Date: 8/6/2004 3:54:00 AM
From Authorid: 30229
Oh yeah... my ex was in the military and I had to learn change the hard way. Your security there in Colorado can and probably will take place in Texas as soon as you go through your adjustment period. I dont understand why your b/f cant get residency in Colorado if he has been there a year living with you. Most states only require 6 months.... Anyway, dont worry, things should be very weird at first, but before you know it, you will find yourself liking it more and more... after all, you will be with the one you love, and you will be building a foundation for your future... Good Luck to the both of you! And keep us posted.. :)  |
Date: 8/6/2004 3:55:00 AM
From Authorid: 40530
I moved up to the middle of England when I was 7, previously I'd lived in Wales. I'd made friends, I knew everywhere around me, I was getting great marks in school, everything was brilliant. Then we moved. I was so afraid...I didn't know the area around me, people used to tease me because my accent was different, I got bullied and didn't have any friends. I just got through it because I knew that it would get better soon. I focused on how things would be when I made friends, when people stopped teasing me...and it all worked. It was hard, but I got through it. I'm thinking that's what you need to do...focus on how great it'll be. Have you spoken to your boyfriend about how scared you are? He might be feeling scared too, but hides it. If I were you I'd go for it and take the risk. Your dad can always help you if you get into trouble. But it's really up to you, if you're too scared, then don't go  |
Date: 8/6/2004 4:07:00 AM
From Authorid: 23796
If there is one thing I've learned about life so far, it's about taking chances. Life is about taking them. Comfortable is good, but being comfortable all the time also means taking away the chance of Extreme wins, success', and Love. Yes, there is a chance for loss...but even in loss there is a benifit, it's the benifit of knowledge. Jut keep in mind, no matter what, nothing is the end of the world, tomorrow is another day, and things will change giving you different opprotunities. It may or may not work out for your boyfried...but, it's better than spending the rest of your life saying "What if"
~*~Peace & Love~*~  |
Date: 8/6/2004 4:13:00 AM
From Authorid: 58308
Absolutely. I think most everybody goes through fear of change at some point or another. I was born here in the South but raised in West Texas, Andrews, Texas (Midland/Odessa area) to be exact. We traveled a lot growing up, different schools, new friends... I'm not sure where you're going to be, but I'm sure you will do just fine there. You'll find a nice place and then you can go back home during vacations and see all of your family and friends. You'll be even more happier then what you are now. We'll all be bragging on how well you and your man are doing and how nice of a place you both have. You go girl!! An education is one of the most important things you will ever do and Texas is a good place to be. My cousin is a doctor over there in Lubbock now and doing really good. I have faith in ya, you can do it! *smiles*  |
Date: 8/6/2004 5:07:00 AM ( From Author )
From Authorid: 11348
Zeebs, I lived in Lubbock for a year. I wasn't too crazy about it! lol. I also grew up in Missouri. I've moved around a lot, I've just never been so content to stay in one place before. I'm trying to think positive about it all. And Gail, My boyfriend applied to three universities here and got accepted, but all three said he could not be considered a resident. I don't know why either.... it confused me because I thought surely he would be by now. He called and talked to someone at one of the schools and they told him maybe next semester, but he'd have to appeal it and that could take 6 months.... Ohhhh well. He has his heart set on Texas again. We are going to Austin. Thank you all for your kind words. I appreciate it. :)  |
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Date: 8/6/2004 5:51:00 AM
From Authorid: 62838
It must be really stressful for you right now. I hope whatever does happen for you is the best thing. I have some understanding of how you feel because I recently moved to the USA from Australia to be with my husband, who is American. I felt very happy in Australia and I was with my family, and it was the biggest change of my life to leave my home country. I felt very scared knowing I would never live there again and I felt sadness too. But I did it for my husband and I would certainly do it again. The USA is a truly wonderful country, and even though I still feel anxious sometimes because things are really different and I miss my family more than I can describe, I am happy here. I do feel sadness at the thought of one day having children whom, being so far away from my family, may not be able to share the same closeness with their grandparents and relatives that I shared with my own. But I will find a way somehow!! :) You mentioned you want to make the move to Texas for your boyfriend, and I understand that feeling well. Try to have as much confidence in yourself as you can, and know that even though it may be difficult for a short while at first, you can make it work. As afraid as you may be feeling, you are probably a lot stronger than you realise you are. When you finish college together you will be very happy knowing that you've accomplished your dreams together. Follow what your heart tells you because it is almost always right. - Kokoro |
Date: 8/6/2004 6:03:00 AM
From Authorid: 46527
Fear is a normal thing that keeps us safe, but it is important not to let it rule every decision. Apprehension about a move is normal, I'm sure you'll be fine.....huggsss  |
Date: 8/6/2004 8:32:00 AM
From Authorid: 31255
If you are happy where you are and you don't think your options in Texas look as good except for the fact that you both can go to school there, maybe you should think about other options. He can get residency once he lives in Colorado for a certain period of time. Maybe for now you can go to school and he can work. Or maybe you can both just hold off a little longer until he can gain residency. I think it only takes a year to get residency.  |
Date: 8/6/2004 9:37:00 AM
From Authorid: 24856
Yes....and what you are experiencing is normal. Change and the unknown is always frightening!  |
Date: 8/6/2004 1:42:00 PM
From Authorid: 56063
U are brave u must love your boyfriend because i lived in texas for exactly one month i counted days and hours i was supposed to stay there but there is no way El paso was not the place to be i did not like it I'm not sure what part of texas u are going too but hope you can adjust to it good luck  |
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Date: 8/7/2004 12:08:00 AM ( From Author )
From Authorid: 11348
Thanks everyone. I am feeling better about moving. I do love my boyfriend, and it is very important to him that we move. I am doing it for him.... my future husband and my life. If it's what he needs to do, I'm going to be there for him the whole way. We'll work through it. Luckily, I did some more searching and found a much much better apartment, one where I won't have to worry about my pretty car being vandalized and we can feel safe. I appreciate all of your comments. |
