Date: 8/5/2004 10:35:00 PM
From Authorid: 22308
i think everyone deserves respect. if you give respect to someone, you should receive it back.  |
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Date: 8/5/2004 10:51:00 PM
From Authorid: 62808
I agree with you hun. I am 17 and just because 2 months will go by and I will be 18 doesn't mean I am going to MAGICALLY mature in those short days... I think it depends on the person. How mature you act and if you DESERVE respect. My mom understands that an as long as I act responsibe and respect her, she respects me right back and gives me adult privilages and talks to me like an adult. Because I do understand like an adult can. 2 months doesn't change that. So who is to say a couple years does, right? Just be respectful and mature around your parents and I am sure you will get the respect you want. xoxox ~*Mandy*~ |
Date: 8/5/2004 10:54:00 PM ( From Author )
From Authorid: 59241
I do see it as an adult, but when I try to protest about something that I don't think is very right going on in our family, my mother tells me I'm only a child and I do not understand.. when the fact that she doesn't see is that I DO understand and I do not agree.. therefore I will protest.  |
Date: 8/5/2004 11:07:00 PM
From Authorid: 55386
My mom says that ALL the time. She usually says it as "I don't have to answer to you. Parents don't have to answer their children, but their children have to answer to them" And she was all....freaking on me, saying I was implying that us 'children' don't know what we want, that we can't control our own lives and so on. I treat people with as much respect as they treat me. My fave motto is "Treat people the way you want to be treated" So, if my mom disrespects me, I disrespect her, pretty much....I think we as children should be respected, we are the youth, we control the world when we are older, and we have to make our choices. Not being respected as a child can pretty much mess your chances of being confident enough to do so, or just too rebellious....^.^  |
Date: 8/6/2004 12:12:00 AM
From Authorid: 26452
I never get that from my mom, we normally agree on things, I think alot of time when parents say that, normally,is because the kid is being rude to them. I don't think respect has anything to do with age, no matter what age you are, respect needs to be earned. But just because someone hasn't earned respect, doesn't mean you should be rude to them.  |
Date: 8/6/2004 12:35:00 AM
From Authorid: 57640
Oh my gosh.Are you sure we're not twins seperated at birth? I totally agree.  |
Date: 8/6/2004 12:36:00 AM
From Authorid: 3648
First off I don't think age has anything to do with gaining the respect of others. Respect is earned not given freely in my opinion. If you treat others with respect you will earn their respect.  |
Date: 8/6/2004 12:52:00 AM
From Authorid: 42945
Respect is something that is earned...no matter what age....hugs  |
Date: 8/6/2004 1:11:00 AM
From Authorid: 59418
I've heard that speech so many times and it drives me up the wall.....If they don't respect me i will not respect them lol :)  |
Date: 8/6/2004 1:20:00 AM
From Authorid: 37900
What do you mean when you suggest your mother should "respect you"?  |
Date: 8/6/2004 2:43:00 AM
From Authorid: 38751
the only time you dont deserve respect with when you dont give it  |
Date: 8/6/2004 3:51:00 AM
From Authorid: 35720
I'm 18 so basically I do what I want without the threat of being "grounded".  |
Date: 8/6/2004 4:29:00 AM
From Authorid: 23796
LOL......alrighty, I'm going to be going against the grain here, but oh well, this is me :) I know Exactly what you are talking about, just as I know exactly what your mother is talking about. Just how exactly is she Disrespecting you? By not hearing you out? By not letting you have things that other people have? By not letting you go out with your friends? You first need to explain the "HOW's" here to get a clearer picture. Second, yes, you do know alot of things...but so does your mother...it's called living life. There is still an innocence in you that has yet to discover alot of what the future will bring..your mother,however, has lived longer on this earth and has had more time to experience these things. It has nothing to do with maturity, it has to do with life experience. That, in itself, deserves respect and I think that is what your mother is refering to. Respect for her thoughts, her judgments, and her feelings...because she is KNOWLEDGABLE about the HOW's and the WHY's of the world. It doesn't really matter if your life is Totally different that what her's was at her age...the basics are still there and are always the same no matter what age you are. There is something that goes along with respect that many parents don't think about that is actually wrapped up in that, and that is HONOR. I, personally, belive in Respect and Honor to one's elders. Unless she is subjecting you to Years of Abuse (physical, emotional, mental..etc) I suggest you hear her out. You are NOT an adult yet and you do NOT have enough life experiences to truly combat with her about the do's and Do nots. You are intitled to your opinions and dreams...but do not EVER think you above your parents. I speak to you as someone who know's exactly what you are talking about because I deeply remember my Adolescents and I talk to you as a Mother. There will come a time when you will say "if I only knew then what I know now" but you will not truly understand that saying until you've lived more of your life into adulthood. So if your life is unfair, or you percieve it to be, I suggest you keep a journal, bite your tongue, and Give respect to your parents until you live enough of a life to truly see things for what it is. If at that time, you still feel Outed about things..take it up with them. I know that sounds outright cruel, but it is better than making your adolescent life a living hell, combating your parents all the time and having your life MORE restricted because they are angry with you. You'll have plenty of time later, when you leave the nest, to spread your wings and fly. This is just My Opinion and I honestly mean no ill will by it. ~*~Peace & Love~*~  |
Date: 8/6/2004 4:34:00 AM
From Authorid: 58308
Respect hasn't an age. If you give it, you should get it. I have these discussions with my teenage son all of the time. He tells me that I don't respect him, well, he hasn't earned it. If you are a good kid and don't disrespect your parents in any way, I'm sure they respect you, I would. *smiles*  |
Date: 8/6/2004 5:16:00 AM
From Authorid: 4144
i think everyone should give back the respect that they recieve. i have always heard i have to respect my elders. what if my elders don't respect me? i think it should be a 2 way street and i don't care if you are 6, 16 or 60. (i am 40) as far as rules go......your parents make the rules and it doesn't last forever! then one day you get to make all these stupid rules that you said you would never do to your kids!!! it's a cruel cycle that keeps going!!  |
Date: 8/6/2004 6:13:00 AM
From Authorid: 46527
Your mother gave you life and looks after you, what more do you need?  |
Date: 8/6/2004 7:44:00 AM
From Authorid: 25756
I agree EXACTLY with Lady shaman. Oh...and I'm only 17. I don't doubt that my parents have gone through MUCH more than I have in their lives, and even though I have plenty of times when I doubt their judgement and know or THINK I know that they're wrong...I might speak up about it, but for th most part I bite my tongure. In a year or 2 I'll be out of this house and on my own and only after I've gone out there and actually lived my life, THEN I'll have the right to challenge my parents about most things.  |
Date: 8/6/2004 8:07:00 AM
From Authorid: 52155
and your mother knows quite a bit more than you think she does...  |
Date: 8/6/2004 9:19:00 AM
From Authorid: 62728
I don't think you are too young to deserve respect. I do also know (from my own experiences at least) that no matter how much we think we know at 16, our parents have had much more life experience to draw on than we do. That doesn't mean we don't know a lot more than they think we do, because more often than not we do know more than they think. It's a delicate balance and I say just trust and respect that they have your best interests at heart. -DeltaRebel  |
Date: 8/6/2004 10:10:00 AM
From Authorid: 47296
One can gain respect by showing responsibility. How much responsibility have you shown, aroundthe home, in school, and for your actions? Your mother has shown her repsonsibility by having raised you thus far, and providing for your needs. One should always respect their parents, especially as long as they live in their parent's home. If there is something happening in the home that you do not agree with, then there are ways to address it in a resposible manner. If your mother says that you are too young to understand, then ask her POLITELY to explain it. If it is because she will not let you do things that other kids do, then she has a reason for it, and that is her decision to make. Parents have tough decisions to make today regarding their children. Too many parents do not know what their kids are doing every day, who they are hanging out with, and where they are going. A lot of those parents do not care. If your mother is concerned enough to make rules for you to follow, then you should respecr her position. Remember, she is your mother, and the only one you will ever have. Some day you will be in her shoes, then maybe you will better understand the way things were.  |
Date: 8/6/2004 10:12:00 AM
From Authorid: 25828
respect must be earned, in any case. even with children to adults, respect is not a 'given'..many parents don't deserve it. many kids that dont' get it, do.  |
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Date: 8/6/2004 10:13:00 AM
From Authorid: 25828
but as someone mentioned, we should treat everyone with respect - however, treating them that way and actually respecting them are too different things. by 'treating' with respect, you're basically saying 'don't be rude'. and everyone does deserve that, unless they're rude first 8-) |
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Date: 8/6/2004 11:31:00 AM
From Authorid: 35720
I hate when people think they've been through so much at 16 or 17.. no.. you haven't.. majority of those people haven't even experience love or heartbreak yet.. trust me.. your parents DO know more than you think.. they've been around way longer. |
Date: 8/6/2004 9:20:00 PM
From Authorid: 38256
I used to think like that and sometimes, when i'm in an especially bad mood, i'll admit that i still do. I'm 17 (18 in september! yay!) and it's unbelieveable how much i've learned and changed in a few short years. The best way to get your mom to respect you and believe that you have learned something about the way the world works is to treat her with as much respect as possible. Hopefully if she sees you behaving as maturely as you say you are she'll eventually trust you more, it's just so hard for them to let go of us! lol. Anyway, everyone just be respectful of everyone else and we'll all be happy!  |
Date: 8/7/2004 4:02:00 PM
From Authorid: 55967
I think there are different kinds of respect. Yes, you should definitely get all the respect you deserve as a kid, like your interests, privacy, questions, and just plain who you are. But it is true that you lack the experience to get the same level of respect that another adult will get from your parents. Until you are out in the world and get more of the world under your belt, you don't deserve that kind of respect.  |
Date: 8/8/2004 10:33:00 AM
From Authorid: 62787
i guess it depends..if you are responsible, they might loosen up..if they dont give respect because of age, thats rude. i dont care if any one was 17 or even 70..you always should get respect and give some back.- Blade of the Samurai  |
Date: 8/9/2004 1:16:00 PM
From Authorid: 57225
everyone deserves respect, no matter the age  |
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Date: 8/10/2004 9:10:00 AM
From Authorid: 62509
I think everyone deserves respect in some form but every young kid thinks they are all knowing and wise and that they dont recieve enough respect. The fact is that in 10 years teenagers will look back and realize that they knew absolutly nothing ~ aronnov |
Date: 8/11/2004 6:56:00 AM
From Authorid: 61013
my policy is give me respect and I'll give you respect.  |
Date: 8/13/2004 5:17:00 AM
From Authorid: 22080
children are percieved as naive many times but if you should respect your parents and im pretty sure they respect you unless they beat you or something  |
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Date: 8/13/2004 9:50:00 AM
From Authorid: 52155
many times children are niave... |
Date: 8/13/2004 10:06:00 AM
From Authorid: 29262
I am 15 and I have heard that speech only once LMAO. I think that older people don't give us credit for how much we really know. I just think that we should show them respect and they should respect us. Even though they do need to respect us sometimes we cross the line and they have to do whatever they have to do ya know? I guess parents think they are trying to mold us to be people they want us to be but it NEVER turns out that way. They'll just have to learn this. My mom and I have this relationship. She wants me to be me. Not someone she wants me to be. That's why I heard the talk once. Just try to get it through to them your you and you want to stay that way.  |
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Date: 8/14/2004 6:53:00 AM
From Authorid: 22080
eddo im just curious, with recent events, do you think mary kay latourneau(sp?)'s 13 year old lover didnt know what he was doing? i mean at 13 im sure you werent just thinking about GI Joes or something |
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Date: 8/14/2004 6:54:00 AM
From Authorid: 22080
and for julie, our parents dont necessarily want us to turn out like they want us to, they probably want us to be individuals but obviously they will be biased to their morals and beliefs |
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Date: 8/14/2004 9:15:00 AM
From Authorid: 29262
I know a lot of parents that do want their kids to be like them. Actually half of my friends have parents like that. If It sounded like I said ALL parents I am sorry I didn't mean it that way. |
Date: 8/15/2004 4:32:00 PM
From Authorid: 51070
Just because someone happens to be under 18 doesn't mean they don't respect. Seriously, how can you expect someone to respect you if you don't respect them?  |
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Date: 8/15/2004 7:28:00 PM
From Authorid: 61013
see I agree with Julie and Creepy freak that's what i was trying to say... My teacher chewed me out for not respecting a sub. teacher when that same sub. didn't respect any of our students in the classroom. How am I suppose to respect someone that doesn't respect me? |
Date: 9/3/2004 2:05:00 PM
From Authorid: 62512
Well I'm diffrent from most people my ages but because I'm young i'm automaitcally upto something bad - damaged goods  |
