darlin!!! sorry this has happened to you, but its not always wise to get too involved with someone else especially after a previous relationship has ended, now I know that you already know that, but if you stop and think about it, you were obviously still in love with the first guy and thought you could get over it with the 2nd guy...it doesnt always work out that way hun...so if I was you, I would have a rest and get my head together away from guys for a while...there's someone special out there, just waiting for you to come along and hun, you will know it when it does...just dont try too hard to fill in the void that you are feeling at present....hugzzzzzzz sweetie....  |
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Date: 2/26/2004 11:26:00 PM ( From Author )
From Authorid: 35720
That's what I wanted to do after my last break up and then I met this kid. I wish I would just stop meeting people and people would stop being interested in me and I could just be alone for the rest of my pathetic existence.. sorry I'm very bitter right now. And yes I do graduate this year and am going to a university next year with scholarships and grants on an english major, which obviously means I'm smart and am doing something with my life.. what in God's name did I do wrong THIS time? Sigh.. you're right Midnightly, it's time for just some "me time". |
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Date: 2/26/2004 11:27:00 PM ( From Author )
From Authorid: 35720
Jess... I wouldn't take back a moment of my first relationship either.. it doesn't mean heartbreak is any less painful. You'll know it when it happens and let me tell you, it's bad. |
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Date: 2/26/2004 11:28:00 PM ( From Author )
From Authorid: 35720
Zema, you're right with that one.. and like you said, it really is just time for me to spend some away time for myself, family, and friends. |
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Date: 2/26/2004 11:30:00 PM ( From Author )
From Authorid: 35720
Author Only, I will be messaging you. |
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Date: 2/26/2004 11:39:00 PM ( From Author )
From Authorid: 35720
OK I messaged you AO. |
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Date: 2/27/2004 12:29:00 AM
From Authorid: 53052
you cant stop yourself from meeting people just tell yourself nothing romantic nothing romantic and dont look at anything romantic.. i think maybe you were deep down looking when you said you didnt want to look, i know it's hard us girls are sorta programmed to look for love, and it's expecially hard when everyone around here and around you is falling inlove and such |
Date: 2/27/2004 12:53:00 AM
From Authorid: 11348
you're absolutely not alone in your thinking, Rika! I'm right there with you. Ever since I had my heart broken just a little over a year ago, my walls have been up and they're made of brick now. I'm no longer vulnerable to anything. I always have my guard up so that I can't be hurt again. When someone you thought the world of betrays you, it's hard to get over. Anyway... I too am sick of love.  |
Date: 2/27/2004 5:31:00 AM
From Authorid: 32806
Aye, I got the same feeling about women after being cheated on by all of the ones I have been with, and just being generally treated like dirt etc. Took me a looong time to come to terms with and to NOT blanket ALL women as such. Remember that every single person is unique. Most men are out for themselves, just as most women are. That doesn't mean there are no decent examples of each sex out there. They are just rare.  |
Date: 2/27/2004 8:25:00 AM
From Authorid: 39258
Well, when my last boyfriend and I broke up, I didn't have another relationship for almost a year. Sure, I dated different guys and had fun, but that's all it was .. fun. I "re-built" myself and got back to who I was because sometimes in a relationship, you might change yourself because you're around a certain person 24/7. In that year of being relationship free, I did all the stuff I wanted to do. I took care of some things I needed to take care of. I thought about what I wanted to do and where I saw myself in five years. I got to know myself and what I wanted again. Then, about 7 months ago, I started dating my current boyfriend. I'm very happy and we are taking it slow. Maybe it's because we are a little older, but we don't deal with the "little things" that go on in high school. Maybe when you graduate and go to college, you will meet someone there who is more mature and ready for a relationship with someone he cares about. Things are a lot different in college, trust me lol Don't ever be too hard on yourself. Don't say you want to be alone forever or anything like that because if you start to believe it, it will start to happen and you won't let anyone in. Just be open and happy. Learn from the mistakes in your past relationships and go from there.  |
Date: 2/27/2004 8:52:00 AM
From Authorid: 46527
Take time out, recover and find yourself again, then and only then will be the time to start anew. Hugggs, it's a horrible time for you right now.  |
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Date: 2/27/2004 9:02:00 AM ( Chatmin-FA )
Arika.. I'm so sorry. I wish I knew what else to say for you right now.. you don't deserve to be hurt like this, AGAIN. *hugs* |
Date: 2/27/2004 9:31:00 AM
From Authorid: 1799
it takes time.. but, remember.. you don't need a guy to be happy.. just live for yourself... be with just yourself for a bit.. and then someone good will show up when the time is right.  |
Date: 2/27/2004 9:34:00 AM
From Authorid: 13283
Geeze ! I understand your point completely . I wish guys would stop all the pretending and the leading on . Gals have feelings and some guys just dont care what the results of their actions may be . You cannot take a young guy too seriously . They are immature and aloof . They just want to play games . Down the line , you will eventually find Mr Right . Razzy aka  |
Date: 2/27/2004 10:31:00 AM
From Authorid: 16845
aw Rika I'm sorry hun....Take a break from the relationship scene for a while...I promise not all guys are like that.  |
Date: 2/27/2004 10:53:00 AM
From Authorid: 2030
Well there are many who would say, We told you so. But my only input is that you are a young girl with a whole lot of life ahead of you, and the best move you can make is to concentrate on You. Take care of yourself and good things Will come your way.  |
Date: 2/27/2004 11:15:00 AM
From Authorid: 50864
Rika you do not want to be alone, believe me that is pure torture. Just take a bit of time to heal.Have some fun Go out one or two times with a guy and move one I am not say be a tramp far from it. Just go out and get to know many many people and in a while you might be ready for a more serious releationship  |
Date: 2/27/2004 1:42:00 PM
From Authorid: 57579
Like my grandma says: "Men are just incomplete females." Or what Lucy says "Men are skunks." of course this isnt ALL of them just most   |
Date: 2/27/2004 5:50:00 PM
From Authorid: 6860
I'm so sorry Rika, I know what you're going through. Some days I'm convinced that all guys are jackasses. If you ever need to talk, you know where to find me.  |
Date: 2/27/2004 9:30:00 PM
From Authorid: 47805
yeah, I think I'm just going to become a nun..  |
Date: 2/29/2004 11:36:00 AM
From Authorid: 26049
I completely understand. I think I made a post "sorta" like this a lil while back. I wish I could help you out, but I'm kinda on the same boat.  Much love *hugs*  |
Date: 3/2/2004 8:00:00 PM
From Authorid: 43214
Oi, I agree. Love seems so fake these days. Its hard to even want to try to find it any more. I know how ya feel **big huggs**  |
Date: 4/11/2004 2:38:00 PM
From Authorid: 52866
Well Kizzle I've talked to you about it before. But really...boys lie. Lol. They think they can play us girls, so we just have to live it up, let them think they're playing us, then turn around and win the game by dumping them when we're sick of them! I'm teaching myself to see right through boys lies and that cr ap they put us through. You will find someone worthy of your time and emotions, and you will be happy. Love ya always! *HUGS*  |
Date: 5/4/2004 10:40:00 AM
From Authorid: 22275
i feel ya sis i feel ya  |
Date: 5/4/2004 12:22:00 PM
From Authorid: 20579
Well I am totally sick of love and all that crap that comes wit it. I'm not a tottally attractive guy but I feel that people need to wise up. I mean I do anything for any friends I have and the crazy part is I'M A GUY and I still get craped on by every g/f I have ever had so I just live my life cold and yeah its lonely at times but I don't get hurt anymore so I guess it works.  |
