I was just wondering how 2 people who are very shy over come it and start feeling secure about showing eachother affcetion more often...I posted in the general advice section too....I thought maybe some of you here could give me your POV incase you don't happen to make it to the other section. I need all the help I can get. *Here's the original post:
Ok, if a guy is shy about being affectionate or being the first to hold you hand, all the lovie-dovie things...what's the best way to reassure him that he won't look stupid or whatever for doing it?
My guy has some emotional scars, he isn't the best at showing affection. He does of course when I show it first. He seems to really love it.
Why he keeps the wall up even still, I have no idea why.
It's hard for me to show affection, I have issues from the past as well, so I do know a bit about how he is feeling. I do hold back alot too, for 2 reasons, 1) I react to him the way he does me sometimes, just too shy (maybe shy isn't the right word, but something is going on) to kiss him first or reach for his hand. 2) I am afraid to put myself totally out there.
We do love eachother, and we are intimate (we express ourselves very well then; ironically, the chemistry from that is perfect)...we do the lovie -dovie things, but it always takes us a while to work up to it. I am tired of being apprehensive about giving my guy a hello hug or kiss. I am sure he feels the same way.
How do we work on this, that would be comfortable to us both, should I just go for it when I want to. I mean, will it be too much for him, or ease him into being affectionate as well?
I hope this makes sense! lol THANKS!
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