Date: 5/16/2004 9:23:00 AM
From Authorid: 23075
You know we had to let my step daughter leave...she was just to disruptive of our family home and life....it was hard...but it was a taste of toughlove....mind you when she went..all the problems stopped immediately....if she wants to talk she knows where we live..she no longer has our phone number....and she is no longer allowed to live with us.....so I don't know what to tell you..just wanted to let you know that we had sort of the same problem and let her go and everything went back to normal  |
Date: 5/16/2004 9:27:00 AM ( From Author )
From Authorid: 49311
thanks PB just want thing to go back to the way it was thanks again hope everything goes good for you  |
Date: 5/16/2004 10:45:00 AM
From Authorid: 62588
I used to be a problem child for my mom. I never had a baby, but other then that if you name it, I've done it. My mom faught me for me. When I started going away, my mom let me. There was too much controversy when I was there. I moved out, officially when I was 15 and stayed with friends or family. It was my responcibility to hold down a job and pay my share of the rent. You should know that I love my mom, unconditionally. The moments when hard feelings crop back up are few and far between. I see my mom at least once a week, and we're proud of each other. GOD puts a feeling between a parent and a child that's love. I honestly believe that no matter what happens that feeling is there, even if it is covered up by other, not so nice feelings. Just remember to always come back to that feeling. If you're worried about how your daughter is going to accept this, make sure that you tell her you love her. Everytime you pass in the hall or talk on the phone, say those words untill she gets tired of them. So that she will always know.  |
Date: 5/16/2004 10:48:00 AM
From Authorid: 33925
You are not wrong at all to feel the way you feel. They are YOUR feelings and you are entitled to them hon. You have been through alot in the past year with your Daughter. Thank goodness she is doing something to straighten herself out and her baby will be in good hands. I think its wonderful that you are taking on the responsiblity of your Grandbaby. She is a lucky little girl. Of course you love her, and of course you have mixed feelings about all that has happened, but you have proven what a wonderful man you are by adopting that baby. *hugs* to you and Midnight Momma both.  |
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Date: 5/16/2004 10:53:00 AM
From Authorid: 62445
Nope you're not wrong for feeling that way you're human;it doesn't mean you don't love her you just need a break from drama. She probably couldn't wait to go to Job Corp to try to find herself.When she comes back home things should be alot better.Her going to Job Corp she seems she's trying to do something postive ,and she probably knows deep down inside you guys need a break.~Charmlit |
Date: 5/16/2004 11:04:00 AM
From Authorid: 43186
If it helps at all, you can feel positive about her going to Job Corp. My daughter did and there is nothing wrong with free education :) Maybe the separation between all of you will be just what she needs. They have a zero tolerance policy at job corp. and she will get some discipline and as far as lessening the drama in your life, don't feel bad about that. We are all just human and need it. Hugs,  |
Date: 5/16/2004 3:22:00 PM
From Authorid: 49091
My brother was traken tio Juvi in October and you know who called the cops to take him? My dad...My dad felt that he needed to get out of this house and get some serious help. And after he left, he didnt feel an ounce of regret. He didnt want him around and he knew that if he had a warrent out for him, he needed to get some help and get locked up for a little while. As soon as he started to talk about sucide and such my dad asked for my cell fone, drove to the park, called an officer and had them come get him. And my dad knew he shouldn't feel like he was (glad he was gone), but he said he rather feel that then to lose his oldest son to drugs/sucide. I dont think that you should feel wrong for feeling the way you do. I think its natural for a parent to feel like this. I wish u guys the best of luck!! *huggs*  |
Date: 5/16/2004 3:24:00 PM
From Authorid: 30747
It's okay for you to feel that way. You deserve peace in your life so don't feel bad. Maybe this is what your daughter needs to straighten up. It's all for the best for all around. Sit back, relax and breath. It'll be alright.  |
Date: 5/16/2004 11:02:00 PM
From Authorid: 42945
No MD, you shouldnt feel that it is wrong to think that way, my goodness I read your other posts and you all have been through so much because of your girl...now this might be just the time for her to start growing up in the real world and appreciate what you and MM have done for her...of course you love her she is your flesh and blood, but, we all have choices in life and now is her time to decide what she is wanting for herself and let you and MM live yours...I'm also glad that she gave you custody of the baby...I wish you and MM many years of happiness with your little family....hugs hun  |
Date: 5/16/2004 11:28:00 PM
From Authorid: 12581
My husband works at a job corps as the night staff, makes sure the kids stay in their beds & stay outta trouble. I met him there, I was a student (no we didn't start a relationship until I was out of Job Corps) There, I got my GED & took welding :) It really was one of the best things that happened to me, gave me a chance to get everything straight in my head & I grew up TONS while there. I think that going to a Job Corps would be a good thing for your daughter. About the parents hating, both my biological parents think I'm the Anti-Christ, which I find quite funny because at least concerning my mother, one of her other daughters is pretty evil. :p You shouldn't feel bad about how you feel at all. It seems she's been causing alot of stress in your life, you need a break :) *HUGS* Things will get better :) Take Care!  |
Date: 5/17/2004 10:32:00 AM
From Authorid: 58611
Oh man how could you not feel this way after everything you guys have been through! Dont feel bad about it, I think its normal at this point. I think the best thing has happened for all involved really. I wish you and Midnight Momma all the best, and I hope that your daughter can find herself and her purpose eventually. That is something she has to do on her own and in her own time. I think it is wonderful that you guys are taking over custody of the baby, at least it will have the love and care it needs now. HUGS to you both and I hope you feel better soon!  |
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Date: 5/17/2004 10:39:00 AM
From Authorid: 58611
Oh man how could you not feel this way after everything you guys have been through! Dont feel bad about it, I think its normal at this point. I think the best thing has happened for all involved really. I wish you and Midnight Momma all the best, and I hope that your daughter can find herself and her purpose eventually. That is something she has to do on her own and in her own time. I think it is wonderful that you guys are taking over custody of the baby, at least it will have the love and care it needs now. HUGS to you both and I hope you feel better soon! |
Date: 5/21/2004 11:00:00 AM
From Authorid: 4144
you're not wrong to feel this way. some people just can't live together and that's the way it is. it doesn't make you a bad person or parent. i'm happy for you and midnight momma that you get the baby. i think the baby is better off with you two. i wish my neice would give her mother custody of her baby. things would be better for her too. good luck!  |
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Date: 5/22/2004 4:19:00 PM ( From Author )
From Authorid: 49311
thank you all for your comments I will take them to heart and see what happens thanks again |
