Date: 3/22/2004 9:48:00 AM
From Authorid: 23796
First things first...even though I know you care about their feelings, you do have to worry about number ONE here and that is you. Don't be thinking about what is best for them...ask what is best for yourself. It seems selfish, I know, but you can't please everyone & it's worthless to try pleasing everyone & end up miserable. Just step back objectively and think...what would be best for me...new roommates..etc. You need something SOLID to go on...not What if's and maybes.  |
Date: 3/22/2004 10:02:00 AM
From Authorid: 62456
If there is any way you can affort-Live Alone...IsisKat  |
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Date: 3/22/2004 10:03:00 AM
From Authorid: 62456
oops, I mean "afford it"...IsisKat |
Date: 3/22/2004 10:04:00 AM ( From Author )
From Authorid: 27705
no sadly unless i move off campus i am not capable of living alone...and the only singles on campus are for medical reasons only..im not sure what to do  |
Date: 3/22/2004 10:58:00 AM
From Authorid: 47218
A word of warning: best friends don't always make the best roommates. If you haven't lived with this girl before, I think you'd better think veeeery carefully about how compatible the two of you are going to be, living in a small space, before you commit to living to her. I've seen many a good friendship ruined by becoming roommates. Potential points o conflict: cleanliness habits (big, big BIG thing), personal habits, such as how late you like to stay up, how loud you like in the room, how often you have people over, etc., tolerance for the other person and their personality (seems like you're already familiar with much of this)I gotta tell ya, I already foresee a conflict between you and your friend-- it seems that she wants to lay groundrules that don't suit your needs. Honestly, I don't think its particularly reasonable for her to set rules for when your friends or boyfriend can call you-- I mean, unless she means that she doesn't want calls coming in late at night when she's asleep, it's really none of her business. She sounds like a control freak to me and, unless your the kind of person who can just let things roll off of you, things are not going to turn out well for the two of you. The saying goes: "the evil you know is better than the evil you don't know." i.e. you're probably better sticking with your current roommate since you know that the two of get on well enough.  |
Date: 3/22/2004 12:03:00 PM
From Authorid: 52489
Your "best friend" sounds like a control freak - setting rules and the like. Controllers make poor roommates, trust me on that! Plus the fact that she's not even sure she'd live there makes me suspicious of her motives. Sounds like Den and you have worked things out pretty well. Stick with what you know, and don't change things.  |
Date: 3/22/2004 1:26:00 PM
From Authorid: 62367
I made the mistake of rooming with my best friend from high school when we went away to university. It nearly destroyed the friendship and took years to get the friendship back on track. If you have doubts, don't do it. My friend was similar to yours, she needed a set schedule for both of us. I could not keep to a schedule for everything 7 days a week. Later, I roomed with a couple of friends, one is still my best friend some 25 years later.  |
Date: 3/22/2004 5:08:00 PM
From Authorid: 20956
who do you really want to live with? while it may sound like a good idea to live with your best friend, you guys may end up fighting and wrecking your friendship. and it does sound like you and your current room mate have a good arrangement sorted out. BUT if you do want to live with your bf and you think you guys would work well together, then tell her you need her to make a decision NOW .... why is she leaving you wondering and waiting? you have a decision to make to. good luck :)  |
