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Date: 7/29/2004 1:51:00 AM
From Authorid: 38751
place yourself in your mums position. I always do that when this sorta thing happens to me , now dont get me wrong , i believe with all my heart you have just as much chance as anyone else to stay together - Parents are just so cautious with their children. I dont have much advice other than just realize what you want and GO GET IT GIRL!! *huge hugs*  |
Date: 7/29/2004 1:57:00 AM ( From Author )
From Authorid: 49091
*huggs* Thanx DWAH....Im trying to :-) Really really hard :-p :-p And when I do, I dont know if im going to be able to act civil around my parents and friends who said it'd never happen :-p Cause even the impossible can happen if u set your mind to it.  |
Date: 7/29/2004 1:58:00 AM
From Authorid: 28190
I dont think its an issue of them not supporting you, than just watching out for you. Don't get me wrong, I dont know you well and I dont know him at all, so this is merely just advice. I take it you met him on the internet?.. BE very careful about meeting people from the internet, cause sometimes they don't end up what you thought they were (sorry, watched a show on CourtTv tonight about internet predators)... It's always good to be midfule about that though. Other than that, young love is possible, but more times then not, the relationships dont last because the maturity it takes for one to last just hasnt had time to form, in either party. If you feel like he is the love of your life, then who am I to tell you different. I feel that your friend/s and mother are just being over-protective of you, but you cant blame them, it just shows that they Care enough to look out for you. :) Dont sweat it. *hugs*  |
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Date: 7/29/2004 2:00:00 AM
From Authorid: 28190
that should have been *Mindful... not midfule.. lmao :) |
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Date: 7/29/2004 2:08:00 AM ( From Author )
From Authorid: 49091
*huggs* thanx Amanda, yes, we met over the net and we've done some perticular things with eachother to show that we arent just someone we're not. Like webcam, we write letters to eachother, voice chat. And I know, its only to look out for me, and I really really appreciate it, cause I HAD to know that he wasnt like that before I fell for him. Cause I didnt want to fall for one of those internet things that u mentioned. *huggs* thanx |
Date: 7/29/2004 3:24:00 AM
From Authorid: 40530
Okay, you need to show your parents you're being responsible about this and the best way to do it is not to act like you're totally in love with him. Parents think that teens who act like they're madly in love are idiots, and I know it's dumb but it's not. Act like you just really, really like him. Secondly, tell your mom that you understand her concern, but you do want to try and make this work and think you can. Tell her that you are trying to do things your own way, but remind her that you appreciate the fact she is worried about you. And your friend...she too is looking out for you, but just talk to her and tell her how her comment hurt you. And lastly, keep going no matter how hard others make it  |
Date: 7/29/2004 4:25:00 AM
From Authorid: 30229
Of course it is Love is possible among teens.. in fact, it is probably the most passionate love out there... you guys FEEL with ALL your hearts. It is amazing. The internet, though, is another story. You dont say how far apart yall live from one another, but if this lasts, and as he grows older, he WILL find you, he WILL come to you. As far as teens making it, yall stand just as good a chance as anyone in this world, just be very careful.... Good luck and if you ever need to talk, just PM me... :)  |
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Date: 7/29/2004 4:28:00 AM
From Authorid: 30229
Oh, and as far as your Mom not supporting you, it is just that they LOVE you, and she wants the best for you, and she is afraid for you. All us Mom's are that way. Heck, I still am and all my kids are grown. Also want to add that my son met his WIFE on the internet. She was in Canada and he was in Alabama. They have been married nearly 3 years (see my past posts) and were together just visiting each other for 3 years also. They live here in Alabama and are very happy.. .. I adore her :) |
Date: 7/29/2004 6:36:00 AM
From Authorid: 62766
hey im 18 now but when I was 14 I met this guy and we went out for 2 1/2 years on and off. I really loved him and cared for him. whether he felt the same way. who knows. But I finally broke off with him for good about 1 1/2 ago and has never talked to him since. its better that way anyway. hes just a stranger now. anyway my point is I believe in teenagers falling inlove. We love our parents dont we. We love our best friends dont we. But my mom and I always have conversations about it and I strongly agree with her. I was young and though she does not doupt for one second that I didnt love josh, but she says when I do meet the man Im going to marry that the love will be different, and I believe her completly being alittle older now I dont know if that was really love Im very confused. I think it was a form of habbit that I didnt want him NOT to be my boyfriend. I think I was so afraid of loosing him forever because we couldnt be friends that I made myself stay with him even when he did me wrong. Im not saying that your not inlove. But maybe you should just sit down with yourself and think. I dont know how old you are but there is alot out there NOT saying in men wise but there are alot of things out there. and you do have to think. What if it doesnt work work out. I would tell this guy that whenever he does decide to get down there that yous can be together but Me personaly I wouldnt get my hopes up to high. and I know alot of people are telling you dont let yourself get too attached with this guy but its true. guys tend to makes promises they can not keep ( and its not just the guys ) I would keep it as a friendship and maybe later when yous are older when yous can get around with cars and find your own ways of seeing each other then I would start something Im not saying yous are too young to love. But i can understand your parents and his I wouldnt drive my kid out somewhere far just so they could be with someone. Im sorry to say but I would make them wait untill they had a car and could get there selves down there. You cant be mad at the parents though. Did you meet this guy on the net ?  |
Date: 7/29/2004 7:30:00 AM
From Authorid: 4144
speaking as a mom i understand where your mom is coming from. speaking as a "teenager that married her high school sweetheart", if you think he's the one and you want to wait for him that's your business. when you say you haven't officially met yet. does that mean an internet romance? i'm not saying there's anything wrong with that. i'll just say be careful. very careful. there's a lot of bad people out there. i'm not saying either of you are bad. i'm just saying they are out there and you have to take care of yourself first. i have known three people that have divorced and then run off to meet their internet love and it didn't work out for any of them. i know everybody is different and i only know three womem that have done this. but all three are now divorced, broke and living in crappy apartments. one even lost custody of her kids. SO, BE CAREFUL TEENAGER!!  |
Date: 7/29/2004 7:54:00 AM
From Authorid: 62728
I agree with what some others have said and don't think it's that they don't support you as much as it is that they are concerned for you. I do feel teenagers can fall in love, but I also know from my own experience that first loves don't always tend to work. They are usually learning experiences that help set the stage for the rest of our lives. I don't think that it means the love is any less real or deep, but it comes at an early stage in our lives when many of us haven't really even become who we fully are yet. That's not to say that it can't last or won't work because Moma Bug is clearly an example of that being a wonderful thing. But, more often than not they are wonderful experiences with people who influence our lives greatly, but they are just one stage on the journey down the road of love that we all travel in life. Just my thoughts. I wish you the best of luck with it and hope it all works out for your best interests. -DeltaRebel  |
Date: 7/29/2004 8:09:00 AM
From Authorid: 61013
I agree with Crystal Peak too.  |
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Date: 7/29/2004 8:09:00 AM
From Authorid: 61013
Sarah I'm supporting you two dont give up y'all will meet and get married. If your feeling how you are then your probably in love. If I were you I wouldn't have told my parents I was dating him cause my parents yet to know bout Luke I'm waiting till we meet so then they cant say anything but i'll probably tell them in a couple days lol but I am 100% behind you. ~*~hugs~*~ Love,Keri |
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Date: 7/29/2004 8:11:00 AM
From Authorid: 62728
oh yeah....one thing I meant to add..and this isn't meant as a discouragement, but merely a heads up from my experience as well. Always remember that if someone will do something to someone else, they will do it to you. If your new beau met you on the internet and was talking to you for more than a year while he was dating someone else, then asked you out when he ended the other one..be wary that he might well do the same thing to you. That could be one of the red flags that has your parents and friend concerned. You don't know who all he is talking to while talking to you and what he is saying to them as well. So go into things with your eyes and ears open. -DeltaRebel |
Date: 7/29/2004 8:33:00 AM
From Authorid: 62401
i can see your moms point of view, but i also see yours. i got married the day after i turned 18.. to the man i am positive i will spend the rest of my life with. he and i just knew. if you believe so adamantly that you are going to be with each other and no one can change it, then wait it out. the longer you guys are together, the more your parents and his will take you serious. but from your mothers point of view, she just wants to protect you. i feel the same way about my daughter. although she is only 17 months old i still want to protect her from everything i can... i dont want to see her hurt and heartbroken as i am sure your mom doesnt. hope i helped a little :) -Lindsay  |
Date: 7/29/2004 10:01:00 AM
From Authorid: 22308
i'm sure she believes you to some extent. when i was dating this guy that i fell madly in love with at 16, she said you don't love him you don't know what love is and i said yes i do and eventually after all the fighting and discussing, she finally realized that we both did love eachother. i think the main thing is your mom doesn't want to see you hurt but parents can't always prevent that. being hurt in a relationship is going to happen sooner or later and when it does, you'll learn from it. the one thing about internet relationships though is that mostly they end in heartbreak.i've been in a few when i was 15 and 16 and the only one that worked for me was when i met a guy from where i actually lived. he only lived 45 minutes away. the other 2 that i had, were disasters. so just be careful and i'm sure your mom will come around soon. its just going to have to sink in to her that you're growing up and you're dealing with a relationship now! best of luck! :)  |
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Date: 7/29/2004 3:12:00 PM ( From Author )
From Authorid: 49091
Thanx soooooooooooo much everyone!! *huggs* As far as first loves comes, this isnt my first love, exactly like you all said, your first love wiull crash n burn basically and you got it right, it did. I dont like to think of it as "love" tho cause I was abused a whole lot in that relationship....and im not saying just emotionally either. Also physically n mentally. I THOUGHT I was in love, but it was a huge mistake from the beginning. I know people are only looking out for me, but they dont know how I feel. No words CAN explain how I feel for him, so I dont know how people can think they know :-( Its frustrating and confusing...I really dont know what to say. I lost my train of thought...LMAO!! Thanx so much everyone!!! *huggs* |
Date: 7/30/2004 1:53:00 AM
From Authorid: 11348
Stick it out! When I was 14, I met a guy over the internet who lived halfway across the country. We talked every single night for hours, talked on the phone, made videos for each other, wrote each other letters, sent presents..... we did this for FOUR years before we finally got to be together. I wouldn't have even got to meet him (both our parents said no way) if my family wasn't already taking a vacation that would make us drive right through the town he lived in, and what luck, it just happened to be the night of his senior prom. I think that was some sort of weird fate thing.... So I went with him and I got to spend one day with him. Finally, when he was 18 he just left and came to see me. His parents were mad, but if they had their way he would never have seen me again because I was too far away. A few months later, I moved down to where he lived. Now we're almost 21, and we are still together. Don't let anyone tell you teenagers can't fall in love, don't let them discourage you. No one supported my relationship either, but they all support us now! Everyone was under the impression that you couldn't meet anyone good over the internet... they were all criminals and rapists. We proved everyone wrong. If you really feel this strongly about him, don't let them discourage you.  |
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Date: 7/30/2004 7:51:00 PM ( From Author )
From Authorid: 49091
Awwwww CONGRATS!!! Thanxies sweetie...he turns 17 in Feb and thats just one year closer to 18 and he said when he's 18 he's gonna move here and wants me to move in with him :-p It just seems like FOREVER till we are old enough :-( *huggs* Thanx soooooooooooooo much!! and congrats to you and your bf! *huggs*>> |
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