Date: 4/5/2004 11:45:00 PM
From Authorid: 13546
I can really relate to this!! I always put others ahead of me, and lost myself along the way, which was not good at all.. slowly but surely I am rebuilding myself... I can say NO, and not feel guilty.. great post gramma! *hugs* Love you!  |
Date: 4/5/2004 11:46:00 PM
From Authorid: 20956
good article zema ... i too have trouble saying No, i think its just because i genuinally like to help people, though it can become a bit of a handful at times! :)  |
Date: 4/6/2004 12:03:00 AM
From Authorid: 48250
This is a Nice Article... Sis....I think we all have trouble at times saying no to those we love and want to help....but sometimes saying no is good....and it certainly doesn't mean we love our loved ones and friends any less....Thanks for posting....T/C.....  |
Date: 4/6/2004 12:44:00 AM
From Authorid: 57079
I'm kinda like that. I can say no but sometimes feel bad when I do. So thats me a little. Nice post!  |
Date: 4/6/2004 1:30:00 AM
From Authorid: 15400
Yep, sounds like me. It's still hard to say no once in awhile. Depending on what's going on.  |
Date: 4/6/2004 3:52:00 AM
From Authorid: 54968
Interesting article :) My mom is like this.  |
Date: 4/6/2004 5:42:00 AM
From Authorid: 21435
For many years, I never said no. These days, however, I take a lot longer to answer when folks ask something of me. A good mule is more likely to break down after a lifetime of carrying the load. Good read, my sister. Thanks for sharing with us, Zema...:)  |
Date: 4/6/2004 5:48:00 AM
From Authorid: 8278
i read the title and thought "this is SO me!!" lol YES!! i am this type of person. it got so bad that people would just stop asking me to do things like babysit etc. and just expect it. i have tried to say no once in a while...but it is still hard for me. but i do not want to get to the point where people take advantage again.  |
Date: 4/6/2004 6:56:00 AM
From Authorid: 3648
I was once this type of person myself...I all ways thought I needed to help in any way I could...even if it meant going way out of my way to help. I came to realize I could not do it all even though admitting I was only human and not supergirl hurt...Nowadays I help where I can and have learned it's ok to say no....I think you get more respect when you actually say no at times cause it shows you're reasonable within your means...if that makes sense lol...  |
Date: 4/6/2004 7:32:00 AM
From Authorid: 19869
yes yes yes yes yes yes yes yes yes yes yes yes i cant say nnn.... i cant say nnnnn.... i cant say nnnn.... yes!!  |
Date: 4/6/2004 8:06:00 AM
From Authorid: 11097
This is very true for me most of the time... I like to help others too but then it comes to the point when they begin to use my kindness to their advantage :( very interesting post and I have been trying to only do what I can, thanks for sharing Zema! ((hugs)) :)  |
Date: 4/6/2004 8:18:00 AM
From Authorid: 42515
I like to help people out but I'm not afraid to say no.  |
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Date: 4/6/2004 8:25:00 AM
From Authorid: 21435
That was a good one, Eddy :):) |
Date: 4/6/2004 11:42:00 AM
From Authorid: 19460
that is so me! i think i have to be everyone's super hero, everyone's savior! i get tired of saying YES, but i always do. I got brave the other day and told my friend i wouldnt babysit (she has 4 kids and I have 3 of my own!). I was sick and I didnt feel like contending with 7 kids all night, so I just told her no. It felt good. I had a fun night and the next day was even better LOL  |
Date: 4/6/2004 1:18:00 PM
From Authorid: 48812
no....i went through a....phase, i suppose, for lack of a better word, when i was a little kid (yes, to make everyone like me, or something), but then i realized: "Wow, all this is a load of crap." So i only say yes when it benefits everyone around me....including me. No reason in trying to gain popularity and mutilate yourself in some way or another, right?  |
Date: 4/6/2004 2:57:00 PM
From Authorid: 57830
i have trouble saying no, but it has nothing to do with being liked or not. i could care less if people like me.  |
Date: 4/6/2004 3:22:00 PM
From Authorid: 58809
I say "No" more than I say yes. Muahahahaha...no.  |
Date: 4/6/2004 7:17:00 PM ( From Author )
From Authorid: 42945
thanks to each and everyone of you for taking the time to read and comment here, for me it was not a matter of "being liked more" I just liked to help people, but when it comes to the stage of it being taken advantage of I gradually learnt to say "NO" more often, must admit I felt bad about it at first but then it became easier and I soon found out who my true friends were...thanks again and hugs to you all....  |
Date: 4/7/2004 3:20:00 PM
From Authorid: 61966
Thats a very interesting article Aunt Zema! I tend to say 'yes' to everyone, it's really hard for me to say no sometimes but I've been working on it. Thank you for sharing this with us all. :)  |
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Date: 4/7/2004 11:50:00 PM ( From Author )
From Authorid: 42945
thanks Crystal for your words here hun, glad you found it interesting....hugs |
