Date: 4/4/2004 8:46:00 PM
From Authorid: 57232
YOU without a doubt in my mind are RIGHT! How cruel. Your fiance did something really crappy in my book, it was really rude and disrespectful  |
Date: 4/4/2004 8:50:00 PM ( From Author )
From Authorid: 49739
Thanks B Monkey for your comment. I told him that I didn't think it was right for what happened, but he disagrees with me. All he was thinking about was helping a friend and nothing else, and that I shlould get over it because I have nothing to be mad about.  |
Date: 4/4/2004 8:50:00 PM
From Authorid: 53836
nope...but I'm a crazy *explicative* too when it comes to things like that...and the first time he tried to tell me I shouldn't be mad, I woulda let'm have it :p He needs a few nights on the couch...and to have his key taken away! JMHO!  |
Date: 4/4/2004 8:52:00 PM
From Authorid: 20750
I think you have evry right to be upset! Grrr I'd never give him the car again! No way!  |
Date: 4/4/2004 8:53:00 PM
From Authorid: 16845
Oh nope, I'd be fuming as well...  |
Date: 4/4/2004 8:54:00 PM
From Authorid: 36956
First I have to say that to leave you without a car whether your children were gone for the weekend or not was just wrong! The fact that he lacked the respect to call you so you knew he was ok is another thing! That is just wrong anyway you look at it! I dont blame you one bit for being so upset. I think I would have been very angry if my boyfriend did that. Yet, I know he would never do that.  |
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Date: 4/4/2004 8:59:00 PM ( From Author )
From Authorid: 49739
Thanks SpaceCase. I told him that when he got home the both of us need to sit down and have a talk. I don't know if we need to take a little break from each other. I can't tell him to sleep on the couch, because we're sleeping in the living room right now. Our home only has 2 bedrooms in it and our son and daughter have the 2 bedrooms. He would have to spent a couple of nights at his parents house or a friends house. |
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Date: 4/4/2004 9:03:00 PM ( From Author )
From Authorid: 49739
I just got off the phone with him. He's about 1 1/2 hours away from home. He's now playing the guilt trip thing on me. He's trying to make me feel guilty for getting mad at him and for a comment i said to him Friday night, that when he got home that he needed to get all of his things out of our home. |
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Date: 4/4/2004 9:17:00 PM ( From Author )
From Authorid: 49739
Another thing I'm upset about is that fact that he didn't ask me if I wanted to go along with him. The subject didn't come up. His little brother, who's 14, went with him. It would've been a way for us to spend some time together |
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Date: 4/4/2004 9:22:00 PM ( From Author )
From Authorid: 49739
To make our problems worse, when he got to MA to pick up his friend, who's car broke down, had rented a truck and a trailor to haul his car back here to Indiana. So basically the trip my fiance made this weekend was a wasted trip. Mark went all the way there for nothing. That's another reason why I'm really mad at him. |
Date: 4/4/2004 10:40:00 PM
From Authorid: 53909
You have every right to be upset. I would be extremely upset if my fiance did that to me. I worry constantly about my fiance. Sometimes I get upset when he doesn't call me from his work to let me know that he's going to be late. An 18 hour trip is a LONG time! He should of asked you first if it was okay and he should respect to call you so u know that he was okay and all. I don't blame you at all for being upset.  |
Date: 4/4/2004 10:52:00 PM
From Authorid: 51587
yes i would have been mad also. Dont blame you for bein mad. he should have asked you to go and called you when he got there and everything and called when he was gonna be late. cant stand when ppl like that. *huggs*  |
Date: 4/4/2004 11:17:00 PM
From Authorid: 53427
I would have been beyond mad. That was your car! That was some nerve to take your car cross country without even asking permission. Would your insurance have even covered with him driving if there had been an accident? And the fact that he just assumes he can run off like that.. Grr.. I don't know why this made me mad. Maybe because it reminds me of some of the stunts my hubby has pulled in the past lol.  |
Date: 4/4/2004 11:43:00 PM
From Authorid: 42568
Sounds like a typical guy. One of the most important things in a relationship is communication! I can't see a boyfriend of mine doing that to me... he'd know he would be dead if he did. :)  |
Date: 4/5/2004 12:09:00 AM
From Authorid: 20956
you have a right to be POed ... especially seeing as he didnt even call you. i get worried about stuff like that and i am a stickler for calling. i think you need to sit him down and explain to him everything you just told us. make him see it from your point of view  |
Date: 4/5/2004 12:35:00 AM
From Authorid: 52746
You perhaps should give him the "put yourself in my shoes" scenario. If he can't see how badly he's affected you then, then this is indicative of the problems you're likely to face with him. Everytime you're, quite rightly, mad with him about something, he's going to come back with the retort that you shouldn't be mad at him. I hope you can both sort this out. Good luck, Sam.  |
Date: 4/5/2004 4:02:00 AM
From Authorid: 54968
No, I would be mad too.  |
Date: 4/5/2004 4:52:00 AM
From Authorid: 24003
You sound like me, Id be all over him for that crap. It would P me of really bad.  |
Date: 4/5/2004 5:58:00 AM
From Authorid: 6731
You have every reason to be upset. In fact if it were me I'd have packed his stuff and had it waiting for him on the lawn when he got back. But I probably wouldn't have let him have the car to begin with lol.  |
Date: 4/5/2004 11:15:00 AM
From Authorid: 57830
you've got every right to be mad! i think all the other comments say it all.  |
Date: 4/5/2004 11:31:00 AM
From Authorid: 28989
I'm a guy, and I know that this is kind of a typical guy thing, which doesn't make it right. A lot of guys don't like to communicate, and they also don't like to answer to others, even their girlfriends or spouses--so they'll make decisions independent of what it might mean to others. It's a way of being in control and feeling self-important. Guys even do it to each other, and it ain't right, because it's thoughtless and hurtful and even demeaning to others. You're not overreacting. How you feel is how you feel, and it's best for him to understand that. You did the right thing by telling him. I agree with Sam Spade about putting him in your shoes. Empathy is a hard concept for a lot of guys. If you did the same thing to him, just decided to leave for 18 hours and not call him, he would be fuming, I guarantee it. Take care!  |
Date: 4/5/2004 11:57:00 AM
From Authorid: 32133
i would be pretty ticked off........(p.s. im from massachusetts)  |
Date: 4/5/2004 12:25:00 PM
From Authorid: 13119
If you let him get away with it and accept the guilt trip he is trying to put on you he will continue to do dumb stuff like this all the time. I agree that he should have asked you to go with him and should have asked even if it was okay to use your vehicle. You now have a problem getting your kids back, what if there was an accident or something and you had no way of getting to your children?  |
Date: 4/6/2004 3:23:00 PM
From Authorid: 48250
I think he should have called you and consulted you first about this trip to pick up the friend...and it is a long way there...Considering it is your vehicle...and You have to think what if there had been problems with your children???...Your fiance' evidently didn't think about this before he made a decision to use your only transportation...I would discuss how you feel with him...let him know how you feel about it and the fact he didn't discuss his plans with you and especially the fact there could have been another situation that may have came up and you would have needed your vehicle...Best Wishes To You.....T/C......  |
